When you talk about dating, people always acknowledge the difficulty of being rejected. There are a million articles out there discussing how to cope with being rejected. What about when you have to reject someone? The act or rejecting someone is not often discussed, and we have to say: it's not easy to reject someone! Having to reject someone is an inevitable aspect of dating. After all, you're not going to be interested in every person that is interested in you. It is particularly difficult if you are rejecting someone because of how they look. People who do this are often regarded as “shallow” or cruel, but we would like to argue in their favor. Let us explain why there is nothing wrong with people who reject someone because of their body type.
Society is only just now beginning to open up to the idea of “body inclusivity.” Body inclusivity means that people come in all shapes and sizes and that different body types should be represented in media and in retail. We are all for this! We are in favor of body positivity and representing all body types. With that said, body inclusivity should not be enforced when it comes to dating. When it comes to romantic relationships, everyone has a type. Everyone has certain physical attributes that they find attractive and desire in a partner. We feel that when you are looking for someone to date, you shouldn't have to take body inclusivity into consideration. You should date who you really want to date and for most people, that's someone who falls into their “type.”
We understand that there is so much more to a person than their physical appearance. There are so many things that are more important than being skinny, fat, tall or short. However, when someone gets into a relationship, attraction is a vital part of that. If you're not physically attracted to the person you're with, it will lead to a myriad of problems and ultimately the end of the relationship. For this reason, we suggest that people feel okay dating someone with the body type they are attracted to. Don't be afraid of being called “shallow.” You are not being shallow – you are seeking your own happiness. You don't need to feel pressured by society to date anyone and everyone just so that you do not make people feel bad.
Now, if you feel that you are on the other end of this scenario, don't feel bad. Every person of every shape and size has been rejected for their body type. At the end of the day, it is better for these people to reject you so that you are open to meet someone who desires you. No matter what your body type is, there are endless people out there that find you attractive, Everyone has a different “type.” You need to find the person who considers you their type, and you consider them your type. This is the best way to have a healthy, happy relationship.