Winning a girl with the guarded heart isn’t simple. She won’t be convinced by expensive gifts, flowers, or fancy dinners. She won’t fall for you by praising and complimenting her. She believes in taking things slow. She will take one step toward you and another step back. She will take her time to trust your heart and the strength of your love. So, follow her lead. Measure all of her steps, and in time, she will soon be looking to follow your lead.
Remember when you’re dating a girl with the guarded heart; there are parts of her heart that won’t be reachable to you. She will keep these parts deep within herself, and she will never reveal them. But, love these parts of her because these parts are even hidden, they’re the shadows of her soul. She will listen to every word you speak; she will watch your every move much closer than you can comprehend, relate them to every action, look for any inconsistencies, measure the truth of your words and real intentions of your heart and mind. She’s doing all of this not because she can’t trust you, but she’s doing it because she’s wary, alert, cautious. She has been hurt many times before in the past, and she doesn’t want to make the same mistakes again. She won’t place her trust on you so quickly. Until she assures herself that you’re a man who keeps his promises, doesn’t change your ways and is steadfast.
There will always remain a part of her a little detached that will always be prepared to make her run if she thinks she will get heartbroken again. She doesn’t believe in second chances, and if you hurt her once, she won’t come back to you. To hurt her means to lose her forever. She prefers to be alone to again rebuild the relationship with your with a broken heart and with her own wearied hands. She isn’t in love with you because she needs you. She doesn’t need anyone to make her feel happy and safe. She’s with you because she believes in you, and you’re worth the risk. And all she needs from you is not to make her think that she made a mistake dating you, for it will cost her more than you can imagine.
Dating a girl with a guarded heart will require more reassurance than another woman you dated previously. She will need you to stay available and mindful of her scars. Things, sometimes, can get complicated, and perplexing. Sometimes, she will talk too little, think too much, ask too many questions and cry too often. But, go beyond her guarded heart, you will see a soul that longs to live and love, and desires intimacy and emotional connection, and be in a relationship with someone, who will fall in love with her after knowing all of her beauty, and imperfections. Her spirit is fierce, strong, courageous, brave, unrelenting, but at the same time, she’s quiet and calm. She’s accepting of her flaws, but adamant in her truth. Loving a girl with the guarded heart is not easy, but when you choose to date, she will prove that she’s worthy of it.