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4 Realistic Dating Rules Everyone Should Follow

Is it better to be romantic or realistic when it comes to dating? While it may feel good to be a hopeless romantic, it's always wiser to be realistic about your love life. That's why everyone should follow these four realistic dating rules:

1. Let them know right away if you're not interested.

From the time you're a child you're taught to not hurt people's feelings. You're taught to always be kind to people, to compliment people, to encourage people, etc. This expectation is engrained in our heads and as we get older, it carries over into our love lives. This is why so many people have a hard time turning someone down. It's understandable that you don't want to hurt someone's feelings, but you're going to hurt them worse in the long run if you don't just reject them right away. If someone propositions you and you're not interested, let them know. Don't lead them on. Don't host their advances. This just leads them to believe that you're interested when you know very well that you are not. Rejecting them in the first place is nothing compared to stringing them along for some time and then rejecting them.

2. Don't have unrealistic expectations.

When it comes to realistic dating rules, one of the biggest ones to follow is to not have unrealistic expectations. This is not saying that you should settle. We would never advise you to settle for less than what you deserve. With that said, you can't expect the world from someone. If you're setting the bar too high, you're going to be disappointed by everyone. You need to recognize when you're being unreasonable with potential partners. Wanting someone to make millions or cater to your every whim and wish is unreasonable. Wanting someone to abandon their friends and family for you is unreasonable. Having unrealistic expectations like these is only going to leave you lonely in the end.

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3. Pay attention to red flags.

We cannot stress this one enough: Don't ignore red flags! Red flags are a blessing and they should always be taken into account. There's an old saying that goes, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” When you see something concerning about a new partner, accept that it is most likely part of who they are and how they'll be down the road. If you're in the early stages of a relationship and you're noticing major red flags, get out. Staying in a situation after you've seen the red flags is only going to lead to a disaster. You'll become more invested in this person and get emotionally attached, only for those red flags to become reality. Then you're left with a broken heart because you didn't get out when you had the chance.

4. Stop playing hard to get.

Someone, somewhere, sometime long ago, started telling women that playing hard to get would lead to a lasting relationship. They were wrong. For whatever reason, women have been led to believe that playing hard to get makes them appear more interesting, elusive, and overall desirable. It makes the other person believe that the woman is too busy to pay attention to them or that she's just not interested. In some cases, this makes the man work harder and chase the woman. In other cases, it makes the man actually believe that she is not interested and he moves on. For this reason, we suggest you abandon the idea of playing hard to get. We're all adults here. If you're interested in someone, you shouldn't play games. Let them know you're interested and see where it goes from there.

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Times Have Changed: 5 Old Dating Rules You Need to Ditch

When it comes to dating, some people like to play by the rules. There are certain dating rules that seem to be as old as time. People are following rules that were made up decades ago, and then wondering why their love life isn't working out the way they had hoped. We are here to tell you that it's time to move forward! The dating scene has changed and so have the rules! We've got five old dating rules that you absolutely need to ditch:

1. Guys Always Making the First Move

Ladies, it is time to take the reigns! It is a whole new world out there, my friends. You no longer have to wait for men to make the first move. It is totally and absolutely okay for you to approach a guy you're interested in and ask him for a date. Back in the day, women would obsess over sending a guy signals, hoping to encourage him to ask them out. Thankfully, that's a thing of the past. If you like a guy, ask him out. In this new day and age, he'll find it attractive how forward and confident you are.

2. Setting Ridiculous Standards

This is definitely one of the old dating rules that has got to go! We're not saying you need to drop all your standards and settle for just anyone, but you do need cut people some slack. It's okay to have some basic standards, like a potential partner needing to have a job and a car. However, if your standards are that they're a doctor with a Mercedes, you need to reconsider how high you set the bar. If your standards are freakishly high, you need to evaluate what's really important to you and set new standards.

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3. Making Sure Their Friends and Family Like You

There's some skepticism surrounding this rule. Obviously you want your partner's friends and family to like you, but you don't need to bend over backwards to make that happen. It used to be that someone would jump through a million hoops to get the approval of their partner's friends and family. That's no longer the case, and rightfully so. If your partner's friends and family don't like you (for no good reason), then that's fine. You're not dating them. You should focus on how your partner feels about you, not how their friends and family feel.

4. Not Sleeping Together On the First Date

This is one of the old dating rules that we are so happy to do away with. Back in the day, if you slept together on the first date, well…there was a certain “image” it would convey. Fortunately, this idea seems to have died off over the years. In fact, it's actually considered practical to sleep with someone on the first date, because it shows you early on if you have sexual compatibility. If the sex is awful, you can bail on the situation before either person develops feelings.

5. Waiting Three Days to Contact Them After a Date

This has always been one of the dumbest dating rules, but so many people follow it! After a date, you don't want to come on too strong or seem desperate, so you wait at least three days to contact the other person. We want you to know: it is time to ditch this rule. This rule only confuses both people involved and makes you both think that the other person isn't interested. It turns into a stand-off of who will contact the other one first. Not only is this silly and childish, but stressful, too! So go ahead and contact the guy or girl you just went out with last night. Odds are they'll be glad to hear from you and it will lead to a second date sooner!Dating Rules Not to Follow