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Dating Dilemmas: Should You Let Your Friend Set You Up With Someone?

If you've been single for some time now, odds are you've encountered this dreaded dilemma: a friend asking to set you up. Some people might totally go for this idea, while others would never agree to it. What if you fall somewhere in the middle of those two feelings? You might be unsure about whether or not letting a friend set you up with someone is a good idea. If you're currently on the fence about letting a friend set you up with someone, check out our breakdown of the pro's and con's below:

Let's start with the positive aspects of your friend setting you up with someone. First of all, your friend cares about you. In most cases, if your friend offers to set you up with someone, it's because they truly want to see you happy. (If this isn't the case, are they really your friend?) Perhaps your friend has seen that you've been unhappy living the single life or that you're having a hard time meeting someone on your own. They're now offering a helping hand to ease your dating woes!

It's also important to remember that your friends usually know you better than anyone does – aside from your family. Your friend knows what you're looking for and what you're not looking for. That means they're going to pick someone who fits all your criteria! It's like having your very own personal dating app that is focusing all their attention solely on finding your soulmate. If your friend has really found the perfect match for your, you could be with this person for the rest of your life. Now that's what friends are for!

Now that we've considered what's good about letting your friend set you up with someone, let's be pessimists for a moment and consider all that could go wrong. What if your friend totally misses the mark and sets you up with someone awful? Are you going to be mad at them? Is it going to impact your friendship? You want to avoid a situation like this because it's not worth tampering with your friendship. Now, on the flipside, what if you initially like the person and start seeing them for a while…only for things to crash and burn? Depending on how your friend knew this person (like if they're a family member, for instance), your friend might feel an obligation to take sides when the two of you break up. They won't wind up in this position if you avoid this situation all together.

Another thing that is important to consider is this: Why is your friend asking to set you up with someone? If it's because they've seen how unhappy you are single, like we previously mentioned, then this is likely in your best interest. However, if you've done nothing to show your friend that you're unhappy being single, they could just be acting nosey. If you are currently happy living the single life, and they are insisting on setting you up with someone, they're just being pushy. You should only agree to being set up if you truly feel that something good could come out of it, not just because you want to appease your friend.

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What To Say: 20 Questions That Are Totally Okay To Ask On A First Date

First dates can be insanely awkward. You're basically hanging out with a total stranger whom you know nothing about, and the goal is to hit it off. Part of the struggle of a first date is figuring out what to talk about. You don't want to bring up any touchy subjects like religion or politics. You also don't want to dive into anything too personal, like family issues or past relationships. So what can you talk about so that you're not sitting there in awkward silence? To help you out, we've got 20 questions that are totally okay to ask on a first date and even some follow-up questions! Check them out below:

  1. Where were you born?
  2. Do you have any siblings? (Are you the oldest/middle/youngest child?)
  3. Where did you go to school? (What did you study/major in?)
  4. Do you have any pets?
  5. What are some of your hobbies?
  6. What is your zodiac sign?
  7. What type of music do you like? (Who are your favorite musicians?)
  8. What type of movies do you like to watch? (What are some of your favorite movies?)
  9. If you could have any career in the world, what would it be?
  10. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
  11. Are there any goals you dream of achieving?
  12. Who is your celebrity crush?
  13. Do you enjoy sports at all? (What are your favorite sports teams?)
  14. Do you like traveling? (Where are some places you've traveled to?)
  15. What is your favorite type of food? (What are your favorite restaurants?)
  16. Do you watch any television? (What are your favorite shows?)
  17. Do you have any pet peeves?
  18. What is your favorite memory from childhood?
  19. Do you like reading? (What are some of your favorite books?)
  20. Have you ever been on a blind date? (How did it all go?)

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Safe Topics: 5 Things That Are Okay To Talk About On A First Date

First dates can be terribly stressful. You freak out over what you're going to wear, how you're going to do your hair, where you're going to go, and more. Perhaps the most stressful thing is figuring out what to talk about on a first date. Most people know to never bring up politics or religion, as these things almost always lead to arguments or discomfort. So if you can't ask them who they voted for last election, what can you ask them about? It turns out there are a handful of topics that are almost always totally safe (Note: We said almost always. We make no guarantees!) What are these magical safe topics, you may ask? Read on to find out five things that are okay to talk about on a first date:

1. Movies, Music and Television

Pop culture and entertainment are generally safe topics to talk about on a first date. Ask them what their favorite movies are or what kind of music they like to listen to. Find out what show they recently binge-watched. These subjects make for easy conversations, and they give you some insight into the kinds of things your date likes.

2. Food

Unless your date is a hardcore foodie, conversations about food are pretty neutral. You can talk about what restaurants you like, what foods you love, what foods you hate. You can ask them about foods they always wanted to try but haven't yet. If you happen to be at a restaurant for your first date, you can talk about what's on the menu. It seems like a trivial subject, but it can help fill awkward silent time.

3. Traveling

Traveling is always an interesting thing to talk about on a first date. Asking your date about where they've traveled to can give you some good insight into the places they like and the things they like to do. If your date hasn't had the chance to travel much, you can still ask them about where they'd like to travel to. This lets you see what they hope to do in the future.

4. Hobbies and Pastimes

Hobbies and pastimes make for safe small talk (unless you're a vegan who is on a date with an avid hunter). Ask your date what they enjoy doing in their free time. Tell them a little bit about what you like doing in your free time. You can tell them about a hobby you'd like to try out, or ask them if there's anything they always wanted to try. For the most apart, you should be able to talk about hobbies without things getting awkward.

5. The Basics

The basics are the best thing to talk about on a first date. The basics are things like: Where are you from? Do you have any siblings? Where did you go to school? etc. These things are nearly impossible to argue about. If you and your date can manage to get in an argument over where you're from, you're definitely not compatible.

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Fear of the Unknown: 5 Tips For Going On A Blind Date

While many happy, long-lasting relationships have come out of blind dates, most of us are still leery of the practice. The idea of going out with someone we've never met before makes the majority of us nervous. This is understandable, as a blind date can be a daunting idea. What if we're not attracted to the person? What will we talk about? What if the person makes us uneasy? These are all legitimate concerns, but going on a blind date is still worth a try! After all, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry met on a blind date. So If you're still a skeptic, or just someone who is nervous about an upcoming date, we've got five tips to help you on a blind date:

1. Trust Who Set You Up

Before going on a blind date, you need to consider who set you up. In most cases it is a friend or family member – someone who has your best interests in mind. You need to trust that this person thinks they've found a good match for you. Unless they're an arch enemy, why would they set you up with someone you're going to have a bad time with?

2. Do Some Research

The internet is an amazing tool, especially when it comes to dating. When you're going on a blind date, do your research. If you know the name of who you're being set up with, look them up. This will give you a heads up as to what they look like, what their interests are, things they hate, etc. It may take away the element of surprise, but how surprising do you want a date to be, really?

3. Pick A Casual, Public Place

Remember that you're going out with someone you've never met before. While you should trust that your friend or family member isn't setting you up with someone dangerous, you still need to exercise caution. Arrange to have your date in a casual, public place. This will make the date more comfortable and you'll feel safer if things take a turn for the worst.

4. Look For The Potential

When going on a blind date, have an open mind. The person who set you up obviously saw potential for a match and they could be right! Don't go into the date assuming that you won't like the person. Give them a fair chance and see if there's any chemistry. Your friend may be a bonafide match-maker.

5. Be Brave

Most importantly, you need to be brave to go on a blind date. Blind dates are not for those of us who like to have it all planned out. Blind dates are better suited for more adventurous, spontaneous individuals. As a not-so-wise movie character once said, “Blind dates are like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.” Okay, maybe that wasn't the exact quote, but you see where we're going with this. If you plan on going on a blind date, be brave, because you don't really know what you're getting into.

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