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Mr. Egocentric: 6 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Are you dating a total jerk? Does your boyfriend talk incessantly about himself and shows little interest in you? It's possible you're dating a narcissist! It can be hard to tell if your boyfriend is just a little misguided or is he's a complete narcissist, so check out these six sings that show your boyfriend's ego is way too big:

1. He Gets Jealous Easily

If he gets jealous really easily, you may be dating a narcissist. A narcissist is overly concerned with what they consider to be “theirs”, so they'll get very pre-occupied with the idea of somebody coming for their territory. So if you find that he gets jealous when there's really no reason to be, he may have a huge ego.

2. He Talks About Himself Constantly

This one goes without saying, but we'll say it anyways: if he talks about himself non-stop, he may be a narcissist. Normal conversations usually cover both people's lives, opinions and interests. If everything is about him, he's totally full of himself.

3. He Doesn't Listen To Anyone

Narcissists think they know it all. For this reason, it's nearly impossible to find them listening to other people. If your boyfriend thinks that only he knows best and he refuses to take advice from anyone, you may be dating a narcissist.

4. He Compares Himself To Others

A narcissist is obsessed with how other people see them. For this reason, they'll often compare themselves to other people. They'll constantly say that they are better than others and act like other people are beneath them to create the appearance of superiority.

5. He Criticizes You

If he picks apart everything you do and constantly criticizes you, he may be a narcissist. Narcissists think that they know everything and that they are superior to everyone, so you'll often find them critiquing other people.

6. He Puts Himself Before You

Narcissists only think of themselves. If he always puts himself before you, he's probably a narcissist. If he's only concerned with his needs and never with yours, he's got a huge ego and only cares about himself.

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What A Guy Wants: 7 Traits Men Look For In A Partner

It's often been said that women are hard to read. You may have heard that it's impossible to figure out what a woman wants or what she's looking for in a relationship. Well, we'd like to argue that men are just as difficult to decipher! What do they want in a partner? Is it all about beauty? What do they value in their romantic partners? We did some digging and found some universal traits that most men look for in a partner and we're about to share them with you! Read on to see seven traits men look for in a partner:

1. Reliability

No one wants to be with someone they can't count on. This means that reliability was one of the most common traits men look for in a partner. They want someone that they know will be there for them. They want to trust that they can depend on the person they're with.

2. Honesty

Who wants to be with a liar? Nobody does! Men value honesty just as much as women do. Men look for partners that they can trust, not ones who are going to deceive them at every turn. They have to know that they're partner is being truthful with them.

3. Intelligence

You may have been told that men value beauty over brains, but that is so not true. Men appreciate intelligence in a partner. They enjoy conversations with their partner about political or societal issues. What? Did you think men didn't care about those things?

4. Kindness

Kindness goes a long way with both men and women. No one wants to be with someone who is nasty and inconsiderate. You need to show that you can be kind and caring, especially to those who are most in need. That's how you'll win his heart.

5. Stability

Movies and television may lead you to believe that there is something intriguing about instability…but there isn't. Men are not looking for someone whose life is a mess. They want someone who can keep it together and stay on the up-and-up.

6. Perseverance

There's something wildly attractive about a woman who is hard-working and determined. For this reason, men look for partners with perseverance. They want to see someone who powers through hardships and never stops fighting.

7. Creativity

Creativity is one of the major traits men look for in a partner. They don't want someone who is bland and boring. They want someone who thinks outside the box and isn't afraid to challenge the status quo. They put great value on creativity and independent thinking.

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Major Turn-Offs: 7 Things That Men Find Unattractive

What do men want? It's an age-old question that women think they have found the answer to. They feel that most men want a beautiful woman who is also fun. The reality is that men are looking for a lot more than that. So what exactly are they looking for? Well, an easy way to explain what men are looking for is by telling you what they aren't looking for. The following are seven things that men find unattractive about a woman:

1. Wearing Too Much Makeup

Makeup is a great form of self-expression but when it's done in excess, it's something men find unattractive. Rather than slathering on a full face of makeup, opt for a more natural look with minimal makeup. Basically, go for a look that's not going to rub off on his shirt when he hugs you.

2. Gossiping About People

Gossiping and talking about other's business is a very unattractive quality. No one wants to see their partner reveling in another person's misfortune. So when you are gossiping about other people's lives and their issues, it shows that you are juvenile and insensitive.

3. Being Too Clingy

Being clingy is a major thing that men find unattractive. You need to have your own life and give him some space. If you insist on spending every second with him, you're only going to push him away. This also applies to contacting him constantly. Keep calling and texting to a minimum.

4. Being Full of Yourself

Confidence is one thing, narcissism is another. Men like women who are confident, but not arrogant. It's okay to be proud of who you are, but it is not okay to brag about yourself and act like you are better than others.

5. Complaining About Everything

Nobody wants to be with someone who is negative all the time. Complaining about everything is a sure-fire way to turn a guy off. Men would rather be with a woman who chooses to see the good in things, instead of a woman who constantly has something bad to say.

6. Talking About Your Ex All the Time

Talking about your ex all the time will definitely send a man running for several reasons. If you're always mentioning your ex, whether it be good things or bad things, it just seems like you are hung up on the past. No guy wants to get involved with someone who isn't over their ex.

7. Partying Constantly

It's okay to have fun, but there's a fine line between having fun and constantly partying. Dating a “wild child” may be a good idea for a young guy, but as men get older, they want a woman who is more down to earth and would rather stay home than go out and party.

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He’s Just Not That Into You: 7 Signs A Guy Isn’t Interested In You

Dating and relationships can be hard to decipher. We often struggle to figure out whether or not someone is interested in us. How can you tell if someone really likes you or not? It turns out there are some signs that show a guy is just not that into you. Read on to find out seven signs a guy isn't interested in you:

1. He Never Contacts You

If you're initiating all of the conversations, he's just not that into you. If a guy likes you, he'll call you, text you, contact you on social media, etc. If he's not doing any of these things, then he's not interested.

2. He Doesn't Listen To You

A definite sign that a guy isn't interested is if he doesn't listen to anything you say. If you've been hanging out for a few weeks and he still doesn't know basic things about you, it's because he doesn't care (or he has short term memory loss…). So if you're on the third date, and he asks you for the tenth time where you went to high school…yeah, he hasn't been listening.

3. He Sends Mixed Signals

If a guy keeps sending you mixed signals. consider him uninterested. When a guy likes you, he'll make it clear. If he's all over you one day and then ignores you for a week, he's putting you on the backburner. When he's sending you mixed signals, it's because he's keeping you around for his convenience.

4. He Flirts With Other Women

This one should be obvious, ladies. A guy isn't interested if he is blatantly flirting with other women. Sure, some guys just have flirtatious personalities. However, if he purposely flirts with other women in the hopes of hooking up with them, he's not interested in you.

5. He Doesn't Respect You

If a guy is not respectful to you, he definitely does not like you. When a guy is interested, he will treat you nicely. If he's disregarding you and treating you like dirt, it's because that's what he thinks of you.

6. He Doesn't Make Time For You

Everyone has busy lives, but if a guy likes you, he'll make time for you. If he constantly has excuses for why he's not hanging out with you, it's because he doesn't want to. A guy isn't interested in you if he's not making you a priority.

7. He Keeps You A Secret

This is a huge sign that a guy isn't interested. If you've been hanging out with you for a while and his friends and family have no idea you exist, this is an issue. When he's keeping you a secret, it's because he's not interested in something serious with you.

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4 Pieces of Marriage Advice From Married Men to Their Single Friends

Getting married is a huge life decision. For this reason, many men are scared to get married. They're afraid of the commitment, or of their marriage possibly failing. The best way for single men, or soon-to-be married men, to get some insight into marriage is to speak to married people. We've got four pieces of marriage advice from married men to their single or engaged friends:

1. It's okay to be vulnerable.

You've probably heard that your partner should be like your best friend, and this is basically true. You should be able to completely open up to your partner. Men are often taught to hide their emotions and never show vulnerability. This isn't going to work in a marriage. You need to be able to let your guard down and show your partner how you really feel. Keeping your emotions bottled up will never lead to a healthy marriage.

2. It's not all passion and excitement.

Before getting married, understand that your relationship won't be exciting all the time. There won't always be the passion that was there in the beginning of your relationship. This isn't a bad thing! It's a normal part of any relationship. The longer you've been together, the more things will settle into a low-key, comfortable routine. Your Friday nights won't be going out to parties anymore. Instead, they'll be watching movies and ordering takeout. If you're with the right person, you won't really mind this. You should feel okay just having downtime with your partner.

3. Always be honest.

A marriage built on lies is never going to succeed. So one of the biggest pieces of marriage advice is to always be honest with your partner. If you can't be honest with your partner, what are you even doing with them? Lying to your partner, even if it's about small things, will never work out. If you want to build a healthy, happy marriage, you need to be able to talk to your partner about anything and always be truthful with them.

4. You have to put in the work.

This is a piece of marriage advice that cannot be glossed over: you need to put the work in. Marriage is hard work. Even the best marriages are not easy. There will be days where you're angry at your partner. There will be moments where you may want to call it quits. You need to be able to work through these times if you want your marriage to last. The happiest couples will tell you that they had to work really hard to get over hurdles in their marriage. As you've probably heard many times, the best things in life don't come easy.

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Reading His Mind: 6 Things Guys Think About But Will Never Say

Wouldn't you just love to know what's on a guy's mind? Women spend so much time obsessing over what their boyfriends or husbands are thinking about. We eventually assume or imagine they're thinking horrible things about us or our relationship. The truth is that guys think about many of the same things we do, they just don't make it known. To help you get inside his head, we've got six things guys think about but will never say:

1. He's terrified of losing you.

Your guy may seem calm, cool and collected when it comes to your relationship, but that's not always the case. One of the main things guys think about is how scared they are to lose their partner. He's terrified that one day you'll leave him and break his heart. Since most guys will do anything to not seem weak, he'll likely never tell you this.

2. He has physical insecurities, too.

You might think you're the only one who feels insecure or wishes they could change things about their body, but this is so not true. Guys have insecurities about their bodies and wish they looked different sometimes. They might wish they had bigger muscles or a more defined six-pack, but they keep these feelings to themselves.

3. Your family drives him insane.

He doesn't want to upset you or cause any problems with your family, but sometimes he just cannot stand them. Maybe the weekly dinner with your parents is just too much for him. Maybe your sister's high-pitched laugh sends him into a fit of rage. Whatever the reason is, disdain for their girlfriend's family is one of the main things guys think about but will never say.

4. He's not confident about his sexual performance.

Men like to act like their sexual performance is incredible. For most guys, this is just a front. The reality is that he's not sure how good he is. He often wonders after (and during) the act, if you're truly satisfied. Even if you're making it explicitly clear that you're satisfied, he's still skeptical about his skills.

5. He doesn't want to seem clingy.

You know how we debate whether or not we should call/text? Yeah, well it turns out guys do that too! In the same way that we're afraid of seeming clingy, guys worry about being clingy also. They may be thinking of calling or texting us, but they wonder if they've already contacted us too much or if it's the right time.

6. Alone time is still important to him.

Everyone needs their alone time. Men value their time alone very much, but they might be afraid to tell you that. They don't want you to think that they don't like spending time together. They love spending time with you, but they still need time alone to focus on their hobbies or to just think.

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Ladies Know Best: 8 Relationship Tips From Women to Men

Most men like to think they know it all, but ladies know that just isn't the case! Love and relationships is an area where men often struggle, and women can lend a helping hand. We've got eight great relationship tips from women to men:

1. It's Okay to Be “Uncool”

The first of our relationship tips from women is to not worry about being “uncool”. You don't have to jump through hoops to portray a certain image to a woman. If you consider yourself a nerd and like comics, that's great! Don't hide these things, because the perfect woman for you is one who has these “uncool” things in common with you.

2. Remember the Little Things

It's important to never forget the little things in a relationship. Things like bringing her flowers or calling her at the end of the night may seem like small gestures to you, but they mean a lot to her. If you start neglecting and forgetting this little things, she's going to become detached.

3. Honesty Above All Else

Being honest is the biggest of the relationship tips from women. You should always be honest with your girlfriend or wife. If you're consistently lying and she cannot trust you, then it will be nearly impossible for your relationship to continue. Trust is what will drive your relationship forward and make it last.

4. Be Yourself

This is one of the most important relationship tips from women. You must always be yourself. Don't get caught up trying to impress her by being something that is not true to who you are. Also, if a woman wants you to change and be something you aren't, she's not the right woman for you.

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5. Show Your Emotions

So many men are hung up on the idea that showing emotion is not manly. This is a myth. Women appreciate a man who is in tune with his emotions and is not afraid to show them. Let your girlfriend know how you feel and don't be afraid to be emotional in front of her.

6. Take Charge

Women like men who can take control in a situation. This doesn't mean you should be a control freak and dominate your entire relationship. It just means that you should be able to make decisions and call shots when it's necessary.

7. Be A Friend to Her

If you want a lasting relationship, you need to be your girlfriend's friend in addition to her partner. Be someone who she can turn to when she needs to talk. Be a shoulder she can cry on. Your girlfriend should be able to call you her boyfriend as well as her best friend.

8. Give Her Space

Sometimes women just need a little space. You can't be clingy all the time or contacting her all the time. If you're always with her or checking in on her, it will only drive her away. Trust in her and let her have time to herself when she needs it. This will only strengthen your bond.

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All Fun and Games: 5 Things You Should Know About Dating A “Funny Guy”

There are few things sexier than a sense of humor. Guys like Paul Rudd, James Franco and Ryan Reynolds are all hilarious and loved by women all around the world. Sure, they're good-looking, but it's their sense of humor that makes them even more attractive. A good sense of humor could take even an average-looking guy and make him attractive. This is the reason that so many women gravitate towards funny men. Before you run out and find yourself a comedian boyfriend, we've got five things you should know about dating a “funny guy”:

1. They Might Joke During Serious Moments

Some so-called “funny guys” use their sense of humor as a defense mechanism. This means that anytime they feel uncomfortable, they'll crack jokes to ease the tension. This means they joke around during serious discussions. They might even joke around at inappropriate events, like at a funeral. It's not that they're insensitive. It's just that some of them like to use their humor like a safety blanket.

2. They're Great at Parties and Social Functions

If you're not the life of the party, then it's great for you to date a funny guy. His sense of humor will take away from the fact that you're not a social butterfly. People will focus on him and his jokes rather than you. He makes a good distraction for any awkward behavior you may display at social functions. His sense of humor also makes him more likeable, which means you can readily take him to a family get-together without worrying about your parents disapproving.

3. They'll Make Any Day Better

Whenever you're having a bad day, you'll be particularly glad you're dating a funny guy. He'll be able to bring you out of even the most stressful times. When you're down and out, he can joke with you to lift your spirits. No matter how upset you are, how could you not feel better after a really great joke?

4. They're Not Obsessed With Comedy

If you're dating a funny guy, it's important to remember that they're not all obsessed with comedy. Just because they are funny, it doesn't mean they want to watch every funny television show or comedic movie. It doesn't mean they want to go to comedy shows every weekend. It also doesn't mean they're obsessed with Seinfeld re-runs or Woody Allen movies.

5. They Can't Be Funny All the Time

This is the most important thing to remember when dating a funny guy. He cannot be funny all the time, and you shouldn't want him to be funny all the time. You have to realize that your “funny guy” is still a person. He has good days and bad days. He's not always going to feel like being funny, so you can't expect him to be. Besides, joking all the time will eventually get old and lose its novelty.

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3 Enchanting Things That Will Make a Man Love You Forever

Some men admit their inability to commit to a woman because they don’t feel ready for it or the timing isn’t right. But sometimes, even the most dedicated bachelor will be willing to take the plunge when he has met the woman of his dreams. So what qualities in a woman really captivate a man and will make him abandon his single life forever?

Here are three qualities that will make a man love a woman forever:

1. She's Not Looking For a Husband

You know what turns off men when it comes to dating and relationships, and even commitment? When you tell your man that you’re desperately seeking a husband – and trust me, every guy is scared when they hear that.

Men desire women who let them be who they are, not for what they can do or give. When a guy gets even the slightest hint that his girlfriend has an agenda beyond just getting to know him, he shuts down immediately and begins to feel less attracted to her. We totally understand that you’re not in the position to waste your time, and you need to find out quickly that the man you’re dating is capable of making a long-term commitment. But, it’s dangerous if you make this your focus in the early days of your relationship. Rather, take your time getting to know him better and let him feel that you enjoy spending time with him.

2. She's Willing To Walk Away

When a man finds out that you've centered your whole life around him, he’ll be pressured because he's started to think that you’ve already made him your partner before you having a conversation about it. He’ll feel immensely pressured to meet your expectations, and at the same time, he hates to disappoint you. He’ll also keep wondering how come you made up your mind about him so fast. Your best approach here is to convey to your guy that you’re selective. Tell him that while you like him and enjoy being with him, you’re also a woman open to options and you are in control of what happens to you. You can do this by living a life outside of him, spending quality time with your family and friends, cultivating your hobbies, and improving your career and life.

3. She Enhances His Life

One of the best and most meaningful ways to build a solid, lasting relationship with a man is by creating positive experiences for him. You can’t talk a man into having a committed relationship with you. A man needs to have a deep, emotional connection with a woman before he can commit to her. If you want a man to believe that his life will be much better with you in it, you’ll need to create the right kind of experiences which will invoke emotional attraction in him. These experiences should be positive and something you both enjoy doing and something that makes you both happy.

5 Ways To Let A Woman Know You’re Interested Without Saying a Word

How can you tell a woman you like her without actually telling her?Well, it turns out that it's all about body language. According to experts, 55 percent of our communication is expressed with our body, while only 7 percent is expressed with our words.  The remaining 38 percent originates from our tone of voice. So, with our posture, mannerisms and eye contact we can let someone know we're interested in them.

Here are five body language clues that a man can use to show a woman he's attracted to her:

1. He Touches His Face

A man who's interested in a girl will make her look at his face. He does this by touching his face at various times. He might also touch his ears, scratch his chin, run his fingers through his hair, or lick his lips – all of this screams that he’s attracted to her. By the way, all of these body language signs are also seen in women when they’re attracted to a man. One big reason both men and woman touch or lick their lips when they see someone attractive or sexy is because lips are one of the most erogenous zones in the human body. So, we subconsciously feel good when we touch them.

2. He raises his eyebrows

When a guy is excited, the pupils of his eyes will become wider than usual. When this occurs, the eyebrows rise and fall as the eyes get bigger. If a woman talks to a man and he feels attracted to her, you can easily see that his eyebrows go up and down while having a conversation with her. Body language specialists also report that a man will become more lively when talking to a girl that he feels attracted to, as he is trying to lure her in.

3. He Fidgets With His Drink

If you see a guy playing with his drink while speaking with a lady, it doesn’t mean that he’s bored or worried. Instead, he’s actually into her. Guys, who are sexually attracted to a girl, might play with things using their hands. For instance, he’ll try to peel off the label of his beer bottle, adjust his watch, tie, undo his cuff links, etc.  The fidgeting will become more pronounced the more attracted he is.

4. He Leans Towards Her

If a man feels interested in a woman, he’ll lean towards her. He’ll also look into her eyes. If he keeps looking into her eyes while having a conversation with her, it’s an indication that he’s interested.

5. He Touches Her

While dating a woman, if a man feels attracted to her, he’ll subconsciously touch her throughout the whole date. Even the most sensitive and shy guys will attempt to nudge her elbow, hand, or back. The challenging part for any woman here is to understand whether these delicate touches are accidental or on purpose. If it’s on purpose, then his intentions are clear and he is interested.