When it comes to online dating, some men and women become so obsessed with someone they’ve met online that they can’t let them go or forget about them. In spite their matches told them they don’t like them, don’t treat you well and even has refused to meet them in person, they still have love and affection for him or her. This is preposterous, but it happens.
They know that this isn’t right, and want to move on. But, how? Here are some helpful tips to help you to get past this phase.
First things, first. If your online partner has made it clear that he or she won’t meet you, and they would be a terrible partner for you, believe it. Stop thinking about him or her, and don’t try to meet or win them again. Now, let’s talk about the feelings for him or her. We understand they might be significant, but if you haven’t even met them even once, then they’re simply feelings and emotions you’ve about them. They aren’t about them; it’s all about your desperate desire to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. So, the primary concern here is – you. You’ve decided to be in a relationship with someone who treats you isn’t worthy of your love. He or she hasn’t even been caring or kind enough to meet you. It shows that you’re very needy and insecure, and you might be easily be mistreated by others.
Therefore, the best course of action here would be is to raise your standards. Finding a person who is right for can be very, very hard. But, settling for a man or woman who isn’t right for you is wrong. Tell yourself that you deserve a better partner. Tell yourself you want to be with someone who will treat you with kindness and respect. Sometimes, you’ll find it difficult to say, believe or even relate to it, but say it anyways. Write it in your journal. Tell it all aloud when you wake up in the morning. At first, they won’t mean much to you, but as you continue repeating them, it will help you to set up a standard and will remind you to stay away from someone who is the right partner for you.
Also, raise your standards for how you’re treated, not just in romantic relationships. If someone says something demeaning or offensive to you, don’t reply back. Instead, give them a confused look and get away from it. Fight or arguing here is futile. Walk away from anyone who tries to put you down. Stand up for yourself. Keep doing it for a while, and notice how you gain strength from within. A significant advantage of this process is that it will help you to reject all the negative ideas and thoughts others are projecting onto you.
Go to people who will offer you the care, respect and the kindness you deserve. Join a local support group, meet your close friends and family members, and if you can afford it, visit a therapist. Surrounding yourself with kind, compassionate people will help to with the difficulties of finding a partner. There won’t be instant results, but surrounding yourself with good people friends and family will make the pain of loneliness more manageable, and continue with your life, with or without a partner.