Everyone has been nervous about a “first date” at some point in their lives. You don't want to do something to make yourself look stupid. You also don't want to do anything to offend your date and scare them away from you forever. If you want there to be a second date, you need to make sure the first one goes smoothly. Check out our list of twenty-five things you should never do on a first date:
Bring them an expensive gift.
Complain about where the date is.
Tell them what to order if you're at a restaurant.
Ask personal questions.
Get too touchy-feely.
Brag about yourself incessantly.
Dress too revealing or provocatively.
Talk about how desperate you are to have kids.
Obviously pretend to be interested in something you're not actually interested in.
Be afraid to eat in front of them.
Assume they're going to pay for everything.
Talk about your exes or past relationships.
Whine about your life.
Do anything vulgar like spitting or burping.
Dress too casually, like in pajamas or sweats.
Talk on your phone or text during the date.
Lick your fingers after eating.
Chew with your mouth open.
Leave the waiter a bad tip or no tip at all.
Bring up touchy subjects like politics or religion.
Make sexual innuendos or raunchy jokes.
Expect your date to owe you any sexual favors.
Automatically assume there's going to be a second date unless it is specifically discussed.
First dates can be insanely awkward. You're basically hanging out with a total stranger whom you know nothing about, and the goal is to hit it off. Part of the struggle of a first date is figuring out what to talk about. You don't want to bring up any touchy subjects like religion or politics. You also don't want to dive into anything too personal, like family issues or past relationships. So what can you talk about so that you're not sitting there in awkward silence? To help you out, we've got 20 questions that are totally okay to ask on a first date and even some follow-up questions! Check them out below:
Where were you born?
Do you have any siblings? (Are you the oldest/middle/youngest child?)
Where did you go to school? (What did you study/major in?)
Do you have any pets?
What are some of your hobbies?
What is your zodiac sign?
What type of music do you like? (Who are your favorite musicians?)
What type of movies do you like to watch? (What are some of your favorite movies?)
If you could have any career in the world, what would it be?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Are there any goals you dream of achieving?
Who is your celebrity crush?
Do you enjoy sports at all? (What are your favorite sports teams?)
Do you like traveling? (Where are some places you've traveled to?)
What is your favorite type of food? (What are your favorite restaurants?)
Do you watch any television? (What are your favorite shows?)
Do you have any pet peeves?
What is your favorite memory from childhood?
Do you like reading? (What are some of your favorite books?)
Have you ever been on a blind date? (How did it all go?)
First dates can be stressful and nerve-wracking, but every great relationship starts with a first date. The first date determines whether or not you want to pursue a relationship with someone. If the date goes well, you may have found your match. On the other hand, if the date goes horribly, this person will want nothing to do with you. So how do you make sure the date goes well? What should you do to make it a great first date? Well, we know what you shouldn't do! We've got five first date dealbreakers that you will want to avoid:
1. Talking About An Ex
Nothing will send a new beau running faster that talking about your ex. Keep any and all conversations about exes to a bare minimum. You should only mention exes if you are directly asked about them, and even then keep it to a minimum. Talking about your ex will only make your date think that you are still hung up on an old flame.
2. Constantly Being On The Phone
Using your phone too much is one of the worst first date dealbreakers. It's okay to use your phone in an emergency, but it's downright rude to keep checking your texts or taking phone calls when you are out with someone. This just shows your date that you are not interested in them at all and it is incredibly disrespectful.
3. Complaining Too Much
No one likes a negative person. If you complain too much on your first date, it will give them a glimpse into what a relationship with you would be like: a nightmare. It's one thing to voice your concern over something you don't like, but if you're picking everything apart, it will just show that you are a negative person who is difficult to please.
4. Being Rude to Waiters/Servers
One of the worst first date dealbreakers is being rude to wait staff. Being rude to your waiter or waitress shows your date that you have no respect for other people. This includes not leaving your server a tip. Not leaving a tip for a server, or leaving a miniscule tip, is insulting. Your date will not appreciate your disrespect or insensitivity towards other people.
5. Canceling At The Last Minute
The worst of all the first date dealbreakers is not having a date at all. It's understandable if there is a genuine emergency. Your date will likely understand that. But if you cancel at the last minute because you forgot, or because you've made other plans, you are not being respectful of your date's time. This will show your date that you are flakey and cannot be counted on. It also shows that meeting them was not worth your time.