Do you cringe when your date asks about your family or friends? Do you take more than two days to reply to texts or dating emails? Have you lost interest in dating that cute guy you met at your friend’s dinner party? If yes, then it means that you’re burned out on dating and need to take a break. This idea might seem scary at first, particularly if you’ve planned to fall in love and be in a relationship with a specified date.
It doesn’t matter why you need to take a break. Maybe you think dating is wastage of time or you’re recovering from a break or need to spend more time with family and friends, or maybe you want to have some space, etc., it doesn’t matter. The key is to do it in a constructive manner. Here are five ways you can accomplish it:
1. Fix A Time Limit
If you want to take a break from dating, the best way to do it correctly is to set it a time limit. Doing it will help you to allow yourself to enjoy your break. For example, you can set a time limit, like I won’t date anyone until winter or the whole summer, you get the idea. In the meantime, you can take a vacation to places you always dreamed of visiting, and now this time limit gives you the option to do it.
2. Make Specific Goals
Make solid goals that fit your timeline you previously set, instead of telling yourself, “I won’t date unless I lose 10 pounds or get a new job”. Goals like these will never let you get out from your dating break. Instead, if you’ve gained some weight, lose it by joining a gym; or get a promotion at your current job, and so on.
3. Spend Time Taking Care Of Yourself
Taking a break will give you time to do the projects to tasks you always wanted to do, but couldn’t because of time. Maybe you want to get some good art pieces from your apartment, clearing out your closet, painting your bedroom, plant some flowers, or write a kids book and so forth. Keeping yourself occupied with these activities will feel like you’re taking care of yourself and nurturing the other parts of your life as well.
4. Spare Yourself More Time
Sometimes your life and timeline will be struggling to cooperate. There might be illnesses, financial issues, layoffs, family problems, and you need more time off from dating. It might be hard to relax; especially your biological clock is ticking away. In these circumstances, consider freezing your eggs, if you want to have kids in the future. Making your life less stressful will help you to enjoy your dates and break.
5. Get Back Into Dating
When you’ve decided to date again, enter the dating scene with rejuvenated energy and enthusiasm. Update your profile, your partner preferences, upload some nice profile pictures, get a new haircut, overhaul your wardrobe, get a makeover and so on. These changes will make feel good about yourself, and signal your future partners that you’re ready to date again.
Taking a break from dating can be helpful, but it should be done constructively. That way you don’t end dateless and lonely and look like someone who's been taking a break a dating for the past five years.