So, you’re in a relationship, and you still seem to be wondering about the status of your relationship. If you think that you aren’t in a healthy relationship, we would like to ask you the following questions “Are you happy with yourself? Are you displeased, dissatisfied, or uncomfortable with your partner?” If yes, then it’s time to put your dating life on hold for a while, and take crucial steps to ensure that your next romantic relationship is the happiest, healthiest, and most satisfying one you’ve ever had.
You might be asking what might be the reason. The reason is simple; if you don’t have productive or positive feelings about yourself and the relationship as a whole, dating becomes dull, fruitless, futile, and somewhat dangerous to your health and well-being. This isn’t some relationship theory or speculation; it’s a scientific truth. At some point in your relationship, if you’ve had an epiphany where you realized that your perception of yourself is not positive, it’s for the best that you avoid dating altogether and focus entirely on yourself.
So, the question is how long you will be to wait before you start dating again? How can you focus on yourself? Fortunately, if you make focusing on yourself a priority, you don’t have to wait for a long time at all to get serious about dating again.
Begin by pausing for a moment, and ask yourself: “Am I happy? How can I be happier?” Some of your possible responses might be, “I’ll be happy if I lose 30 pounds”, or, “I’ll be happy if I get that new job,” or, “I’ll be happy if I get that promotion.” This may sound like it will make you happy, but, unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. The main thing is happiness doesn’t come from anything that’s outside of you, including a relationship. Your happiness and joy come from within. All of those external, materialistic elements can be gone or taken away at the snap of a finger. And when that happens, we hope it doesn’t; what you’re left with? It’s only YOU. Just you!
Therefore, think for a moment, and ask yourself, whether you enough to make yourself happy? If no, then we can safely tell you that nothing else will work for you. Listen carefully, at certain times, you might feel overwhelmed by the weight of your struggles and pain, and this is totally normal. This is what most people don’t realize. When you don’t make “peace” with it, you tend to seek refuge from those struggles and pain through external things. But, in the end, you’ll realize that it’s only an illusion. You actually never escaped or managed to resolve them. This can be particularly toxic if you’re trying to fill that void in your life with a relationship. This is one of the reasons why we can’t help ourselves from dating people who are in the similar situation like us.
While looking for a partner, your mind will unconsciously always seek out a partner who will mirror and affirms to negative and fruitless feelings. And consciously, we feel “comfortable” around that person, but not in true sense. We think they’ll make us happy, but in the real world, this kind of relationships will only make the hole in your life to get bigger and bigger. But, the good news is; once you work to be happy with yourself, you’ll only attract men and women who will make you happier in the future.