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What Is the “Seven-Year Itch” and How Can You Overcome It?

Have you ever heard of the “seven-year itch?” The seven-year itch is a very common phrase in relation to marriages and long-term relationships that you've probably heard of at some point. In fact, there's even a classic Marilyn Monroe film named after it! So what exactly does the term mean?

The seven-year itch refers to the point in a marriage where both partners grow tired of one another and find themselves bored with the relationship. The name comes from the fact that this point typically occurs after seven years of being together. Obviously it doesn't have to be exactly seven years, but for many couples it falls around that time. At this point in the relationship, one or both partners fail to see the good in their relationship and are overcome with boredom.

You're probably wondering: What's wrong with this? We all experience a little boredom in relationships, right? Well, the seven-year itch is a little different than your typical love life boredom. After that long period of time spent together, the couple may find themselves totally sick of one another – to the point that they want to leave the relationship altogether. In fact, many cases of infidelity occur during this time because one or both partners feel desperate to experience the company of a new person. It's also no coincidence that many divorces occur exactly around this time.

Now, not every couple experiences the seven-year itch. If you don't consider yourselves lucky. It may be coming later on, or it may never come at all. With that said, if you're one of the many couples who is currently going through it, there is a way to fight it and not allow it to destroy your relationship…

As we explained earlier, the main component of the seven-year itch is boredom. The boredom leads to cheating. The boredom leads to divorce. So ultimately, you want to decrease the likelihood that you and your spouse will grow bored of one another. There are numerous things you can do to liven up your marriage again. This may include changing things up in the bedroom. See if your partner wants to try anything new to spark some more passion in your sex life. You can also try out a new hobby together. Whether it be a yoga class or going on bike rides, doing something together can help you re-build the bond you had in the early stages of your marriage. Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you are putting in a sincere and honest effort so that your partner can see how much you really want to keep your marriage afloat.

With all that in mind, not every couple can overcome the dreaded seven-year itch. If you can really commit yourself to re-igniting the spark you once had, your odds look very good!

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On the Rocks: 5 Signs You Need Marriage Counseling

Are you worried that your marriage is on the rocks? Every married couple is going to encounter some obstacles in their relationship, but when do you know that you should seek outside help? Marriage counseling can be a great tool for couples to repair their relationship and move forward, but it's hard to know when you should seek this counseling. If you're on the fence, check out these five signs you need marriage counseling:

1. You're Annoyed By Everything Your Partner Does

If you find yourself getting annoyed by every little thing your spouse does, it could be a sign that there's a bigger problem in your marriage. When you're constantly feeling negative towards your partner, no matter what they do, you may need to seek counseling so that you can get to the root of the problem.

2. You Share Your Feelings With Other People Instead Of Your Partner

Your partner should be the person you go to when you're feeling upset. They should be the one you can share all of your secrets with. If you find yourself going to friends to share your feelings, while your partner is left completely in the dark, it's a surefire sign that the connection in your marriage is faulty.

3. You're Not Having Sex

Sex is an important part of a marriage. If you can't remember the last time you and your spouse had sex, something is wrong in your marriage. Many couples experience ruts when it comes to their sex lives, but if the rut has been seemingly endless, marriage counseling may be able to remedy the issue.

4. You Don't Fight About Anything

Say what?! Fighting is a good thing? We're not saying that fighting is a good thing. However, when people fight over something, it means they care about it. If you find that you and your partner don't care enough to fight over important issues in your marriage, it could mean that you don't care enough to stay in the marriage any longer.

5. You've Looked Into Marriage Counseling

If you've seriously considered getting marriage counseling and actually looked into finding a counselor, that may be the only sign you need. Some people are very intuitive when it comes to their relationships. When there's a serious problem, they just know it. So if you have already found yourself considering marriage counseling, it could very well mean that you really need the counseling.

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