Let’s make one thing very clear; this isn’t a trick statement. If you have a high sense of self-esteem and self-confidence, no doubt, you’ll do a lot better picking up women. But, what if your personality lacks that essential element? Does this mean that you’ve no chance of dating a woman? Does this say that you're destined to be alone? Well, it doesn’t have to be like that. In fact, you can still play it as you have it all time, and can even score a relationship.
So, how can you pick up women without confidence? Here’s what you do:
1. Try But Don’t Try Too Hard
Over the years after talking with a lot of well-known dating experts, we have reached a conclusion that while looking for a woman, you never want to get caught trying too hard. So what does this imply? Well, this means that you’re giving too much of your way and yourself for fishing for her interest and grappling for her compliments. The thing is that the ladies like a challenge just as much as you do.
The key here is to make yourself the type of challenge she thinks she wants. So, if you can make it happen like the way she wants, you’ll be worthy of her. By revealing all of your cards partially, she probably will give you a chance to be her significant other.
2. Maintain Eye Contact
If you’re a keen observer, you can tell a lot about a person by looking in their eyes. Eye contact is an incredibly powerful thing. It communicates a very direct and straightforward message in a very casual way.
A lot of studies have demonstrated that women feel more interested in a man if he seems to be “directly” attracted to her only, rather than being interested in a bunch of random women. So, when you’re on a date, restrain your focus on her and don’t scan the room for other possibilities while she’s talking.
And even if you’re looking around the room checking out other beauties, don’t let her catch you. I am saying it again, “don’t let her catch you” because when she does, be assured things might not go the way you expected. Also, make sure she knows that she feels important and has your full attention with a minimum of 60 to 85 percent of the time, which means direct eye contact.
3. Don’t Rush
When it comes to dating and relationships, and even picking up women, this is one of the biggest differences between men and women. A guy, when he meets someone new will know within the first 5-minutes whether he wants to date her or wants to sleep with her. On the other hand, a woman might need around 15-minutes or more to make a decision. This is also where most men without self-esteem and self-confidence, or has little of it, to make too many mistakes.
These men will rush and take things too fast even before the woman finds out that he doesn’t have much confidence which he told her earlier. But you can’t do that. Your best approach here is to speak slowly and gently, move slowly, and not even to think of getting her phone number unless she feels sure that you’re genuinely interested in her.