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3 Crucial Steps To Find The Woman Of Your Dreams

When you ask an average guy what his “dream woman” is like, don’t be surprised that most of them will say they want someone who is drop-dead gorgeous. In other words, physical beauty is the top priority for men looking for a partner. We all know that physical beauty isn’t the only quality that’s required for a healthy and long-lasting relationship. In fact, relationships based on physical attraction don’t last.

So what should a man look for when finding the right person, or should we say his “dream woman” to be in a long-term relationship? Here are three crucial steps to finding and keeping the woman of your dreams:

1. Look At The Bigger Picture

If a man is adamant in his fantasy and the unrealistic quest for his “dream woman,” one of the biggest setbacks he will have to face is finding her in the first place. We don’t know that it will happen. If a man wants a dream woman and intends to be in a long-term relationship with her, he needs to change his thinking and look at the bigger picture. He should envision a woman who can help him achieve his dreams as well as share the life he always imagined for himself. It means that he should choose a woman who has all the essential qualities and behavior that are needed to love and support him in realizing those dreams, regardless how she looks.

2. Determine What You Want In Life

This one seems simple. Before your start living the life you always imagined, you first need to decide what your goals are. Clarify your personal vision of a happy, comfortable, exciting and fulfilling life. Once you’ve done that, the next step becomes apparent. Now you know exactly what qualities the woman of your dreams must have to help you to achieve those goals. So go figure yourself out. And until you know yourself and what you need, there is little to no chance that you will find a woman who will love and care for you in wonderful, life-changing ways for who you are.

3. Pair Up With Your Dream Woman

We find it amazing that lots of guys brood and complain about their cruel, selfish women in their lives. This happens because most guys neglected or weren't aware of the pros of “matching up” with their woman in the beginning. To put this into perspective, if you like to travel and always dream of sailing across the world, you need to date or be in a relationship with a woman who is spontaneous, likes being outdoors, is fearless, and has an incredible passion for nature and adventure.


The bottom line is, if you want to be in a relationship with your “dream woman,” first you need to be fully honest about what you envisioned for the future that you want for yourself. Only then will you  find success in your search for the perfect woman.


Are You Afraid To Date Because You’ll Get Hurt Again?

It’s very common to see someone scared of dating or trusting a man again because they got seriously hurt in their last relationship. No matter how positive they think, they find it very hard to date men and trust again. They feel like all men are just the same. Well, there’s nothing wrong with being afraid to fall in love again after your previous relationship ended badly. We all feel that way sometimes. It’s not the fear that’s the issue. After all, it’s just a feeling and it doesn’t hurt. The fear becomes a huge problem when you allow the fear to restrict your ability to move forward.

Most recently single women say that their previous relationships almost destroyed them. They believe they won’t find love again or trust a man again. Their think their lives will be over. …But, they’re still hanging on. We know that you’re extremely wounded and vulnerable, but you’re still alive. Most men and women treat the end of their relationships as some life threatening accident that will kill or maim them. Sure, after your relationship ends you’ll feel very depressed. It makes you feel appalling and sad indeed. Sometimes the emotional pain can get intense, and but we still manage to get through it.

Usually we don’t want to experience it again and that’s fine. But you have to know that without taking any risks, you can’t gain anything. When you fall in love with someone or enter into a relationship, you don’t know what will happen to you in the future. You can be happy, or you run the risk of getting hurt. You can’t get around it. So, what are you going to do about it? Well, we suggest you start small. Spare yourself a few minutes, and allow yourself to feel whatever is happening to you both physically and emotionally. Allow yourself to feel the compassion for your nervousness, and feel it without judging or self-deprecating yourself. Train yourself to be comfortable and relax in times of discomfort. Figure out ways to entertain yourself and allow yourself to enjoy the frustration and the boredom without the distraction that follows after a breakup or failing to meet the right man or woman to start a new relationship.

If you’re meeting someone new, someone you’re interested in, don’t shy away from feeling the fear or anxiety. Take a minute and feel what you are feeling at the moment, and remind yourself that even though the feeling isn’t exactly nice, it won’t kill you. You know this very well, as you’ve been through this before. This isn’t easy, but at the same time, it can be tremendously fruitful. On a side note, if you happen to be a parent, it’s best not to disappoint your children. Also, don’t introduce your new boyfriend or girlfriend to your kids until you’re entirely sure that he or she wants to be in a committed relationship with you. It’s up to you when you think it's the right time for your kids to meet your new love interest. Nonetheless, if your future life partner proves that he or she is worthy of your trust, congrats! And if they disappoint you, forgive yourself. Getting heartbroken is a part of life as well.

If you’re looking for a date after a breakup, it’s natural to feel afraid to get back in the dating scene again. But, it’s a part of life and the best approach in moving forward.


3 Steps to Help You Move Forward After Being Betrayed By Your Partner

So, you’ve been struck with a betrayal. You feel your whole life is spinning out of control. Your emotions and thoughts are running thin. You feel sad, angry, desperate and resentful of your partner. You keep asking yourself, “what did I do to deserve this?” Your mind tells you that you can’t come out of this betrayal hole, and your life has stopped moving.

What can you do to get out from this mess? Here are three steps to help you move forward after being betrayed by your partner:

1. Practice Forgiveness

You feel guilty, hurt and resentful that your partner has betrayed you. If you want to get over this and move on from this painful chapter of your life, it’s time to forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself will make you get rid of all the anger, pain, and confusion. Your heart, soul, and body will become toxic unless you forgive yourself as well as considering forgiving your former partner. Don’t make yourself the victim and stop with the self-loathing. Practice forgiveness, as it is the ultimate pathway to healing. Also, remember not to punish your future partners for your ex’s transgressions. Be strong, kind, and confident to give them the trust they deserve.

2. Blame vs. Self-Worth

Instead of blaming yourself for your partner betraying you, appreciate your self-worth. Tell yourself that you’re enough as who you are. Acknowledge the fact that your boyfriend or girlfriend betraying or cheating on you has nothing to do with you. On the flip side, if you’re still angry and blaming your partner for betrayal, you need to deeply consider if you can let go of this unfortunate incident, rebuild your relationship, or if it is in your best interest to  leave the relationship and move on. If you have a hard time choosing the right course of action here, you first need to understand why people betray or cheat on their partners. Usually men and women who have low confidence and self-esteem cheat on or betray their mates. They also possess a high need for acceptance and approval. Therefore, if your spouse fits any of the descriptions above, you have to determine whether you want to heal this relationship or totally end it for you to recover.

3. Rebuild Trust

We understand that your partner’s betrayal made a dent in your trust. You find it hard to trust your partner, and other people, which is crucial if you want to move forward. Keep in mind that projecting your fears won’t do anything for the healing process. If you have decided to stay with your partner, the first thing you need to work on is rebuilding your trust. If you fail to forgive, then there is no point in wasting your time and energy by staying in the relationship and also making your partner pay for their past transgressions.


When you’re in a relationship, keep in mind that every relationship has its rough patches. After a betrayal, it’s very easy to get lost in the maze of anger, doubts, and uncertainty about the future. These three steps above will help you move on and ultimately build a more stable and happy relationship in the future.


Preventing Emotional Infidelity in Relationships

Emotional infidelity happens when you or your significant other is emotionally attracted or connected with someone outside the realm of your relationship. But just how precarious can emotional infidelity be in a committed relationship or marriage? The truth is, emotional infidelity can be really alarming. It can take away time and energy from the marriage. If left unaddressed, it can lead to sexual infidelity, and ultimately destroy the marriage or the relationship.

Emotional infidelity is an outcome of preexisting problems within a marriage. This happens when couples aren’t emotionally and physically intimate with their partners in their current relationship, and each person is vulnerable to some infidelity. It can be either physical or emotional. So, instead of blaming the affair for all the problems in your relationship, why not take care of the primary issue in the first place?

People find emotional infidelity irresistible as it’s very easy to be intimate with a person with whom we have no shared responsibilities like money issues, children or chores. We feel comfortable to share our deepest feelings, thoughts, and fears with someone we have no personal conflicts with or shared interests. In other words, it’s an easy way of not dealing with the real issues at hand. If continued, this emotional infidelity will jeopardize your marriage, and eventually will lead to a divorce. If you’re in an exclusive relationship, the relationship won’t result in a marriage. You will end up with the same problems that you had before being in a committed relationship or getting married. So, why waste your time? Why not resolve the problems now?

The primary issue that leads to emotional infidelity is an emotional disconnect between partners. Emotional distance or disconnect occurs because there are deeper issues within the relationship. These problems might be:

1. One or both partners want to control the relationship through anger, blame, and criticism.

2. One or both partners want to control the relationship by care taking. This is done by one person taking care of their wants and needs and taking responsibility for the other person’s feelings and thoughts.

3. One or both partners want to control the relationship by withdrawing and resisting being controlled by the other person.

4. One or both partners don’t want to take any emotional responsibility for his/her feelings of happiness, joy, and pain. Both partners have abandoned themselves emotionally. They’re self-bashing, making the other partner responsible for their feelings, and ignoring their own emotions through addictions.

All the above problems grind down the love in your relationship making you disconnected from your significant other and lonely in the relationship. This is the perfect situation for emotional infidelity to manifest and thrive. These patterns, under general circumstances, don’t usually show up early in a relationship or when you’re in an emotional or physical affair.

These patterns also don’t disappear when you embark on a new relationship. These patterns will again return, when your new relationship is on the path to becoming a committed and exclusive relationship. If you’re thinking of dating someone, take responsibility of your own feelings, and your ability to love and care for someone genuinely. It’s only you that can prevent your wonderful relationship from being hijacked by emotional infidelity.


5 Awesome Reasons You Should Get Married

Most of us in long-term relationships hope that the relationship will result in marriage. There are pros and cons of getting married, but in this article we will focus only on the good things. The decision to get married is huge and there are plenty of legitimately good reasons to become man and wife. Here are five of those great reasons to tie the knot:

1. Marriage Has Financial Benefits

Couples who get married will accumulate more wealth by combining both households and reducing living costs. Getting married opens the gate for you and your partner to get access to family health, dental and other insurance benefits more easily. You both get access to retirement plans and social security. Marriage also makes it easier to inherit from each other. You get tax benefits from the IRS, charitable deductions, the ability to fund IRAs, etc.

2. Getting Married Makes You Happier and Healthier 

Overall, married folks are healthier physically and mentally and have greater self-esteem and confidence than single people. So, if you’re one of those men and women who wants to feel happier, live longer, healthy, and remain physically and mentally active for a long time, get married soon.

3. Marriage Is Beneficial For Kids

One of the primary reasons for tying the knot is the social stigma people face when they have kids outside of marriage. Kids born outside the realm of marriage are more likely to fall into poverty, fail academically, and suffer various behavioral and emotional problems. The main reason for these kids born outside of marriage failing is that they aren’t receiving the care and support provided by both parents. Outside of marriage, both parents aren’t legally responsible for the kids, but getting married gives both parents the legal obligation to take care of them.

4. Want To Have Better Sex? Get Married

This one is pretty tricky and depends on your preferences. But it’s widely accepted that people who are happier, healthier, and financially better off, have better sex than people who are single or than couples who cohabitate. Another good reason to tie the knot!

5. Marriage Reduces Divorce, While Cohabitation Increases It

There has been a lot of debate that says couples can equally be happy cohabiting? The thing is that people who cohabitate and then decide to wed later are more likely to get divorced at some point compared to couples who marry without living together.

Judging by all the pros, we can easily tell that marriage is the hands-down winner. When you’re in a committed relationship, it’s natural for both of you to think of getting married. Apart from getting married to feel happier, have a better sex life, live longer, and save money on insurance premiums, marriage brings you and your partner closer to each other and is more emotionally intimate. Marriage is also the best environment to raise children in if that’s the point of you getting married.


If Your Boyfriend Does These 6 Things, He’s in Love With You

We are all familiar with the classic signs that someone likes you such as buying you flowers, giving you gifts, taking you for dinner, making eye contact while talking to you, and so on. All of these acts have become so obvious and ingrained into our minds and society, that they're impossible to miss. But relationships are always changing and figuring out a potential partner’s true feelings about you aren’t as simple as you think.

Here are a few signs that show your boyfriend is falling in love with you:

1. He Follows Through

During the initial stages of a relationship, most couples are focused on building trust and will do anything to follow through on all the promises they’ve made. Most people expect you to make lavish promises during the initial stages of the dating process, but in reality, the opposite might be true. If the man you’re seeing makes an extra effort, such as they call when they say they'll call, or follow through in some other ways, we can safely say that your relationship will mean something to them.

2. He Doesn’t Rush; He Takes It Slow

It’s common for most couples at the start of a new relationship to take things fast, but rushing things can sometimes jeopardize the relationship. Taking things slowly is the best approach to being successful in a romantic relationship. If someone decides to take it slow, it’s mainly because they fear that they’ll mess things up soon, and he or she fears it more than being intimate with you too soon.

3. He Establishes A Friendship First

One of the main signs that a guy really cares for you, when it comes to romantic relationships is if they try to develop a genuine friendship with you before they jump into anything romantic. The reason behind this good approach is to make sure they like you in a deep way that goes beyond an infatuation.

4. He Acts Awkward Towards You

If your potential partner acts cool, calm and brims with confidence in front of everyone else except you, it indicates he likes you more than you think. Most men and women in new relationships act awkward in front of their boyfriends and girlfriends, as they’re unsure how to act in the first place, despite the fact that they think they have it all together.

5. He Imitates Your Movements

When it comes to relationships, people mimic the traits and behaviors of their potential partners so that they can relate to them and get emotionally intimate with them. This has a lot to do with sympathy, but more to do with affection too. When someone mirrors your movements, even in a subtle way, it means that he’s attracted to you and likes you more than you think.

6. He Doesn't Mind Spending Time With You, No Matter How Inconvenient It Is

When you’re dating someone and he is interested in you, he’ll spend time with you no matter how inconvenient it is to him. He’ll drive extra long hours to be with you even for a few minutes or hours. Things that are highly inconvenient to him under normal circumstances won’t be a big deal to him if he’s head over heels for you.


5 Ways to Stop Obsessing Over a Guy For Good

We all have been obsessive about something in our lives. One of the worst obsessions out there is yearning for someone who got away and who was never meant to be your partner. When it comes to dating and relationships, obsessive thoughts are rife in women. We have seen many single and successful women like doctors, lawyers, teachers, etc., talking about the men they are dating. They keep talking about how they are still waiting for his text message before going to bed, waiting for the call from their boyfriends, etc. They become anxious and get stressed out by over-thinking about what will happen if this guy asks them out for the weekend. These women could have gotten any man they wanted, and yet they are obsessing over a guy who is making them wait for hours just for a call. Why is that?

Women are attracted to men who might like them, instead of men who already are interested. However, women feel like if a man is keeping them on pins and needles, then there is some interest in the guy. This means the guy is providing them some attention to fuel their obsession.

If you discover yourself in this situation, here are a few tips to help you stop obsessing over guys like this:

1. Face Your Fears

We all have our fears and insecurities. We need to get them out so that we can confront them. Writing down or talking about these fears will help you get it out of your head.

2. Limit Your Obsessions

Fix a day and a specific amount of time (say 10 minutes) to permit yourself to be obsessive. When the obsessive thoughts come to your mind, and it comes at the day and time outside of your schedule, tell yourself it is not time. Only reserve those thoughts for the time you allowed previously.

3. Ask For Help From Friends

Friends are there to help and support you during the sad times. Friends can help you differentiate between facts and fiction. If you’re sure that your boyfriend is hanging out with someone else and there is no evidence, your close friend can tell you that you shouldn’t think like this unless you have substantial evidence.

4. Keep Yourself Distracted

When you start to obsess, immediately direct your feelings and thoughts to a different thought or action. For instance, when you begin obsessing over something, tell yourself you will do twenty push-ups or listen to your favorite podcasts. Immediately, you will either see yourself thinking of something else rather than obsessing over him.

5. Shut Off All Communication

If you’re anxious that he won't call and you make yourself unavailable, this will keep your ego intact. You can tell yourself either he called, or he didn't, but you were unavailable. This tactic will give all the control back to you. There are plenty of examples where people obsessing over their ex got terribly out of control. The obsession may fuel the affection, but it will distract you from being YOU. Don’t let your obsessive thoughts control your life.

Therefore, if you’re dating someone, and you find yourself in this situation, these steps might help you to alleviate your obsessions.


6 Things Guys Secretly Adore About the Women They Love

When it comes to relationships, there are some specific things men love about the woman they’re dating, but they may not tell her. Whenever a guy falls in love with a woman, there are many little things about her and her character that will make even the most insensitive man smile and make his heart flutter with joy.

Here are six things that men adore about the women they love:

1. A man loves the way he smiles when he thinks about you. No matter how stressed out he is at work, stuck in traffic, or just bored, when he thinks of her, he'll smile. A man considers himself lucky when he has a woman come into his life who can get him to smile. Simply hearing her name or thinking about her will light him up like a firework display. What's not to love about that?

2. He loves it when he can make you smile. Sense of humor is an excellent quality most women look for in a man. A guy loves to see the woman in his life smiling, laughing, happy and having a great time. And he will go the extra mile to make it happen. It's even better if he can make the lady of his life laugh by telling her dumb jokes.

3. He loves being physically close to you. A man loves being close to his woman, whether you two are cuddling on the couch or in bed watching TV, or simply standing next to each other. It’s a good way to feel physically and emotionally connected with someone. You can’t beat the feeling of your girlfriend resting her hand or head on your chest or shoulder – it’s incredible! Another tip- he likes you playing with his hair while watching TV or while he's driving. It’s a great feeling to him! And did I mention he loves when he catches you looking at him?

4. Men adore the way women smile after being kissed. We all know the euphoric and exciting rush we get when we kiss the person we love. The rush emotions and endorphins in our bodies takes us over. Can you explain the spark that you feel when you kiss him or her, and they smile at you? It’s incredible. I doubt there is any other better feeling.

5. He loves how things feel so natural with you. In a relationship, there is no question that every man and woman has to put in some effort to make a relationship work. But if two people can feel at ease and be entirely comfortable with each other, the relationship will feel natural. They won’t feel bored or stressed, rather they will feel content.

6. A man loves going to you for advice or suggestions. If you love someone, you'll naturally respect him or her, who they are and the way they think, and you will value their views and opinions. You'll want to get their suggestions or advice. You'll want to hear about how their point of view compares with your's. You’re interested to hear out their perspectives. If the man in your life asks for your opinion, take it as an excellent sign that he loves you.


4 Ways Thinking About Sex Will Lead to A Better Relationship

When it comes to relationships, we reflect on a lot of things. But, are you thinking about the right stuff? We all want to have healthy and long-lasting relationships. Love and sex makes the world go around. We’re human; it’s what we do. Now it’s been discovered that thinking about sex is as important as having sex in romantic relationships. In other words, the ultimate key to a better relationship is to think more about sex.

Yes, you heard that right! The more you think about sex, the better your relationship will be. However, this doesn’t mean you folks in relationships should just start having more sex. It actually means that you should increase your raunchy thoughts. Eventually, thinking about sex more helps men and women in loving relationships.

Researchers have found that men and women who were exposed to sexual stimuli, images or thoughts, were highly likely to open up about themselves and date someone with whom they can share their feelings and thoughts. Psychologists have always said that a person needs to be sexually aroused to initiate sex with a partner. They also said sex is a way to start emotionally bonding. The human is designed to forge relationships, and when we are dating or in a relationship, we have sexual desires, and sexual desire makes us chatty. Being chatty actually comes in handy a lot when people first start dating. Chattiness is also suitable for couples in long-term relationships. When people are thinking about sex, emotional intimacy gets initiated. Whenever people think about sex and later share his or her personal stories, it makes the other person attracted to them

Here are some suggestions that will be helpful to cultivate this sexually driven chattiness and lead to a better relationship:

1. Be aware of it and be cautious with whom your start talking to. Sharing too much with the wrong people won’t do much help to better your relationship.

2. Pay attention to your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you notice them being extra romantic, it may be a good time to chat. But, keep in mind not to bring up any marital issues.

3. Don’t talk too much. Don’t give away too much information. At the same, it’s also not nice to just blabber away at your partner about every little emotion or thought. Instead, open up slowly and give your significant other time to speak. Don’t have the spotlight all to yourself.

4. Create a sexy environment. If you’re thinking of giving your physical and emotional closeness a little push, consider crafting a charming and sexy atmosphere. Light candles for dinner, play romantic music or wear something that looks hot. If your significant other is in a happy, open and sharing mood, have sex with them.

When you’re dating someone or you are in a relationship, thinking about sex is as important as having sex. Thinking about sex more than usual can lead a healthier, better relationship.


3 Important Steps To Help You Reconnect With Your Partner

Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse? Are you thinking of ways to make your relationship more romantic? Thinking of getting your girlfriend or wife a diamond necklace or a sexy dress? Sounds like a good idea, right? Not always. You see, expensive jewelry or that romantic dinner date isn’t the way to a woman’s heart. In fact, it’s the mundane and smallest of acts in relationships that are the most significant of all. You can’t have a loving relationship if you fail to connect emotionally with your partner.

Here are three steps to help you reconnect with your partner:

1. Accept Offers For Connection

Most couples often ignore each other’s emotional needs not because of resentment, but out of mindlessness. If you want to feel connected with your partner, the first initiative will be to recognize how important those small and rather meaningless moments of love are such as sitting together and watching TV silently, or kissing your partner while she’s making coffee, and so on. This is vital, not only for building trust in your relationship, but for intimacy and romance as well. The simple act of not taking everyday interactions, and yes, small acts, for granted can do miracles in a marriage or a romantic relationship. For instance, helping your significant other with chores around the house will do more good to your relationship than going on a week-long vacation in Paris.

2. Understand Each Other's Love Maps

Most often, couples assume that their partners listen and can read all of their feelings. The secret to understanding your spouse well isn’t derived from mind reading. Instead, it’s accomplished through hard work and sharing openly and honestly your emotions and thoughts. Do you know the moment your partner worries and stresses the most? How much can you tell about their hopes and aspirations? What are their life goals? The best way to understand each other is by asking them questions, and keep on asking them. Remember all the answers. Sharing your inner self and knowing your life partner better is a reward that will last a lifetime.

3. Cultivate A Sense Of Appreciation And Respect

One of the major components of a healthy, lasting relationship is a deep sense of appreciation and respect for each other. If you interrupt your wife in the middle of a conversation where she’s trying to prove a point, how can you build affection and respect in the relationship? We all have flaws in our personalities.

Learn to accept those flaws, rather than focusing on your partner’s inadequacies. If the moment is right, express what you cherish about him or her. The key is to learn how to reconnect with your spouse, and when you see your significant other doing something right and good, appreciate them. Tell them that you’re thankful that he or she has done all the dishes, and you genuinely appreciate it. Keep in mind that every time you do this, your partner will feel an emotional connection with you, which is vital to have a thriving and long-lasting marriage or a relationship.