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11 Signs That Show Your Partner Might Be Cheating

Cheating is common in many relationships today. When a partner is cheating, there are always signs. No matter how hard they try, cheating boyfriends or girlfriends will show hints of their unfaithfulness.

Here are eleven signs to look out for if you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you:

1. Your partner is overly obsessed with himself or herself. He/she is always checking on how they’re dressed or how they look in a mirror. It’s obvious that your partner might be trying to look attractive to impress the other person. If you see a drastic change in the appearance of your partner, pay attention.

2. You see your partner, who used to dress moderately, suddenly starts wearing expensive shoes, trousers, shirts and perfumes. If you find lipstick stains on him that are not your's or smell a perfume from another lady or man, you may have an indication that he/she is cheating on you.

3. Your partner starts to spend more time with his/her new love interest. This new love interest can be a friend, a colleague, a companion or even an associate of your's. If he/she is a guy or a gal, you might need to know more about this relationship, as it’s highly likely it’s an affair.

4. Your partner suddenly begins to argue with you over irrelevant things. He/she is trying to blame you for something you had nothing to do with, and you realize that they’re doing it to pick a fight with you. This could be a sign that your partner is cheating.

5. All of a sudden, your partner begins seeking privacy. He/she makes secret calls and sends texts or emails without you knowing anything about it and also will not want you to know about some things.

6. Your partner goes on a sudden vacation or business trip without telling you about it. Apparently, your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t want you to know where he/she goes or doesn’t want to tell you about it. All this makes you even more suspicious that your partner is cheating on you.

7. He/she is always texting and chatting online. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is always on the computer chatting with someone, or texts on his or her phone for a long period even while you are there in front of them. You better find out soon what’s going on, because he/she isn’t chatting or texting their friends or family.

8. He/she becomes less romantic and affectionate. Lack of communication and misunderstanding will hurt romance and affection. If you notice that your partner is less romantic to you, or when you try to be intimate or close to him/her, he/she rejects you without giving any solid reasons, it is a bad sign and cheating can be the reason.

9. He/she tells unnecessary lies. When your partner lies about things that don’t matter to you much, be careful. If your boyfriend/girlfriend begins to twist his/her words or explain things that are out of context, or simply that aren’t important to you, you better take a closer look.

10. It is good to have friends, but when your boyfriend has a lot of female friends, even more than yourself, and you’ve never met most of them, be watchful. Notice his reactions, when you tell him that it’s making you feel insecure and uncomfortable that he’s hanging out them.

11. Your partner might show little or no interest in being physically intimate with you. He/she seems disinterested in having sexual relations with you and also in everyday life activities.

7 Signs That He Is Not Interested In You

Sometimes the old clichés are true and it hurts to know the truth. But, knowing the truth also sets you free. We all have been in situations where, despite doing everything by the book, our partners don’t have the same feelings towards us. Here are a few signs that show that he’s not interested in you:

1. He says he’s not ready for a relationship.

Pay heed to his lines. If he says that he’s not into relationships, it means that he doesn’t believe in marriage. He’s just looking for fun, that’s it. He’s not interested in you and won’t be committed to you. So, cut him loose and find someone who’s looking for a relationship and values it.

2. He asks you to date other guys.

If your partner encourages you to see other guys, it’s not because he wants you to enrich your dating experiences by dating multiple people at the same time. In fact, he’s telling you that he’s not interested in having you all to himself. In other words, he doesn’t want to have an exclusive relationship with you. If this thought makes you uncomfortable, you should start dating someone else who wants an exclusive relationship.

3. He won’t hold hands or show PDA with you.

He hugs and kisses you privately. He won’t hold hands or put his hand over your shoulder or waist in public. It feels like he is not comfortable or feels ashamed to be with you in public. You want to be with someone who should feel happy, comfortable and proud to date you.

4. He won’t make plans in advance.

We aren’t saying that your new boyfriend should plan a getaway six months in the future, but if he feels hesitant to go for dinner next weekend or to a close friend’s birthday party, then you have a problem. It clearly shows that you aren’t his priority and he’s not invested in the relationship. If he were serious about you, none of these would be an issue.

5. He tries to not introduce you to his friends and family.

If he skips meeting your family on the weekend and makes all kinds of excuses to make you stay away from meeting his family or friends when you ask for it, this clearly indicates that he’s not thrilled with you being around him or his family and friends. A guy who is crazy about you can hardly wait to introduce you to his family and friends.

6. He forgets the important stuff and talks about the same things again and again.

Some men are forgetful. Some guys are so not interested in the relationship that they won’t make an effort to remember any important details. Instead, he will tell you the same stories and jokes over and over again and always be disconnected when you’re having a conversation with him. Does he remember your birthday? Can he recall what your favorite food or flower is? If he can't, we can safely say he’s not into you.

7. He delays returning your calls or text messages.

If you call him and text him and he doesn’t respond quickly, it’s time you evaluate your relationship with your new boyfriend. We understand that sometimes he can’t answer or respond to your calls and texts because he’s busy with work or doing something else, but if there has been delays more than 24 hours, then it’s clear you aren’t very important to him. It’s time you leave and get yourself someone new. To get a clear idea how a guy should react when he is interested in you, read this article.

3 Ways To Handle Conflicts Early On In a Relationship

So you like him and you’ve gone on a few dates with him. You’ve spent a delightful time getting to know each other, and now you’ve faced your first problem in the relationship – your first disagreement. He suddenly stops being affectionate with you, or he’s consistently late, and it’s making you angry, or maybe he forgot to call every other day, and so on. You start having second thoughts about the future of your relationship.

Here are three ways to handle conflicts that happen early in a relationship:

1. Don’t Assume Everything Is Okay

This is seen in most women, especially when they’re very interested in a man and they accept whatever happens and hold back all of their feelings so that they don’t scare him away. This behavior is highly noticeable among those who have a few unsuccessful relationships in the past. Despite the fact that you’re seething with anger and resentment, you keep quiet and calm, and always say “yes” to things he suggests doing even if you really don’t feel comfortable doing them. You profess that it doesn’t affect you badly when he isn’t spending time with you and isn’t giving you the affection you want. But by doing this, it actually stops you from truly connecting with a man and forming a deeper relationship with him. Why? Because he can’t understand what makes you feel happy. Besides, the more you keep withholding your thoughts and emotions from your boyfriend, the more you start to resent him and  push him away.

2. Don’t Make Him Wrong

Often, when you’ve been suppressing whatever it is that’s making you dislike a guy, you’ll end up with so much anger that you can't take. That’s when your emotions will take over, and you'll unleash all of your suppressed feelings like an explosion, despite your best efforts not to. And most of it seems like accusations that are directed at your man. Everything you do and say makes him feel guilty and wrong. It’s at this point that he gets into defensive mode, shuts down, and doesn’t want to hear from you anymore. Also, you end up with a man who makes himself distant from you and even ends all kinds of contact with you. You feel awful and keep blaming yourself entirely because you failed to make the relationship work.

3. Always Speak About Your Feelings

If you master being open about your feelings, you’ll be saved from a lot of heartache and frustration. If your boyfriend did something that didn’t make you feel good, and he keeps doing it, then focus on the feeling instead of what he’s been doing. If he forgot to call after he promised to call, instead of arguing with him about it, tell him that you’re feeling disappointed that you don’t talk like you used to do before. Notice there isn’t any accusatory tone here. It’s not about what he said, or what he is or isn’t doing. You’re reminding him what’s going on in the relationship and how you’re feeling about it. When you’re dating someone, and when you express your feelings to him/her, always give your partner a chance to make it better.

Will Your Relationship Last If You Are Dating A More Intellectual Person?

When it comes to relationships, one of the traits that matters the most is whether a person is an intellectual or not. Apart from physical or sexual attraction, you need to think a lot about how similar both of you are in this area. If you both are incompatible in this department, it’s highly likely that the romance in your relationship will fizzle out over the course of months or  years.

So, how intelligent are you? Don’t think about what your IQ score is. Here we are talking about how much you like to think about and discuss pressing issues. Pause for a minute and think about how much you like to read books, magazines, and newspapers. Do you like reading books and periodicals regularly? Do you like to read light or prefer something that’s more in-depth?

Is It Important To Date Someone Who Cares About The Same Intellectual Subjects As You?
There is no right or wrong answer about what kind of topics any individual should care about. But, a man or woman who has a highly intellectual mind will generally talk and think about serious issues. Some men and women don’t like to have in-depth conversations, or they prefer to keep things light, but people who are more intellectual than others will always like to delve deep into any given subject. Suppose you’re on holiday with the person you’re dating, and the two of you are celebrating three years of your relationship. Imagine what kind of topics you would both be talking about? If you’re genuinely passionate about certain issues, you’ll probably discuss those things on vacation. Would your boyfriend or girlfriend be that person? Do you both care enough about the same problems?

Intellectual Levels Play A Vital Role In The Longevity Of The Relationship.
If you’ve started dating recently, the sexual attraction, lust and  newness of that person will keep things interesting and exciting for some time. But, as the relationship matures, it will cease to be interesting like before, and the only thing that will keep the bond tight is similar values and intellectual interests. If you’re an intellectually-minded man or woman, it’s not necessary to date someone who shares the same interests as you. But, if they have other intellectual interests, you’ll respect them for it, and it will fascinate you at the same time. Now, on the flip side, if you think of yourself as an intellectually-minded individual and you're in a relationship with someone who has no actual interest in discussing things in depth, the both of you will immediately run out of subjects to talk about. You’re going to feel emotionally disconnected from him or her because you’re intellectually disconnected.

The Bottom Line
When you begin dating someone, take some time to think and find out whether he or she prefers to talk about simple issues or serious issues. Most men and women, because of the sexual attraction and sheer excitement of being in a relationship, tend to ignore or overlook whether they’re intellectually compatible with each other. Intellectual compatibility is imperative if you want to have a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship.

5 Ways To See If A Guy Is Into You

Whether you’re checking out that hunky guy at the bar, or the man you’re having a first date with and thinking that he might be a keeper, you won’t go anywhere unless you know how to tell if a man likes you. Here are five ways that will help you figure it out:

1. Analyze His Body Language

A big clue about whether he's interested in you or not is his body language. Does he lean towards you while you talk? It doesn’t matter if it’s a subtle lead-in or a full-fledged bow. If he leans towards you, then he is interested in you. Also check if he keeps leaning in when you are chatting with him, sitting across the dinner table from him, and so on. If he leans back every time you lean in, then it’s not a good sign.

2. Access His Eye Contact

They say, “the eyes are the window to the soul.” If he is into you, he’ll gaze into your eyes. If someone at the bar makes consistent eye contact with you, then give him something back too. Make eye contact! Let him know you’re interested in knowing him too! It will give him the sign that he can come over and have a conversation. Direct eye contact is a good hint that he’s not only interested in you but also curious to know more about you.

3. He Wants To Be Closer To You

If you’re on a date and discover that he’s looking for every chance to touch you, whether it’s a subtle pat on your arm, knee or shoulder, he probably likes you. These so-called “accidental” touches are done on purpose to convey that the man is into you. If you’re walking through a crowded place or heading to your dinner table at the restaurant, he’ll guide you by putting his arm on your back. It means that he wants to take you to the place you want, but also ensure that it is the same place he is going to. In short, he’s taking care of you.

4. He Is Copying You

When a man copies your actions subconsciously, it can only mean one thing; he is interested in you. If you notice your date brushing his hair back like you at the same time or imitating your gestures at the dinner table, it means he’s building rapport with you.

5. He Wants To Relate To You.

When it comes to falling in love, men and women are drawn to each other when they share common interests. Therefore, if a man is interested in you, he will look for more ways to relate to you. While having a conversation with you, he will share things with you: his hobbies, his views, his life goals, his experiences, and in some cases even his personal secrets. He does all of these things to find common ground with you and see that you’re compatible with him. For example, he will ask you to pick the movie, your favorite dessert, or he will ask whether he can join you for your next yoga class, etc. All these point to him being interested in getting to know more about you!

5 Awesome Reasons You Should Get Married

Most of us in long-term relationships hope that the relationship will result in marriage. There are pros and cons of getting married, but in this article we will focus only on the good things. The decision to get married is huge and there are plenty of legitimately good reasons to become man and wife. Here are five of those great reasons to tie the knot:

1. Marriage Has Financial Benefits

Couples who get married will accumulate more wealth by combining both households and reducing living costs. Getting married opens the gate for you and your partner to get access to family health, dental and other insurance benefits more easily. You both get access to retirement plans and social security. Marriage also makes it easier to inherit from each other. You get tax benefits from the IRS, charitable deductions, the ability to fund IRAs, etc.

2. Getting Married Makes You Happier and Healthier 

Overall, married folks are healthier physically and mentally and have greater self-esteem and confidence than single people. So, if you’re one of those men and women who wants to feel happier, live longer, healthy, and remain physically and mentally active for a long time, get married soon.

3. Marriage Is Beneficial For Kids

One of the primary reasons for tying the knot is the social stigma people face when they have kids outside of marriage. Kids born outside the realm of marriage are more likely to fall into poverty, fail academically, and suffer various behavioral and emotional problems. The main reason for these kids born outside of marriage failing is that they aren’t receiving the care and support provided by both parents. Outside of marriage, both parents aren’t legally responsible for the kids, but getting married gives both parents the legal obligation to take care of them.

4. Want To Have Better Sex? Get Married

This one is pretty tricky and depends on your preferences. But it’s widely accepted that people who are happier, healthier, and financially better off, have better sex than people who are single or than couples who cohabitate. Another good reason to tie the knot!

5. Marriage Reduces Divorce, While Cohabitation Increases It

There has been a lot of debate that says couples can equally be happy cohabiting? The thing is that people who cohabitate and then decide to wed later are more likely to get divorced at some point compared to couples who marry without living together.

Judging by all the pros, we can easily tell that marriage is the hands-down winner. When you’re in a committed relationship, it’s natural for both of you to think of getting married. Apart from getting married to feel happier, have a better sex life, live longer, and save money on insurance premiums, marriage brings you and your partner closer to each other and is more emotionally intimate. Marriage is also the best environment to raise children in if that’s the point of you getting married.

4 Ways Thinking About Sex Will Lead to A Better Relationship

When it comes to relationships, we reflect on a lot of things. But, are you thinking about the right stuff? We all want to have healthy and long-lasting relationships. Love and sex makes the world go around. We’re human; it’s what we do. Now it’s been discovered that thinking about sex is as important as having sex in romantic relationships. In other words, the ultimate key to a better relationship is to think more about sex.

Yes, you heard that right! The more you think about sex, the better your relationship will be. However, this doesn’t mean you folks in relationships should just start having more sex. It actually means that you should increase your raunchy thoughts. Eventually, thinking about sex more helps men and women in loving relationships.

Researchers have found that men and women who were exposed to sexual stimuli, images or thoughts, were highly likely to open up about themselves and date someone with whom they can share their feelings and thoughts. Psychologists have always said that a person needs to be sexually aroused to initiate sex with a partner. They also said sex is a way to start emotionally bonding. The human is designed to forge relationships, and when we are dating or in a relationship, we have sexual desires, and sexual desire makes us chatty. Being chatty actually comes in handy a lot when people first start dating. Chattiness is also suitable for couples in long-term relationships. When people are thinking about sex, emotional intimacy gets initiated. Whenever people think about sex and later share his or her personal stories, it makes the other person attracted to them

Here are some suggestions that will be helpful to cultivate this sexually driven chattiness and lead to a better relationship:

1. Be aware of it and be cautious with whom your start talking to. Sharing too much with the wrong people won’t do much help to better your relationship.

2. Pay attention to your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you notice them being extra romantic, it may be a good time to chat. But, keep in mind not to bring up any marital issues.

3. Don’t talk too much. Don’t give away too much information. At the same, it’s also not nice to just blabber away at your partner about every little emotion or thought. Instead, open up slowly and give your significant other time to speak. Don’t have the spotlight all to yourself.

4. Create a sexy environment. If you’re thinking of giving your physical and emotional closeness a little push, consider crafting a charming and sexy atmosphere. Light candles for dinner, play romantic music or wear something that looks hot. If your significant other is in a happy, open and sharing mood, have sex with them.

When you’re dating someone or you are in a relationship, thinking about sex is as important as having sex. Thinking about sex more than usual can lead a healthier, better relationship.

3 Important Steps To Help You Reconnect With Your Partner

Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse? Are you thinking of ways to make your relationship more romantic? Thinking of getting your girlfriend or wife a diamond necklace or a sexy dress? Sounds like a good idea, right? Not always. You see, expensive jewelry or that romantic dinner date isn’t the way to a woman’s heart. In fact, it’s the mundane and smallest of acts in relationships that are the most significant of all. You can’t have a loving relationship if you fail to connect emotionally with your partner.

Here are three steps to help you reconnect with your partner:

1. Accept Offers For Connection

Most couples often ignore each other’s emotional needs not because of resentment, but out of mindlessness. If you want to feel connected with your partner, the first initiative will be to recognize how important those small and rather meaningless moments of love are such as sitting together and watching TV silently, or kissing your partner while she’s making coffee, and so on. This is vital, not only for building trust in your relationship, but for intimacy and romance as well. The simple act of not taking everyday interactions, and yes, small acts, for granted can do miracles in a marriage or a romantic relationship. For instance, helping your significant other with chores around the house will do more good to your relationship than going on a week-long vacation in Paris.

2. Understand Each Other's Love Maps

Most often, couples assume that their partners listen and can read all of their feelings. The secret to understanding your spouse well isn’t derived from mind reading. Instead, it’s accomplished through hard work and sharing openly and honestly your emotions and thoughts. Do you know the moment your partner worries and stresses the most? How much can you tell about their hopes and aspirations? What are their life goals? The best way to understand each other is by asking them questions, and keep on asking them. Remember all the answers. Sharing your inner self and knowing your life partner better is a reward that will last a lifetime.

3. Cultivate A Sense Of Appreciation And Respect

One of the major components of a healthy, lasting relationship is a deep sense of appreciation and respect for each other. If you interrupt your wife in the middle of a conversation where she’s trying to prove a point, how can you build affection and respect in the relationship? We all have flaws in our personalities.

Learn to accept those flaws, rather than focusing on your partner’s inadequacies. If the moment is right, express what you cherish about him or her. The key is to learn how to reconnect with your spouse, and when you see your significant other doing something right and good, appreciate them. Tell them that you’re thankful that he or she has done all the dishes, and you genuinely appreciate it. Keep in mind that every time you do this, your partner will feel an emotional connection with you, which is vital to have a thriving and long-lasting marriage or a relationship.

3 Things You Can Do To Help Find Your Soulmate

Love is a journey and we need to remind ourselves what love is all about, and then we will be able to find it. Most men and women, while looking for their soulmate, get lost while figuring out what they really want in a relationship.

Here are three important things about love that you need to think about before you can find your soulmate:

1. Respect The Love That Comes From The Heart

Be respectful to the love whose origin is the heart, not the logical mind. Our conscious mind merely reflects what our hearts want, but most of it can be misinterpreted by the visions we have that are based on our inner fears. This is the reason why some men and women try to find the perfect person, and they fail to understand that there is no such thing. We all crave comfort. We create a mental list of what we are looking for in someone, and this no longer comes from the heart. A paradox is born, as we aren’t following our hearts to look for love any longer. Our egos might overwhelm us, as we no longer trust our hearts. Therefore, it’s important to grow emotionally so we can trust our hearts once again while dealing with love.

2. Understand That To Love Is To Open Up And Accept What Life Brings Us

Figuring out what we need is a difficult task, but it is the main thing that we require to learn to love someone from the heart. And to get there, we should go to a place where we will face challenges that will enable us to grow emotionally. People don’t like to make mistakes, as it exposes our flaws and makes us feel guilty. So we don’t like to face challenges that aren’t familiar to us, and we prefer to turn it down despite these being the opportunities to make us more emotionally mature. Consequently, we are more likely to repeat the same patterns all over again. It’s important to learn how to take lessons from our past mistakes and grow from them. A soulmate is our biggest source of growth. We will feel intense attraction and feelings that are incredibly strong towards our soul mates, and we feel this way because the heart knows this. They’re our journey to happiness, growth, and they help us to confront our deepest issues. After all, true love can only be found if our ego is absent.

3. Use Your Intuition To Follow Higher Guidance

Once we realize that we are heading towards our journey to attain emotional growth, we will attract the person we think will be right for us. We start meeting certain people at the right moment in our lives. All of them have concealed messages for us to assist us in our journey. We will see, smell, hear or feel things in our way, and we need to use our instincts to understand the true meanings of these signs. If you’re looking for the perfect partner who can transform your life, then you’ll need to attain the right mindset and embark on the journey that will attract your soulmate.

The Unexpected Way You Can Tell Your Relationship Is Getting Serious

You’ve been dating your boyfriend for a few weeks and you feel happy that after all these years, you’ve finally met someone who you think is your soulmate. You’ve been thinking about all sorts of things regarding the status of your relationship. Is it casual or are you in a committed, exclusive relationship? In fact, one of the most confusing and challenging parts of any loving relationship is to find out how to label it. You might be thinking of some unexpected ways to figure out whether your relationship is about to get serious, but you feel disappointed when you see it's not what you think.

During the first few dates, you can't help but wonder, “Does he like me?”, or “Will he call me again, or is he just being polite?” The last part is probably the worst thing one can think of on a first date. While dating there is always this complicated question: “What are we?’ Are we in a relationship? Are we a couple? Is she my girlfriend? Is he my boyfriend? Is our relationship casual or exclusive? If not, what should I call our relationship?”

The truth is, the way you can tell that your relationship became serious, and your partner has turned to your significant other is something you would never expect it to be.

You Start To Get Scared!
There is one thing all romantic relationships have in common. They all have to go through the same stages. When your significant other begins to feel that he has become a permanent part of your life, that’s typically when all of your deepest and hidden concerns, fears, and insecurities start to surface. Think about all the things you're afraid of when you get close to someone you love deeply. What will do if your relationship ends? Will he ever ask me to move in with him? Does my snoring or fashion sense scare him away? This might sound backwards to you, but the reason you feel scared is that your heart and mind are thinking of this relationship as long-term. This uncomfortable feeling tends to surface at such a phase in your relationship that you don’t have to question how you feel about each other, but you feel safe to care about each other deeply.

You may see that your spouse is also feeling the same way. Do you notice if they’re leaning back when you start to get close to them? Are they withholding saying something important when you’re intimate with them – emotionally or physically? This kind of behavior can make this situation even scarier!

Fortunately, There Is One Solution. Share How You Feel.
Share your inner feelings and thoughts with your partner without putting too much pressure on yourself. At first, share a small feeling and see how your partner reacts. Consider saying that you like to spend time with him and like him very much, and that thought makes you nervous. Pay attention to your boyfriend's reaction. This might be the moment your partner was waiting for to share his feelings, too.

When you’re dating or in a relationship, be honest, and let your fears overwhelm you to find true love. Sharing your deepest fears is not a sign that your relationship is over, but an indication that it’s getting stronger.