All of our life we’ve been told that money will make us happy and will solve all of our problems including relationships. It might be that you didn’t have much money growing up or too much of it. Whatever the circumstances are you need to define your relationship with money and take steps that it shouldn’t control your life. We live in a society that places a high value on money. Sure, money will let you get or buy a lot of things in life, but it cannot replace the time you spend with your partners or loved ones. However, money is something that everyone needs. It will put food on your table; put a roof over your head, and clothes on your back.
So, why is that most people say that money is the root of all evils? For most people, money defines power and status. So, you need to be careful here because when you only idolize people with money, you’ll make plenty of wrong decisions in your life, particularly relationships. After all, money can’t buy you love.
Here are some signs that money is causing problems in your relationship:
- You play the comparison game
People use the money to compare their relationship with others. It’s easy, and that’s why many do it. People say, “Do you have as much money as them? What is their home like? Does their son go to a private college? And so on. You’ll never feel happy or satisfied if you keep comparing your relationship to others.
- You don’t talk about money.
This is important if you’re in a committed relationship. Talk about each other finance before making your relationship exclusive, or before moving in together. Make sure you and your partner’s finances are in good shape, and you don’t have debts before getting married. Discuss your credit scores, whether you’ll have a joint checking account or a separate savings account, etc. Talking about money doesn’t have to be a painful or annoying topic in your relationship. But, it sure will become a real pain if you don’t talk about it.
- You keep money secrets from your partner
One of the main reasons for problems in relationships is that many couples hide their spending habits from their partners. For example, sometimes one partner has a lot of unsecured debt like credit cards debts, and the other person is completely oblivious of the matter. It feels like a betrayal and will ruin the trust in the relationship or marriage. Regular and healthy communication with your significant other will make dealing with issues easier.
- You both have different financial priorities
If you want to have a happy and long-lasting relationship and don’t want your money issues wrecking havoc in your relationship, then you and your partner should both be responsible with money. One partner should not monitor or be suspicious about other person’s spending. You need to trust your partner with your finances and talk about your financial priorities. Dealing with your finances will become much easier when the both of you have similar life and financial goals.