It appears that couples, who are coming out of bad relationships, all have one thing in common. They all blamed themselves for the demise of their relationship and not doing enough to fix it. Most admitted that they were in the relationship longer that they should had, and always believe there was “one” thing they weren’t doing it right. They also told that if they could have figured it out that “one” thing, maybe they would still be in the relationship. If they don’t find that “one” things, and realize there is no such thing, and the relationship isn’t getting any better, they decide to breakup.
They all are wrong. Whenever they made the well-being of themselves a priority, they would have envisioned that their relationship is a mess, and it wasn’t their fault entirely. So, they deliberately mistreated their partner, pardoned their partners for their mistakes, and when the relationship ends, they have no one to blame but themselves.
So, now most if you will ask, what is the most important thing to do after the breakup?
Well, before you start your journey for a new relationship, there is one very important thing for you to understand. You must know that you are important, your opinions matters, and you should know your standards and values. Ironically, the most important thing in being successful in a relationship is to know how to spend time with yourself, putting your well-being first; and you value yourself as a human.
Before you start having a relationship with someone new, find your hobbies, if you don’t have one, find the things that interest you, and matters to you the most. Cherish all your friendships; get close to your family members and find meaningful and joyous activities that you can call your own when you start seeing someone new.
Dating can be exciting and even intoxicating. You can easily be attracted to someone you like and in return likes you. If you have a breakup in the past, finding someone that care about you seems very caring, attractive and interesting. The experiences can be so intoxicating that when you are all alone all you can think in to be with the person and talk with that person.
However, if you really believe in valuing yourself as an individual, you will try to get away from this romantic intoxication for a while, and spend some quality time with your old friends and closest family members. Always stay true to your life and yourself. Good relationships enrich your life and give it more meaning and joy, while bad relationships destroy it and make you feel miserable. If you want to have a happy, long-lasting relationship, the only way you can have it is by enjoying in being in a relationship with yourself. A good partner just compliments it.
Dating and beginning a new relationship is all about maintaining balance with you, your family and friends, your interests, your hobbies and your new partner. When you are dating someone new, always ensure that you put your happiness first. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Remember, if you want your relationship to succeed in the long-term, it should be a part of your life, not your entire life.