Is there anything more stressful in a new relationship than meeting your partner's parents? You stress out over what to say, what to wear, etc. You're worried about whether or not they'll approve of you. Listen – this is something that has made all of us nervous at some point. Let us give you some pieces of advice for meeting your partner's parents!
1. Do Your Homework
A fortunate thing about the modern age we live in is that we have social media. Social media is a huge advantage when it comes to things like meeting your partner's parents because it allows you to do some research. Before meeting the parents, look them up online. Try to get an idea of who they are. This will give you some insight into things they like, things they don't like, etc. It will help you to know what topics to steer clear of. For instance, if their Facebook is full of political posts that you disagree with, you know not to bring up politics.
2. Have Your Partner Give Them a Heads-Up
Most parents do not like being surprised by their child's significant other. Whether it be a family dinner or formal event, if you show up on your partner's arm and their parents had no idea you were coming, you're off to a bad start. Make sure your partner has told their parents that you will be coming to meet them. This puts both parties on level playing ground, giving them appropriate time to prepare as well as you.
3. Dress Modestly
This one should go without saying, but some people need a reminder: dress nicely when meeting your partner's parents! Do not dress like a slob. Do not dress provocatively. Do not wear your favorite t-shirt that has a cartoon character on it. All of these things will look poorly to the people who may one day be your in-laws. You want to make a good impression here!
4. Remember Your Manners
We're not little kids anymore, so we really shouldn't have to remind you to use your manners when meeting new people! It is especially important to use your manners when meeting your partner's parents. If you're rude or inconsiderate, they'll remember it forever. Think of this like you would a job interview. Make sure you are extra courteous and respectful so that these people will want you around in the future.
5. Avoid TMI
While you want to tell your partner's parents about yourself, you don't want to tell them too much. Remember that you're trying to look good, so this is not the time to air your dirty laundry. They don't need to know about all your previous failed relationships. They don't need to know about your family's short-comings, like Aunt Mary's drinking problem or Grandpa Fred's criminal history. If it doesn't make you look good, keep it to yourself.
6. Be Confident
Most importantly, be confident when meeting your partner's parents. Remember that they're people, just like you. They're probably nervous, just like you. All that they want is someone good in their child's life, so they might interrogate you and try to shake you, but don't let it get you down. You want them to see that you are a confident person who will only be a positive part of their family.