Your girlfriend broke up with you. You got dumped. We know it’s painful, but you have to move on and survive. It’s not the end of the world. You can make your life turn around. Maybe you saw the warning signs. You had bad fights with your girlfriend. But, you didn’t have the slightest clue that your relationship will end this bad. But, it happened any ways, and here you are. You feel horrible, awful, frustrated and sad. So, before you get flattened, gather the energy to save yourself and get your acts together. But, how?
Here are four steps that will show you how to survive a breakup and start living your life the way you wanted it, once again:
1. Allow yourself to feel the pain
Cry and mourn your breakup. Call your friends to your place and share your sorrows with them. Allow yourself to process the pain, anger and hurt. Giving yourself some time to mourn the end of your relationship will begin the healing process. If you don’t allow yourself to experience the pain and feel all the emotions related to it, the pain will come back later when you least expect it. Healing from a breakup allows you to understand your own emotions and own what they are. It also allows the healing process to start.
2. Pay attention to what is different after the breakup
Your life has changed when you are in a relationship. You had a great relationship with a woman whom you loved, and that has made every aspect of your life better. Similarly, when something bad happens in your relationship, there’s also a change. There will be a difference, but you have to focus on the good changes. Maybe, this breakup has thought you to look at relationships a little more different than you did when you were in a relationship.
3. Celebrate yourself
When we are in a relationship, we think of many things we wanted to do, but can’t. When it comes loses, we have many ways to measure it. But, do you know how to measure your gains? If you think some, write it down. It can be you now have more time to hang out with your friends, you have more peace, you can play more with your dog, read a book, go on a vacation, etc. Recognize all these good things and be grateful for it. Celebrate it by doing something nice just for you.
4. Appraise what you have learned
Most people tell that the best way to get over a breakup and move on is to be in a new relationship. We won’t argue whether this is right or wrong, but we would like to ask you to answer the following questions before you get busy with someone new.
- What did you learn from the demise of your relationship?
- What are things do you want to see in a new relationship and why?
- Do you like being alone? If no, why?
- Does being alone make you feel uncomfortable and insecure?
It’s important to take some time to understand yourself before you get involved in a new relationship. Treat yourself the way you would treat your new girlfriend because after all, it is your life and you deserve the best.