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4 Ways to Impress a Guy Through Messages

So you just met a guy you like and you want to make a good impression? Back in the day, you would've been stressing over what outfit to wear or how to do your hair. While those things are still important, times have certainly changed! In today's world, text messages and online chats are your first opportunity to make a good impression. The messages you send and the things you say will be a huge reflection of who you are when talking to a new guy. It's important to know how to look good through messaging. You'll need to master certain tips and techniques to get the guy you're chatting with to be interested in you.

Here are four tips and tricks for impressing a guy through messages:

1. Flirt!

This one should be obvious. If you want to let this guy know that you're interested in him, you'll need to master your flirtation skills. You're probably wondering how exactly you're supposed to flirt through a text message… Well, the same way you would in person! Joke with him. Make playful jabs at him. Be sarcastic (but not too much). The only difference between flirting through messaging and in person is that your tone doesn't translate well through messages. You might make a joke, and he won't realize you're joking. This is where emojis become your best friend. A winking smiley emoji can be the difference between a playful joke and a rude remark.

2. Keep it Brief

When you're chatting with a guy through texting or messages, keep it short. Don't send him long paragraphs that detail every aspect of your day. You'll just bore him to death. Don't overload him with ten texts in a row. He'll think you're crazy and needy.  Keep your messaging short and simple. Ask him questions about himself. Let him do the talking. If he wants to know something about you or your life, he'll ask. Keeping it brief will keep him curious, and also keep him from getting annoyed with you.

3. Don't Seem Desperate

This is an important one. Nothing sends a guy running away like desperation. Even if you are desperate, don't look desperate.  You need to play hard to get through your messages. Don't let him think that you're waiting for his reply or that you're thinking of texting him all day. Let him think you don't need to speak to him. You can achieve this by spreading your responses out. If he texts you, don't respond immediately. I know it can be hard, but wait a few hours. This will keep him guessing. This will also keep you from looking desperate. Plus, it creates some mystery about you. If you're not always responding to him right away, you'll have him wondering what you're up to.

4. Send Pictures

A picture is worth a thousand words, right? No, I don't mean dirty pictures. (Unless both parties are interested and consenting to that…I'm not here to judge.) I mean interesting or intriguing pictures. Send him a picture that will spark a conversation. This could be something funny you saw that day or a cool place you visited. Send him a picture of something you think he'd like to see. It could be of something you guys talked about before, or just something that reminded you of him. Either way, a picture breaks up the monotony of small-talk. He'll be glad to see he received a picture, rather than the usual “How was your day?”

The Basics

To keep it simple, here are some guidelines to follow when trying to impress a guy through messages:

  • Don't chat too much, too long or too often.
  • Make sure this guy does actually want to speak to you.
  • Send interesting pictures.
  • Don't be vulgar or offensive.
  • Stay away from drunk texting. (This is just asking for embarrassment.)
  • Make it personal.
  • Don't bore him.
  • Be yourself!