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6 Ways to Make Your Ex Miss You Like Crazy

So your relationship ended. These things happen, and sometimes they're for the best. However, some relationships are not meant to end. If you're going through a breakup and feel like it was a mistake, you may want to reunite with your ex. Before you can even begin to think of reuniting, you need to make sure that your ex also wants to get back together. For your ex to reunite with you, they need to first miss you. How can you make sure that your ex misses your relationship?

Here are six ways to make your ex miss you like crazy:

1. Cut Off Contact

The first step after any breakup is to cut off all contact. You need to delete their phone number. Remove them from your social media. If you're constantly calling or texting your ex, it doesn't even give them an opportunity to miss you. In fact, contacting them all the time will only make them glad to be away from you. In order for your ex to miss you, you need to remove yourself from their life. Once they haven;t heard from you in a long time, they'll realize that they miss talking to you.

2. Let Time Pass

After a breakup, you need to take some time to recover. The amount of time differs depending on how long the relationship was. Experts recommend that you need at least 3 weeks to a month to start recovering after a breakup. Take the appropriate time to grieve the end of your relationship. By not contacting your ex, you are also giving them the appropriate amount of time to grieve the end of the relationship. During this time, don't go crazy trying to reach out to your ex. Don't go to places where you might see them. This time is reserved for being completely apart. It will definitely be hard, but in the long run it will help to make your ex miss you.

3. Don't Show You're Sad

Obviously you will be sad after a breakup, but don't make your sadness public. The designated time period after a breakup is the time for sadness. Stay home, listen to sad songs or watch sad movies. Take the time for yourself, and keep it to yourself. You might be compelled to post sappy song lyrics on your social media or make cryptic posts about how your relationship ended. Do not do this. You can share your sadness with a close friend or family member, but don't broadcast it for the world. Letting everyone see how sad you are will embarrass you and will not make your ex miss you at all.

4. Have Fun

In order to make your ex miss you like crazy, you need to starting having a lot of fun. After you've spend the appropriate time in mourning, you'll feel better to start going out and having fun. Go out with your friends. Spend time with your family. Pick up interesting new hobbies. Go on a vacation. Doing fun things will not only keep your mind off the end of your relationship, it will also show your ex that you are doing just fine. If your ex sees how much fun you are having without them will make them crazy with jealousy and also see how much they miss you.

5. Live Your Life

After your breakup, you need to move on with your life. It may be difficult, but it is for the best. It will also help with your goal of making your ex miss you like crazy. Once they see that you are living your life without them, they'll see that maybe they made a mistake. Focus on schoolwork or things at your job. Make new friends. Go sightseeing. Continue living life without your ex and it will show them that you are strong and independent. This will only make you more desirable and make your ex miss you more than ever.

6. Create a Friendship

Once a long time has passed with no contact, you'll want to initiate contact with your ex again. You don't want to be too serious or let them know that you want them back. Keep it friendly. Make plans to do something casual like go out to lunch or to a park. Spending time with you as a friend will remind your ex of all the things  they loved about you. After you've established a good friendship, you will be comfortable to approach the idea of reuniting with your ex.

3 Ways to Cope With Romantic Rejection

The word rejection is synonymous with dating. You know you got rejected if your online messages aren’t answered, or the person you went on the first date with hasn’t returned your calls. Regardless of the various ways of getting rejected, most rejections have one thing in common. They all make us feel upset, depressed, and angry. What’s worse about rejection is that we can’t find answers to what went wrong, which might keep us wondering. All this self-inflicted punishment makes us feel miserable and can make us lose our self-esteem, confidence, and leave us feeling emotionally weak.

There is a way to rebound from rejection, though. We can get back our happiness, move on and return to the dating scene. Here’s how:

1. Stop criticizing yourself.

It's perfectly fine to be critical of yourself after a rejection, but there is little benefit in that. Many rejections have nothing to do with the personal flaws or shortcomings of a person. It’s more about the chemistry and compatibility of the two individuals. You might think the other person is interested or feels attracted to you, but in reality he or she isn’t interested enough to take it to the next level. If they feel compatible with you, there is a high chance that you too have felt it at some point. Therefore, stop with the self-blaming and bashing, and clear your mind of negative thoughts that you may feel after being rejected.

2. Restore your self-esteem.

Now that you’ve freed yourself of self-criticism, take steps to revive your self-esteem. The best approach for you here is to remind yourself over and over again about all the great qualities you possess, that make you, YOU! Prepare a list of attributes that you have and believe are invaluable for dating and establishing a long-lasting relationship. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you’re a caring, lovable, loyal, compassionate, good listener, amazing kisser, etc. Now, focus on any one of those attributes and write a short essay on it.

Explain to yourself why it’s important to have this in dating and relationships, how this has helped you with your past dates, and why your future boyfriend or girlfriend will find this indispensable, and so forth. Try to write one or two brief paragraphs, or stop only when you start to feel better about yourself. We promise this activity will have a positive impact on your self-esteem.

3. Reclaim your sense of belonging.

Rejections are painful; we won’t disagree with that. But, the main reason why rejection inflicts such emotional pain is that we start to lose our sense of belonging. Humans are naturally inclined to be “wanted,” “loved” and “need to belong” to someone else. It’s this sense of belonging that has made us very susceptible and sensitive to rejection. It’s advised that if you’ve been a victim of rejection, you reach out to your friends and family for support and to regain your sense of belonging.

When you’re looking for a date, be prepared for rejection. It will be painful, and some of you will suffer from it. Following these three steps will make your healing process faster and easier, and make you more confident for your future dates.

Are You Afraid To Date Because You’ll Get Hurt Again?

It’s very common to see someone scared of dating or trusting a man again because they got seriously hurt in their last relationship. No matter how positive they think, they find it very hard to date men and trust again. They feel like all men are just the same. Well, there’s nothing wrong with being afraid to fall in love again after your previous relationship ended badly. We all feel that way sometimes. It’s not the fear that’s the issue. After all, it’s just a feeling and it doesn’t hurt. The fear becomes a huge problem when you allow the fear to restrict your ability to move forward.

Most recently single women say that their previous relationships almost destroyed them. They believe they won’t find love again or trust a man again. Their think their lives will be over. …But, they’re still hanging on. We know that you’re extremely wounded and vulnerable, but you’re still alive. Most men and women treat the end of their relationships as some life threatening accident that will kill or maim them. Sure, after your relationship ends you’ll feel very depressed. It makes you feel appalling and sad indeed. Sometimes the emotional pain can get intense, and but we still manage to get through it.

Usually we don’t want to experience it again and that’s fine. But you have to know that without taking any risks, you can’t gain anything. When you fall in love with someone or enter into a relationship, you don’t know what will happen to you in the future. You can be happy, or you run the risk of getting hurt. You can’t get around it. So, what are you going to do about it? Well, we suggest you start small. Spare yourself a few minutes, and allow yourself to feel whatever is happening to you both physically and emotionally. Allow yourself to feel the compassion for your nervousness, and feel it without judging or self-deprecating yourself. Train yourself to be comfortable and relax in times of discomfort. Figure out ways to entertain yourself and allow yourself to enjoy the frustration and the boredom without the distraction that follows after a breakup or failing to meet the right man or woman to start a new relationship.

If you’re meeting someone new, someone you’re interested in, don’t shy away from feeling the fear or anxiety. Take a minute and feel what you are feeling at the moment, and remind yourself that even though the feeling isn’t exactly nice, it won’t kill you. You know this very well, as you’ve been through this before. This isn’t easy, but at the same time, it can be tremendously fruitful. On a side note, if you happen to be a parent, it’s best not to disappoint your children. Also, don’t introduce your new boyfriend or girlfriend to your kids until you’re entirely sure that he or she wants to be in a committed relationship with you. It’s up to you when you think it's the right time for your kids to meet your new love interest. Nonetheless, if your future life partner proves that he or she is worthy of your trust, congrats! And if they disappoint you, forgive yourself. Getting heartbroken is a part of life as well.

If you’re looking for a date after a breakup, it’s natural to feel afraid to get back in the dating scene again. But, it’s a part of life and the best approach in moving forward.

5 Ways to Stop Obsessing Over a Guy For Good

We all have been obsessive about something in our lives. One of the worst obsessions out there is yearning for someone who got away and who was never meant to be your partner. When it comes to dating and relationships, obsessive thoughts are rife in women. We have seen many single and successful women like doctors, lawyers, teachers, etc., talking about the men they are dating. They keep talking about how they are still waiting for his text message before going to bed, waiting for the call from their boyfriends, etc. They become anxious and get stressed out by over-thinking about what will happen if this guy asks them out for the weekend. These women could have gotten any man they wanted, and yet they are obsessing over a guy who is making them wait for hours just for a call. Why is that?

Women are attracted to men who might like them, instead of men who already are interested. However, women feel like if a man is keeping them on pins and needles, then there is some interest in the guy. This means the guy is providing them some attention to fuel their obsession.

If you discover yourself in this situation, here are a few tips to help you stop obsessing over guys like this:

1. Face Your Fears

We all have our fears and insecurities. We need to get them out so that we can confront them. Writing down or talking about these fears will help you get it out of your head.

2. Limit Your Obsessions

Fix a day and a specific amount of time (say 10 minutes) to permit yourself to be obsessive. When the obsessive thoughts come to your mind, and it comes at the day and time outside of your schedule, tell yourself it is not time. Only reserve those thoughts for the time you allowed previously.

3. Ask For Help From Friends

Friends are there to help and support you during the sad times. Friends can help you differentiate between facts and fiction. If you’re sure that your boyfriend is hanging out with someone else and there is no evidence, your close friend can tell you that you shouldn’t think like this unless you have substantial evidence.

4. Keep Yourself Distracted

When you start to obsess, immediately direct your feelings and thoughts to a different thought or action. For instance, when you begin obsessing over something, tell yourself you will do twenty push-ups or listen to your favorite podcasts. Immediately, you will either see yourself thinking of something else rather than obsessing over him.

5. Shut Off All Communication

If you’re anxious that he won't call and you make yourself unavailable, this will keep your ego intact. You can tell yourself either he called, or he didn't, but you were unavailable. This tactic will give all the control back to you. There are plenty of examples where people obsessing over their ex got terribly out of control. The obsession may fuel the affection, but it will distract you from being YOU. Don’t let your obsessive thoughts control your life.

Therefore, if you’re dating someone, and you find yourself in this situation, these steps might help you to alleviate your obsessions.

5 Psychological Ways to Get Your Ex Back That Nobody Knows About!

The end of a relationship is painful. We're often left wondering what went wrong or how we could have done things differently. While many people move on after a breakup, some people are left longing for their ex. There is good news for these individuals: not all breakups are meant to be permanent. There are many couples who have broken up only to reunite later on and live happily ever after.

Read on to find out if you want to get back with your ex and five ways to ensure they'll want to get back with you.

Do you want your ex back?

The first thing to consider when revisiting an old relationship is if you truly want to get back with your ex. Here are some questions you should ask yourself before you start imagining your reunion.

Was I happy? This is the most important thing to consider. After a breakup, you might find yourself remembering all of the good times with your ex while ignoring the bad. You may want to sit down and make a list of the good times vs. the bad times. If you were happy for a majority of the relationship, then it might be worth getting back together.

Was it healthy? It is crucial to think of whether or not your relationship was healthy. Were the two of you goo for one another? Did you bring out the best or the worst in one another? If your relationship was constant drama and fighting, it wasn't healthy and probably not worth getting back together.

Why do I want my ex back? This one may be difficult to answer. You need to figure out why you want to reunite with your ex. Is it because you're lonely? Is it because you don't want them to be with someone else? Is it because you truly love them and believe that another try could work? If it is anything but the last question, you probably shouldn't get back together.

Five Psychological Tricks for Getting Your Ex Back

Once you've figured out if you truly want to get back together with your ex, it's time to see if they feel the same way. Everyone deals with a breakup differently and your ex may be moving forward in a complete different direction that you. The following are five ways of making sure that you and your ex are on the same page.

No Contact

You'll be tempted to contact your ex and talk things over after you break up. Don't. It's one thing if you need to contact them for something important (No, “I left that shirt I wore one time 4 years ago at your place.” is not important.), but to contact them constantly is not okay. This behavior will only push them away and decrease the likelihood that they'll want to get back together.

If you want your ex to want you back, you need to keep the contact to a bare minimum…if any at all. Not hearing from you will make them miss you and wonder what you're up to. This will make them more likely to initiate conversation with you and lead to reuniting.

Reverse Psychology

You need to use reverse psychology to encourage your ex to want you back. Make them think that you don't want them, and they'll want you. It might sound crazy, but reverse psychology has been proven to work in countless scenarios time after time.

While you're probably still hurt from your breakup, don't let it show. Whether you're mad, sad, or just straight-up confused, never let on on to any of that. You want your ex to see that you are mature and moving forward with life. You want to show that the breakup has had no effect on your life. This will only make you more desirable to them.

Don't Worry, Be Happy

Your ex probably thinks that you're hiding out at home, eating a pint of ice cream and crying over old photographs. Never let them think this…even if that's exactly what you're doing. You need to present a confident, carefree and happy image to the world.

Upload pictures of yourself having fun to your social media. Plan a vacation with friends and talk about it publicly. Let you ex see how happy and lighthearted you can be. This will only make them want to be back in your life more than ever.

Change Up Your Look

Remember in Grease when Sandy ditches her preppy dresses and opts for a wild hairstyle and leather pants? That's exactly what we're talking about here. You need to make a dramatic change to your appearance.

Whether it be a new hairstyle or a change of clothes, a different look will definitely get your ex's attention. They'll see how great you look now and wonder why they ever dumped you.

Build A Friendship

After a period of no-contact and once your ex has initiated conversation, work on building a good friendship with them. Don't jump right into getting back together. Don't argue over why the breakup happened. Keep it light and free of drama. Focus on what you really like about your ex and let them see what they really like about you. Invite them to do something the two of you used to enjoy and it will remind them of all the good times you had together. Once you can be together as friends, you can start working towards a better relationship.

While not every couple is destined to get back together, some couples just need some time apart to realize how much they mean to one another. You and your ex may be a couple that can bounce back from a breakup and be better than ever. Now you have all the info you need to see if you and your ex are destined for a reunion.

4 Big Mistakes Guys Make In Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, there are so many ways you can mess it up. Even the best couples make mistakes in their relationships. Some of these mistakes, if continued for a long time, can ruin a relationship. So, it is important to know the biggest mistakes most men make in their relationships. Staying away from these mistakes will not only help to get your girlfriend and keep her, but will also make your love life a lot more fulfilling in the long run.

Below are the four big mistakes men make in relationships:

1. You don't feel her presence.

We all have qualities that make us feel good. We feel great when we know who we are and what we want. You feel like you are at the top of your game when you mean what you say and get what you want. Well, it’s similar for women, too. Ladies who navigate by feminine energy and love desire this more than men. It’s sexy, and when you make women feel good about themselves, they will literally swoon over you. The reason is that it makes them feel safe and secure. She trusts that you will be by her side no matter what. So every time you act fearful, uncertain or indecisive, it breaks that connection, and she feels less attracted, less trustful and sometimes even repulsed by you. So, guys, take note of this one. It’s important.

2. You don’t understand women.

Women are emotional. They navigate the world with their feminine energy, and that is emotion. So, one moment you will find your girlfriend all over the place, happy one minute, angry the next hour. Yes, us men think that this makes no sense, and women are “crazy”. You would do the same if you had her body chemistry. When you realize that her emotions aren’t interrupting your boring status quo, instead it is making your world alive, fun exciting and spontaneous, and is a welcoming diversion, you will see that she is actually making your world better every single day.

3. You made something else more important than her.

A woman responds to adoration and praise. You girlfriend craves for your presence and attention. A conscious focus and a sweet, heartfelt commitment will make her light up and glow in her beautiful feminine radiance. So, if you ignore her, overlook her, don’t make her feel special, take her for granted, and made something else more important than her, then prepare for some serious trouble in your relationship. Never be oblivious to her feelings, be too self-absorbed, break her trust or make her feel unsafe.

4. You are intimidated by her.

This one is more common than you think, but it is true nonetheless. In dating and relationships, guys want to be in control, but the reality is that feminine energy is all about flow. It doesn’t matter what you do, you can't really hold back the flow, and feminine energy can’t be controlled. Even men tougher than you have tried it, only to fail in the end. A smart man, instead of controlling it, channels that energy. They respect it, ride it out, and they know that it is a part of life.

5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Give Up On Your Relationship

If you've ever thought of giving up on your relationship, then you aren’t alone. You could be thinking about it right now, wondering if you will be better off if you leave the relationship. Maybe you are considering staying in the relationship and waiting for things to improve, but not sure when that will happen. If you didn’t know already, it’s the lack of proper communication and affection that cause most of the conflicts between couples.

You could leave the relationship now, but you don’t want to be left with regret and guilt. Before making this important, life-changing decision, here are five questions to ask yourself:

1. Do I feel happy most of the time?

All of us struggle in our relationships, even the best of us. It’s true that some challenges make these relationships stronger, but if you find yourself unhappy most of the time in your relationship, then it’s time you question what is happening. No one should be unhappy in their relationship. If there is something that’s bothering you, discuss it with your partner.

2. Am I making time for them?

Nowadays most of us are so busy with our lives and responsibilities that sometimes our relationships take a backseat. We don’t spend enough time with our partners or friends; we don’t socialize, etc. Regardless of how hectic your life is, you should always make time for each other.

3. Do I have regrets?

We aren’t talking about your past regrets here, but the future. How will you feel if the situation in your relationship is the same after a year or two? How will you feel if nothing has changed? Did you wish to do something for the relationship or yourself? Living with regrets will leave you scarred emotionally, more than an unhappy relationship would. So, ask yourself whether it’s possible for you to make these changes and not live with regrets.

4. Do I laugh?

Laughter is the best medicine. Laughter is  the glue that sticks two people in the relationship together during the tough times. Ask yourself: are you laughing more than fighting? Ask yourself how many times a week you two laugh together. Is it more than how often you argue? Be very honest about this. It might be an eye-opener for you. After all, relationships are supposed to make you and your partner feel happy and good; they aren’t supposed to drag you down.

5. Is this relationship bringing out the best in me?

This is the question very few of us ask ourselves, and if we do ask, we aren’t quite sure how to answer it. However, it’s imperative to ask yourself if your girlfriend or partner is encouraging you to be the best version of yourself. Is she constantly pulling you down? Is your partner fulfilling your needs? Is your beloved bringing out the negative emotions in of you? Does your partner and the relationship add meaning to your life? Does your relationship make your life more colorful and richer? Go deep inside of yourself to find the answers and be honest about what you find.


3 Things You Must Do to Win Your Ex Back

So you both are no longer a couple, but you are still in contact. By looking into her eyes you can tell that she still has feelings for you. She still finds you attractive and she still yearns for you. You also want her back. If your mindset is right, this separation can actually be a good thing. Why, you ask? Well, you being single for the time being is a good, fun, experimental ground for you to hone your seduction skills.

Your ex is a person with whom you shared a history with. She was seduced by you and fell in love with you. And it is most likely that, despite the arguments and disagreements, those feelings are still there. Those emotions will return once you try to win her love back. Let's be honest, if you are looking for a relationship, seducing or winning back an ex is much easier than luring in a new person. But you need to exciting, bold, and adventurous. You need to have that “you couldn’t care less” attitude. This will drive your ex crazy for you and this is how she will fall in love with you like she did the last time.

Here are three tips you should follow to win your ex back:

1. Learn a new skill.

Why? What is the point? How does it help to seduce your ex? When someone breaks up with you, your self-esteem takes a big hit. You need a lot of time to heal and get back to your former self. Because your self-esteem has already hit rock-bottom, it will take even more time. It’s your lack of self-esteem that made you end your relationship in the first place. One easy way to regain your self-esteem is by learning a new skill. Also, learning something new is a positive and soothing distraction from the pain of your breakup. It will make you think less about your ex, which doesn’t give you the chance to worry about what they are doing.

2. Treat them the way they treat you.

People will be affectionate to you when you are affectionate to them. Don't withhold affection, reciprocate it. Enjoy the passion and sweetness of each other's company. Don’t act ugly in any way, form, or shape. If they withdraw, do the same yourself. If they want space, give it to them. You will find that they will then begin to miss you. This behavior will make your ex latch on to you and never let go of you again.

3. Make yourself present in their life.

When you have restored your self-esteem and are ready to get back on the dating scene again, you can think about making a grand entrance into your ex’s life. And, what’s more interesting is that you don’t even have to try hard. They will invite you into their life with arms wide open. They will fantasize about you and will find you mesmerizing again. You will find yourself overly content after the breakup. Why is that? It’s because now they will feel that they have less power than previously. You have transformed yourself into a more desirable person who seems to have it all. So there’s nothing that’s stopping you.

3 Texts to Never Send an Ex-Girlfriend You Want Back

Breakups can be terribly painful especially if you’ve been together for a long time. Now that your relationship is over, you’re feeling depressed, lonely and yearning for your ex-girlfriend. While most breakups are ultimately for the best, some are a mistake. You may feel like you can patch things up with your ex-girlfriend and make things work a second time around.

So how exactly do you go about getting back together with your ex-girlfriend? You can always just go right to her and let her know, but that might be too soon and too direct. Today's world places a lot of importance on using text messages to communicate. So, with that in mind, texting might be the medium that you can use to get your ex-girlfriend back. Hold up, though; don't grab that phone just yet! There's three types of text messages that will send her running away from your arms, not into them.

Three texts that will destroy your chances of getting back together with an ex-girlfriend:

Rehashing Old Drama

It may be tempting to text her asking what went wrong. You might want to figure out what could have been done differently. You're probably wondering why she wanted out of the relationship. …but you shouldn't text her about any of these things. Once the relationship was over, it was over. Texting her about any previous drama will only drive her further away from you. If you want to get her back, you need to create a clean slate. Don't live in the past.

Blaming Her

This goes along with the previous idea. You do not want to text your ex-girlfriend anything that indicate she was the reason for the relationship ending. Do not try to make her feel guilt or place blame on her. The two of you are now separated, so any contact you have should be trying to rebuild a friendship. If you're constantly texting her about how awful she was to breakup with you or things that she could have done differently, she will never want to get back with you.

Being Desperate

When you’re attempting to reunite with your ex-girlfriend, acting desperate is like shooting yourself in the foot. This means don't text too much or too often. Act like you have moved on with your life, but still want to keep in touch. Don't let her see that you're miserable without you. If you act like you're doing fine without her, it will only make her want you more. So avoid texts that are too sappy, sad, or make you seem like you're pining for her affection. If you use your texts to portray an image of confidence and stability, you'll have her back in no time.

3 Ways to Be Happy After a Brutal Breakup

Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. It’s terribly painful and one of hardest things a person can do. It doesn’t matter how peaceful you try to make the end of a relationship; there's always going to be pain on one or both sides.

If you’re going through a painful breakup or divorce, it’s highly likely that you’re dealing with a ton of miserable thoughts and emotions. You’re struggling to find the light at the end of the tunnel. It's totally normal to feel this way after a relationship ends. Your mind is probably full of questions: What went wrong? Will I ever love again? Will I ever be happy again?

The answer is “Yes, you will be happy again.”

Even after the worst of breakups, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will find love again. You will find happiness again. After a particularly bad breakup, we are often left feeling hopeless, unwanted, insecure and basically any other negative emotion in the book. The prospect of being happy again seems unimaginable. But as impossible as it may seem, you will be happy again.

Here are three ways to find happiness after a bad breakup:

Be Kind to Yourself

For starters, the first thing you need to do is to be kind to yourself. You need to acknowledge that all the feelings you’re having are natural. They say it can take six months to a year to recover from a breakup, depending on how long the relationship was. During this time, it's likely that you'll feel down about yourself and wonder why your relationship failed. Instead of belaboring over what went wrong, begin to build yourself up again. Remind yourself of the good things about you and your life.

Figure Out Your Priorities

The period after a breakup is a good time to start figuring out what you want in your future. You might evaluate your career choices, places you want to travel, and of course future relationships. You have plenty of time to think about the goals you want to achieve and the kind of people you want to be around. It might help to start a journal and keep track of your ideas and set goals for yourself. You'll have something solid to remind you of all the things you’re yet to achieve. Following this approach will make it much easier for you to start finding happiness after a breakup.

Get Back Out There

Once you've taken the time to mourn the relationship that ended, it will be time for you to re-enter the world of dating. It will seem daunting at first, but it will benefit you in the end. Once you're comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship again, start going out and meeting new people. The excitement of meeting someone new and going on dates will make you forget all about the relationship that ended. Before you know it, you'll be in a better relationship and you will have found the happiness you never thought you'd see again.