Often people say that the best way to recover from a breakup is to get back immediately in the dating scene and start dating. We aren’t saying that’s it's wrong, but it could backfire. So, we won’t suggest this to anyone. The thing is dating can sometimes be challenging. Finding a great match, and falling in love is a slow and a thoughtful process. If we don't rush, be patient, and make the right decisions, beautiful things can happen. Consequently, making hasty decisions will result in accidents.
So, after a breakup or a divorce, they rush into a new relationship. They believe that being in a new relationship will help them deal with pain from their previous relationship. It’s okay to feel that way. We all want to in loving, committed relationships. But, if you really want to get over from your past split, and want to have a healthy and happy relationship, you need to follow some ground rules. These are:
First, let’s make it clear that you’ll meet a lot of potential partners when you’re ready to date after a split. You’re ready to date when you’re –
- • Fully headed from your past relationship;
- • Acknowledge all the reasons why it ended;
- • You’re accountable for your part of the split, and
- • You’ve learned and transformed from the experience.
Now, that we’ve established that, let’s talk how can you be a great dater. You’re ready to go on dates if:
1. The breakup has completely transformed you, and you want to continue going ahead with your life.
2. You’re optimistic and enthusiastic.
3. You feel empowered and full of confidence.
4. You have a new positive and refreshing attitude about being in romantic relationships and think that you find notice positive changes in your life if you start dating again.
5. You are positive about dating process, despite the occasional rejection, frustration, bad dates, etc.
6. You fully understand that if you’ve met someone right for you, you’ll not rush it.
7. You envision what a healthy, committed relationship consists, and any exception from it is just not worth your time and effort.
8. You feel that you have a lot to offer the right person if he or she finds you.
9. You believe you have that motivation and the confidence to put yourself back in the dating area, keep trying until you find a man or woman who meets most of your realistic criteria.
10. You’ve decided that you’ll have a relationship with someone who has most your sensible qualities, and the least of your deal-breakers.
11. You have a great support mechanism set up consisting mostly of your family members and close friend to cheer you along.
If you’ve been out of a relationship recently, dating someone new can be overwhelming at times. If you agree with all statements listed above, you would be happy to tell that you’ve to move on from your past relationship, and ready to date again with a solid foundation. Alternatively, if some or most of these statements don’t resonate with you, we would recommend you take some time and commitment to deal with your recovery regimen.