When any couple gets married they plan on being together forever, but for over half of these happy couples the marriage just won't work. Obviously this statistic is discouraging, but it's the current reality. Not every relationship is destined to last forever and that's okay. If you've been struggling in your marriage and wondering if you may be one of the many couples that ends up getting a divorce, you're not alone.
Many people have a hard time deciding to take that final step and separate from their spouse because they hold on to hope that they can salvage their marriage. While there is in fact hope for some couples whose marriages have minor problems that can be overcome with time, there are some marriages that are just…well, for lack of a better word, dead. So how do you know if your marriage is one that can be saved or one that's is over for good? While there are many signs that a marriage has run its course, relationship experts say this one thing is the biggest sign you should get divorced: resentment.
Resentment is a hateful, nasty emotion. We don't feel resentment for just anyone. If you have gotten to the point that you feel resentment for your spouse – the person you're supposed to love more than anyone – consider your marriage over. A marriage should be filled with love, compassion, admiration and respect. When you cannot feel any of these things towards your partner because all you truly feel is resentment, it's unlikely you're going to save this relationship.
How do you know if you're feeling resentful towards your spouse? There are a few ways to tell. Do you find it hard to be happy for them when they succeed at something? Do you place the blame on them when anything goes wrong at home? Do you imagine that your life would be better if they were not in it? These are all signs of resentment and never feelings that you should have for your spouse.
While some experts might say that resentment is the biggest sign you should get divorced, you don't have to considerate it an immediate death sentence for your marriage. If you have just recognized these feelings in yourself and you still want to try to save your marriage, there are a few things you can do. You can talk to your partner openly about the way you have been feeling. Another option is to visit a marriage counselor to see if there are any changes you can make that will have you feeling better in your relationship. If these things do not work and you still feel resentment towards your partner, it is probably better for the both of you to end your marriage.