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Time To Say Goodbye: 5 Signs That You Need To Break Up

Do you feel like your relationship is nearing the end? Have you considered breaking up with your partner but you're just not sure? There are a few ways to tell if it's time to call it quits. Check out five signs that you need to break up with your partner:

1. There Is Emotional or Physical Abuse

Any kind of abuse should never be taken lightly. This is the biggest sign that you need to break up with your partner. If you are suffering from emotional or physical abuse, it's time to leave. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. Likewise, if you have become abusive to your partner, the two of you need to separate and you need to seek treatment for your abusive tendencies.

2. One Of You Has Cheated

Very few couples can recover from infidelity. Bouncing back depends on the circumstances and the couple themselves. For the majority of couples, it's time to break up once one of you has cheated. Cheating means that either you or your partner has given up on the relationship and it's not likely it can be saved.

3. You're Attracted to Other People

Everyone admires people other than your partner. Noticing attractive strangers is just human nature. However, if you find yourself genuinely attracted to someone else in a way that you want to be in a relationship with them rather than your partner, you need to break up.

4. You Can't See A Future Together

You and your partner may have once envisioned a future together, but if you can't do that anymore, it's time to break up. If you imagine what your future will look like and your partner is not in it, it's time to let them go now so that you can both pursue what you want in life.

5. You Have A Gut Feeling

There is a lot to be said for intuition. Sometimes you just know when something isn't right. If you have a gut feeling that you need to break up with your partner, it's probably because the relationship has run its course.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: The 7 Stages Of A Breakup

They weren't lying when they said, “breaking up is hard to do.” (We're not exactly sure who “they” are, but they're right!) Breakups are stressful, painful and sometimes downright traumatizing. In fact, breakups are such an ordeal, they occur in multiple stages! Let us fill you in on the seven stages of a breakup:

1. Shock

Immediately after a breakup, you're likely to be in shock. You'll wonder how it happened or why you didn't see it coming. You may feel totally blindsided and not able to comprehend that your relationship is over.

2. Denial

Denial is one of the most difficult stages of a breakup to get past. You'll spend a lot of time denying the fact that you're relationship is really over. You'll convince yourself that you and your ex are just going through a hard time and you'll get back together soon. You'll tell yourself anything, even if it's totally delusional.

3. Isolation

Once the denial has passed and you realize that your relationship is truly done, you'll want to isolate yourself from the world. You might lock yourself in your room and listen to music. You may isolate yourself to your apartment and binge-watch television. You'll avoid your friends and spend all of your time to yourself.

4. Anger

At this point in the breakup, anger is going to set in. You'll start to lash out at the mere mention of your ex. You may even reach out to them and fight with them, telling them how wrong they were to end the relationship. You're feeling a lot of anger and resentment at your ex for putting you in this position.

5. Bargaining

This stage of a breakup is when you start imaging a reunion with your ex. You may start thinking of trying to get them back. You'll start figuring out ways to win them back, like changing your appearance or taking up new hobbies.

6. Depression

This is one of the hardest stages of a breakup. Your stuck in the transition between bargaining and acceptance. Part of you still wants your ex and the other part of you has accepted that it is over. This combination makes you feel incredibly confused and depressed. You'll probably think that you cannot move on with your life because your heart is at a standstill.

7. Acceptance

This is the final stage of a breakup. You have fully accepted that the relationship is over. While you may not be entirely ready to move on, you have at least accepted that you're not going to be with your ex. You can acknowledge why the relationship ended, where both you and your partner went wrong, and how you plan to move forward.

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Moving On: 5 Ways To Move On From A Long Term Relationship

Breakups are rough, but they're even worse if it's the end of a long term relationship. The longer you've been together, the harder it will be to get past the breakup. You may feel like you'll never get over it but if you take the right steps, you'll be able to move on. We want to help you move forward with your love life, so we've got five ways to move on from a long term relationship. Check them out here:

1. Take Some Time To Yourself

The best way to move on from a long term relationship is to take some time to yourself. If you were in a relationship for years, it's been a long time since you've been on your own. You need to take this time to be alone and focus on yourself. You can start a new hobby. You can read books or watch movies you've never seen. Just take the time to enjoy being alone before you move on to a new relationship.

2. Envision A New Future For Yourself

To move on from a long term relationship, you need to start envisioning a new future for yourself. When you've been in a relationship for a long time, you probably envisioned your future being with your partner. Now that you're not together, you need to imagine what a future without them is going to look like. This may include new career aspirations or moving to a new location. It may include nothing new at all. Either way, you need to look to the future at this point.

3. Take A Critical Look At the Past

When a relationship ends, you spend a lot of time dwelling on it. We don't want you to dwell on the past, but we do want you to look back at your relationship in a critical way. Be honest with yourself about what went wrong. This will help you to realize what you're looking for in your next relationship. It will help you to see what you want in a partner and what you don't want. It will also help you to avoid making the same mistakes you may have made in the past.

4. Spend Time With Friends and Family

Another great way to move on from a long term relationship is to spend time with friends and family. Spending time with your loved ones will distract you from sitting around and feeling sad. It will also help you to see how much the other people in your life care about you and how they are there for you when you need it.

5. Look At Things Positively

It never ever hurts to look at things positively. This can be applied to anything in life, but especially to bad breakups. Focus on all the good things in your life. Focus on all the good things about yourself. Look to the future and think of what great things may lie ahead. This will help you to move on from the end of your long term relationship.

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Bouncing Back: 4 Benefits Of Being In A Rebound Relationship

You've probably hear that “rebound relationships” are a bad idea. Throwing yourself into a new relationship immediately after a bad breakup probably seems like a disaster waiting to happen, but it's actually not. Rebound relationships can be very helpful when it comes to moving forward with your love life. Check out four great benefits of being in a rebound relationship.

It Will Distract You From Thinking About Your Ex

When you start dating someone new, your focus and energy will be invested in them. You'll be thinking of your new partner and the budding relationship so much that you'll forget all about the ex who broke your heart. The rebound relationship will help you to forget all about the relationship that just failed.

It Boosts Your Self Esteem

The beginning of a relationship is always great for someone's self esteem. If you're just coming out of a bad breakup, your confidence and self esteem may be damaged. Your new partner may be just the thing you need to boost your confidence. Seeing that someone else is interested in you other than your ex will make you feel good again.

It Keeps You From Wallowing

Focusing your energy on a new relationship will keep you from wallowing in sadness over the end of your previous relationship. After a bad breakup you're often left wondering what went wrong or what you could have done differently. If you jump into a rebound relationship, you can focus on that relationship instead of obsessing over the old one.

It Could Be The Real Deal

There is no inherent rule in the universe that says a rebound relationship can't turn into a legitimate thing. Many rebound relationships actually become healthy, long-lasting ones. Maybe you wound up in your rebound relationship by way of fate and things are meant to be. Don't write the relationship off as “only a rebound” when it could wind up being happily ever after.

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Nearing the End: 3 Major Signs That It’s Time To Break Up

Breaking up is hard to do. Maybe you've been contemplating breaking up with your partner for a while now but you're just not sure if it's the right choice. You don't want to call it quits if there's a chance things can turn around. However, do you really want to waste anymore time in a relationship that is heading down the wrong road? To help you out, we've got three major signs that it's time to break up.

Someone Is Lying All the Time

Whether it's you or your partner, if someone in the relationship is lying all the time, you need to break up. If your partner is lying to you, they have some issues with your relationship and should not be in it anymore. Also, you don't deserve to be lied to constantly. On the flip side, if you are the one who is constantly lying, there is something wrong in the relationship. Why do you feel that you need to lie to your partner? If you feel like you need to keep things from this person, maybe you shouldn't be with them anymore.

Neither Person Is Concerned With the Other's Feelings

If both of you have stopped caring, it's probably time to call it quits. If you're no longer concerned with how your partner feels, you shouldn't be in the relationship anymore. The same goes for them. If one or both of you have stopped putting in the effort because you just don't care about the other's happiness, then the relationship is basically over already. You might as well throw in the towel.

You Have A Gut Feeling

There is a lot to be said for intuition. If your intuition is telling you that the relationship is over, the relationship is probably over. When you have a gut feeling about something being wrong, it's typically because something is in fact wrong. Listen to what your intuition is trying to tell you. If you just know that it's time to break up, then it's most likely time to break up.

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Letting Go: 6 Great Ways to Move On From Your Ex

Breaking up is hard to do. While your breakup may have been a great idea, you might find it impossible to move on from your ex. Whether it be obsessing over your memories together or stalking them on Facebook, you cannot let yourself be preoccupied with your ex. We understand that moving on can be difficult, so we've got a few tips to get you started. Check out six great ways to move on from your ex:

1. Cut Off All Contact

The first step to move on from your ex is to cut off all contact with them. Don't call them. Don't text them. Delete them from your social media accounts. Staying in touch with your ex will make it impossible to drop your feelings for them. If you really want to get over them, you need to avoid them.

2. Spend Time With Friends and Family

A great way to get your mind off your ex is by spending time with your friends and family. Go out with your friends. Have dinner with your family. Spending time with people who care about you will help boost your self esteem and make you feel better about moving forward.

3. Start A New Hobby

Picking up a new hobby is an excellent way to move on from your ex. Focusing on a new hobby will distract you from obsessing over your ex. Whether it be painting or taking a cooking class, you might find that your love your new hobby! If not, you can always try several different things until you find what suits you. Either way, a new hobby will take your mind off your ex.

4. See A New Place

Exploring a new place will definitely help you move on from your ex. Take a vacation with some close friends or go on a family trip. Seeing a new place helps to show you how big the world is and that there are so many other things out there. You'll forget all about your previous relationship once you see what the rest of the world has in store for you.

5. Avoid Memories of Them

A huge part of moving on is letting go of old memories. If you want to move on from your ex, you need to avoid obsessing over the memories you share. Don't look at old photo albums. Don't listen to their favorite song on repeat for hours. Avoid all the things that remind you of them. We're not saying you have to throw out old pictures or gifts they gave you. You just need to avoid them until you are sure you've moved on.

6. Meet New People

The best way to move on from your ex is to meet new people. We understand you may not be ready to start dating again, and you don't have to date anyone. You can just get out there and meet new people to hang out with. You don't need to dive into anything serious. Just hanging out with new people will show you that there are plenty of other fish in the sea and before you know it, you'll forget all about your ex.

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To Be Or Not To Be: 6 Awful Reasons to Get Back With An Ex

Getting back together with an ex is a pretty common thing. Maybe you broke up hastily or for the wrong reasons. Maybe you realize that you're miserable without them. There are definitely good reasons to get back with an ex, but there are more bad ones. Most breakups should stay permanent. If you're wondering whether you should get back with your ex or not, consider your reasoning. To help you out, we've got six awful reasons to get back with an ex.

1. You're afraid of starting over with someone new.

Change can be scary; we understand. With that said, sometimes change is for the best. Don't let the fear of starting over in a new relationship scare you right back into the arms of your toxic ex. Sure, starting all over again can be hard, but it can also be exciting! Starting over with someone new could lead to a happy, long-lasting relationship.

2. You don't think you can do any better.

One of the worst reasons to get back with an ex is insecurity. You may feel like they were the best you could ever get, but this isn't the case. Surely you've heard that “there's plenty of other fish in the sea”, and a lot of those fish are better than the one you had! If you're settling for your ex because you don't think you can do better, you're settling for a life of unhappiness.

3. “They've changed.”

We've all heard this one before. Your ex says that they've “changed”. How much can someone change, really? People can only change so much. Sure, your ex may be able to change some small things that led to your breakup. However, if it was bigger issues, like abuse of infidelity, those things cannot be changed.

4. The sex was great.

This is certainly one of the stupider reasons to get back with an ex. So the sex was great. Maybe it was the best sex of your life. So what? If the sex was great but everything else in the relationship was bad, there's no reason to go back. You can have great sex with a new partner, and if not, sex isn't everything, right? (Okay, we know it's important, but it's not everything.)

5. Your friends think you should.

If you and your ex have mutual friends, they may urge you to get back together. Maybe the breakup has made it awkward for them to hang out with the two of you. Or maybe they just think you broke up for the wrong reasons. Either way, the opinions of your friends shouldn't make you get back with your ex.

6. You have memories together.

For many people this is one of the main reasons to get back with an ex. They share a history together and they've made so many memories together. We want to tell you: this is not a good reason! We understand you have memories with this person. Your breakup doesn't erase those memories. You can hold onto the memories without holding onto the person.

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Happy Holidays, It’s Over: 4 Reasons Guys Choose to Break Up During the Holidays

Getting dumped is never easy. You're left heartbroken and wondering what went wrong. Getting dumped is even worse when it happens during the holidays. You're left wondering why this jerk chose the happiest time of the year to bail on you. As it turns out, breaking up during the holidays is a very common thing. It's definitely not cool and we don't recommend it, but it happens often. Just to give you some insight as to why this guy dumped you now of all times, we've got four reasons people choose to break up during the holidays:

1. He Doesn't Want You to Meet His Family

If your relationship was relatively new, then you may have not met his family yet. It could be that he's ashamed of them (or worse, ashamed of you). His family might embarrass him by telling childhood stories or talking about his ex girlfriends. There are endless reasons a guy might not want you to meet his family. He's managed to dodge this bullet all year round, but it's almost unavoidable during the holidays. His family will be insisting that he brings his new girlfriend to their holiday dinner, and the only way out is to not have a girlfriend at all. It sounds crazy, but it's one of the most common reasons that guys choose to break up during the holidays.

2. He Doesn't Want to Meet Your Family

So maybe it's not his family that's the problem. A lot of guys dread meeting a girl's family. Meeting a girl's family means they need to be on their best behavior and live up to certain expectations. It's incredibly stressful and not fun for anyone. What guy honestly wants to sit at Christmas dinner and answer a million questions about himself? Not many of them.

3. He Doesn't Want to Get You a Gift

We know this sounds so trivial, but more people have done it than you think. There's a lot of pressure for people to get their partners a great gift during the holidays. If it's a new relationship, do you even know what to get her? Do you have to meet a certain budget? Do you have to get expensive jewelry? These are all nagging concerns surrounding gift-giving, and some guys just can't take the heat. So they take the easy way out and break up. No girlfriend, no gift-giving.

4. He Wants a New Girl for The New Year

There's just something about the holidays that makes people want to change… Oh, right, it's the whole “new year” thing. People often set goals for themselves when a new year rolls around, and one of those goals might be getting into a new relationship. He may have wanted to break up the entire year and been putting it off, but the new year has finally kicked him into action. It's part of that whole “new year, new me” philosophy. It's crazy self-centered of him, but it could be why he chose to break up during the holidays.

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