Trust once broken is hard to get back to its original shape. Trust is the most significant element of any relationship. Whether it is your partner, friend, business affairs, social media, etc., trust is necessary in any case. Without trust, you feel insecure and doubt your relationship with your partner.
Every relationship has its happy moments and the complicated ones as well. Situations can be sort out through discussions but telling lies or cheating on your partner is a very serious issue. In such scenarios forgiving and getting back things to normal takes time and a lot of efforts. To get fruitful results of your efforts, try out the following practices to grow back a strong bond.
Admit and face it
Firstly accept the fact that you are losing trust in your partner. Sit and ponder over the issues in detail and then set your mind about having serious problems between you two and how these problems can be resolved. If you keep no denying your inner fears of mistrust, then you are never going to get over with it, and it will end up in ruining your relationship.
Let go of your past
Many couples face trust issue, not because of the present situations but due to certain happenings in their past and thus when they enter into any relationship, they are already surrounded with insecurities and mistrusts. Some had some bad experiences during their childhood times; some might be betrayed and lost trust because of any other relationship. So while evaluating the current situation, first question yourself that does your partner has given you the reason to mistrust him? Does he lie to you? Is he not fulfilling his promises and responsibilities? If your answer to every question is ‘no,' then the source of mistrust is coming from the past which needs to get a stop now.
Talk about it
Communication is the success key to every relationship. It sorts out all the issues and clears your mind. Whatever the problem is, sit and discuss. You do not always have to agree with the opinion or the idea of the other but listening to each other is important. Communication clears out the ways of trust. If your partner is coming late at nights, you have the right to query about it and ask him who is he going to be with and at what time he will be coming back? This is helpful in settling down your inner fears and stops misunderstandings to occur.
Forgive and forget
If anytime in the past your partner has lied or cheated on you, but you have forgiven him for his apology, and everything was cleared then no need to bring up that issue again n again. Learn to let go of it. If you stick to it even after being explained, cleared and forgiving then, you are making the situation and your love life miserable for yourself. Do not highlight the past and move on with your relationship.
Creating Plan of Action
Communicating helps you win half of the battle, the rest can be achieved through planning a course of action, for instance, having access to each other’s phones, mail accounts, and social media pages. Moreover, if you cannot reach home on time, text your partner that you will be late, before giving your partner the room of speculations.
Trust is something that cannot be built or rebuild overnight. Proper discussions, clarifications, and efforts are required. Plan of action must be addressed to overcome the feelings of mistrust as early as possible.