Looking for that special someone isn’t easy. Thanks to the popularity of online dating sites and social media most men and women are now able to find someone to love. However, finding love is easy, but keeping the love alive and growing through the years, that’s the hard part. If you want to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship, you need to have some qualities. And if your relationship lacks anyone or most of these, it's a sign that you are not in love and there isn’t a future in your relationship.
Here are seven qualities that you need to have in your relationship:
1. Romantic love
Falling in love feels amazing. We all know the feeling. When we are in love, the world is turned upside down. We always want to be with our partners and spend more time with them. We want to eat, drink, work, and sleep with him or her.
2. The physical desire
Lust and romance go hand-in-hand. When we are in love, we urge to merge our bodies, minds, and spirits with our lovers. Real love is about having great sex or intense orgasms. It’s also about connecting emotionally with our partners. Being in love makes us lose ourselves and find the divine.
3. It’s you and your partner against the world
When you are in love, you don’t have the feeling of loneliness. You become a couple. When you are a couple, you feel the power of two and the happiness of being together. We both feel at the center of the universe, and you both think the world is there to support and embrace us.
4. A yearning to create
Humans have a primal desire to create and procreate. When a man and woman come together, both have an urge to procreate. That’s how we came into this world. But, relationships aren’t about filling the world with people, it also helps us to create art, music, home, gifts, and heal the humankind.
Disillusionment sets in when the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over. Our partners change. We think they are no longer the same person when we first met and started dating. They aren’t giving the things that we expected them to give. We eventually realize there is a huge gap between reality and our expectations. All of a sudden we start wondering ourselves if we have made a mistake by being in the relationship and start looking for what’s missing.
You can’t experience true love without incompatibility. When we find ourselves disillusioned with our partners, we think we are no longer compatible with each other. But, we can let go of our thinking incompatibility is a bad thing when we come to an understanding that disillusionment means letting go of our illusions. We should accept that real, lasting love is a journey, not a destination.
7. Letting go of our fears
Our fears are the causes of all our unhappiness and illnesses in our relationships. We feel afraid of losing what we already have and not getting what we need. There are two choices. Will we keep feeding our fears or will we feed the love? The one we feed the most will get stronger.