Too Much, Too Soon: 5 Signs That It’s Too Early To Say “I Love You”

Saying I Love You

Everyone wants to hear those three little words from their partner: I love you. Is there anything more thrilling than the first time you tell someone that you love them? While saying “I love you” is a huge step in a relationship, it's important that you don't say it too soon. If you declare your love too early, you might overwhelm your partner and scare them away. To figure out when the time is right, read these five signs that it's too early to say “I love you”.

1. You've been together less than 3 months.

If you've only been together a few weeks, it's definitely too early to say “I love you”. So how long should you wait? Generally speaking, you should at least hit the three-month mark before saying “I love you”. Three months is an appropriate amount of time to get to know someone and not at all unreasonable for telling someone you love them.

2. You're not discussing the future.

If you and your partner haven't discussed the future at all, it's too early to declare your love. Either you're skeptical about the future with your partner, or maybe they're not in it for the long haul. Either way, you're not in love if you're not picturing a future with this person.

3. You haven't had sex yet.

This sign is up for some debate. There are couples who abstain from sex until they're married, and surely you must love someone before you marry them. With that said, it's very difficult to truly know how you feel about someone if you haven't reached this level of intimacy. Unless you're waiting until marriage, you should wait until you're intimate with your partner to say “I love you”.

4. There's still a lot you don't know about your partner.

If your partner is still a mystery to you, you cannot love them. This is just a fact. If your partner is hiding parts of their life from you and there's still a lot of things that you don't know about them, don't tell them you love them. You need to take some more time to get to know each other on a deeper level before taking that next step.

5. You just went through an emotional experience.

This is a mistake that is made all too often. Someone goes through an emotional experience, maybe a loved one dies, something tragic happens, and they feel compelled to declare their love for their partner. This is often misguided emotion and it's not the appropriate time to say “I love you”. Instead, wait until you are totally calm and stable so you know that you are sure of how you feel when you tell your partner you love them.

Saying I Love You

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