You should never lie to your partner; this is the common consensus when it comes to lying and relationships. However, we all still lie to our partners from time to time. In fact, there are some things that are totally okay to lie to your partner (some things, we said.) Since we're are lying to our partners at some point, what is it that we're lying about? A recent study revealed that there is one common thing nearly everyone lies to their partner about: money.
That's right – we're all lying about money. This study found that over one-fifth of Americans admit lying to their partners about money at least once. Now what do they mean when they say someone is lying about money? Well, it's a little more nuanced than just saying that you have more money than you really do. Lying about money includes lying about your spending habits, debt, income, savings, credit score, investments, and even any gambling habits you may have. If you're not being completely transparent with your partner on any of those things, you're lying about money.
As we already mentioned, there are some things that it's totally okay to lie to your partner about, but is money one of them?
… That depends. There are small white lies that you probably tell your partner is regards to money and spending habits. This might be something like, “I only spent $40 on this new shirt,” when you actually spent $60 on the shirt. This is over a matter of $20 extra dollars and for the most part, it's a very inconsequential lie. When you start lying about larger sums of money or habitual spending habits, that's when lying about money becomes a problem. For instance, lying about your salary is a problem. If you tell your partner that you're now making $700 a week when you're actually making $400 a week, you're going to run into trouble. Depending on how long you've been together and what your living situation is, your partner expects you to share the financial responsibilities with them. When you mislead them about how much money you make, they will not be able to appropriately plan for how to share these financial responsibilities.
Other times that you should not lie about money are when it involves something like habitual over-spending or a gambling addiction. Again, your partner is counting on you to share the financial responsibilities. If you spend all of your money on a constant basis or if you have an addiction to gambling, they need to know so that the two of you can find a way to address the issue. Savings and investments are other things that you need to be upfront with your partner about. Sure, you don't need to tell them how much money you have saved down to the exact penny, but it is wrong to tell your partner that you have $10,000 saved when it is only $1,000. This interferes with whatever plans the two of you may have for the future.
Overall, we do not advise you to lie to your partner about anything. As has often been said, honesty is the best policy. With that said, if you find that you must lie to your partner about money, it is only okay if it is an isolated occurrence, the sum of money is small, and it will have no significant effect on your future together.