Don’t make the mistake of being in love with a narcissist person. Why? Because they will just cause you pain. You met someone who is pretty, attentive and confident but seems to get lost in your words and feelings. She asks personal questions to get to know you better and pays attention to every word you tell her. She finds you interesting, and she looks to get to know more about you, and it feels fabulous. But, sometimes all that glitters isn’t gold, and your relationship may not turn out as you expected. There will be a lot of pain, confusion, heartbreaks, and tears. You have met a narcissist, and they do is to quickly capture your heart and make you believe that you have found the love of your dreams.
So, the question is there any warning signs that you can detect early in the relationship? So, if you're always asking yourself, “Is she a narcissist?” here are three warning signs that you should look out for before you get into a serious relationship with her.
1. She throws love bombs now and then
The word, “love” gets tossed out as soon as she meets you for the first or second time. She says that she loves you and can’t imagine your life without you. She constantly tells you that her world is complete when you’re in it. If someone you just met starts talking about love from the start, then it’s not real love. It might seem romantic, but the reality is quite the opposite. To be clear; it’s not love, let alone true love. She’s not talking about love to you it’s all about possessing.
2. She extracts your emotions
Now that she’s has your undivided attention, she wants to spend an hour, a day, or the night with you. It’s a classic manipulation technique she uses to make you feel ashamed and guilty. After all, why should you visit your dad, mom, friend, or the neighbor when she wants to spend the whole day or even the night with you? Isn’t her companionship enough for you? There’s even more. She will cry and frown when you don’t want to spend time with her and will tell you that spending time with you is all she wants to do. You will start to feel hesitated and will compel you to cancel your plans. After all, you might be thinking she loves you and wants to spend time with you, what wrong it that? But, the reality is that she wants to control you, and she will do everything possible to remove all the obstacles to get her way. For example; she also uses sex as a tool to punish shame and hurt you. She will demand, force, or manipulate to get things done her way.
3. She has impossible expectations
You always keep wondering if you can ever meet her expectations, which seems unrealistic to you. She wants you to talk, behave, or dress in a certain way that is not you. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, every time you give into her demands, wants, and requests, you lose a bit of yourself always. Your self-esteem and confidence also erodes slowly, and you feel powerless and lose full control of yourself.