It's a common complaint of many people in relationships: My partner puts their kids/pets before me. While we understand why this may upset you, (after all, who wants to feel like they aren't a priority?) we want to explain why it shouldn't. In fact, we want to explain why this is an attribute that you should cherish in your partner. Read on to find out why a partner who puts their kids and their pets first is a total keeper.
First things first: Yes, we are equating children and pets here. For many people, their pets are the only children they will ever have. So for the sake of our argument, we are going to discuss children and pets as if they are one in the same, because in some ways, they are.
Both children and pets are essentially helpless. Your partner's child and/or pet relies on them for care. They need your partner to feed them, clean them, protect them and more. Do you rely on your partner for any of these things? In most cases, no. For the most part, you can provide for yourself and care for yourself. (We are not taking into account individuals with disabilities that require them to have physical assistance. We understand relying on a partner for help and care in these instances.) For this reason, it makes sense that your partner would prioritize their child or their pet above you. This is a living, breathing being. It has feelings. It has needs. Your partner is responsible for the well-being of this entity. If your partner slacks or is nonchalant with their responsibilities, it can result in their child or pet being emotionally or physically harmed. This is kind of a big deal, you know?
So here is why you should actually be glad that your partner puts their kids or pets ahead of you: It is a reflection of their good character. It shows that they are caring, responsible, compassionate and more. It shows that they can care for something other than themselves. It shows that they are of sound logic and understand that children and pets need to be top priority, and that romance can wait. This is a positive thing about an individual, and if you find someone who considers their kids or pets their first priority, keep them!
When you think of a “Crazy Cat Lady,” you probably envision an old woman in a bathrobe surrounded by 30 cats. We all know that being a crazy cat lady is usually deemed an insult and these women have a pretty bad reputation. Well, as it turns out, there's nothing wrong with being a self-proclaimed crazy cat lady! You may think that all crazy cat ladies are destined to a lifetime of single-dom, but that's so not the case. The only reason these women end up single is because men aren't willing to give them a chance, right? That whole “crazy cat lady” reputation scares them away! It turns out there's nothing wrong with major feline fans, and we've got three totally legitimate reasons to date a crazy cat lady! Check them out below:
1. They're Compassionate
Anyone who loves animals has a high level of compassion, especially crazy cat ladies. You have to be really compassionate to open your home up to a bunch of felines. Most of the time, the cats that these women have were all strays or rescues. Bringing a bunch of wayward animals into your home and caring for them shows that she's a compassionate person, and who doesn't want to date someone that's compassionate?
2. They're Patient
If you have any experience with cats, you'll know that they can test your patience. They knock things off counters and shelves. They stay up all night, running from one end of the house to the other. As cute as they are, they can be a little annoying (if we're being honest…) So to be a crazy cat lady takes a lot of patience! Dating a patient person has many perks, especially if you yourself are a difficult person. You want someone who has the patience to deal with you and stand by you through struggles.
3. They're Genuine
There are few people more genuine than crazy cat ladies. Being a crazy cat lady comes with a lot of ridicule and shaming. It comes with a lot of mocking and belittling. Any woman is a self-proclaimed “crazy cat lady” is obviously not afraid of any of this. She's not afraid to be herself! She loves what she loves (cats, duh.) and she's not afraid to show it. This is a hard trait to come by, and it's perhaps the best reason you should totally date a crazy cat lady!