Everyone knows Barack Obama as the 44th President of the United States. Not only is he one of the greatest presidents of all time, but he has also been the go-to figure for some profound wisdom and advice over the last decade. One of the most notable things about Barack has been his marriage to Michelle Obama. The two seem to have the happiest, healthiest marriage in politics! In a recent interview, he was asked for his thoughts on how to have a long and happy marriage and, as usual, he had an incredible response. He claimed that there are three major questions you should ask yourself before marrying someone and we're about to share them right here!
“Is this person interesting?”
This is the most important question you can ask before marrying someone. A healthy marriage is going to take a lot more than just being physically attracted to someone. You have to be genuinely interested in the person to maintain a happy, long term relationship! If you aren't interested in your partner, what will you ever talk to them about?
“Do they make me laugh?”
As we mentioned already, a healthy marriage takes so much more than just physical attraction. One day looks will fade and all you'll be left with is your partner's personality. This is why it's important that your partner can make you laugh! Their appearance is going to change, but their sense of humor is going to stay the same. Unless you want to have a boring retirement, you want to make sure your partner can make you laugh!
“Will they be a good parent?”
We'll admit – this question isn't important to everyone. Not everyone plans on having kids one day, and that's totally okay! But for people who do plan on having kids, it's important to know that your partner is going to be a good parent. You cannot wait until after you have kids to find out that they're not cut-out for parenthood. You need to really look at this person's behavior and characteristics and recognize whether or not they will be a good parent.
So you're thinking of proposing to your partner – or you have an idea that your partner may propose to you. Either way, getting engaged is a huge step to take in a relationship. It means that “holy matrimony” is on the horizon! While you obviously love your partner, and you probably think you know everything there is to know about them, there are some important questions to ask before getting engaged. There are certain, well, deal breakers you should know about before you exchanged those everlasting vows. You don't want to wait until after you're married to find out that you and your partner are on very different pages about some very important things. Before you decide to get married, check out these three important questions to ask before getting engaged:
1. Do You Want Kids?
This is undoubtedly the most important thing you need to know before marrying your partner. Many marriages have ended because one partner wanted kids and the other did not. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting kids (those pesky little devils can be so annoying, right?) There's also nothing wrong with definitely wanting kids (they enrich our lives in a way we could never imagine, right?) Before taking the next step, you need to know if you and your partner are in agreeance about having children. If not, it could mean the end of your marriage.
2. Where Do You Want To Live?
Where you're going to live is a huge decision you'll have to make once you get married. Do you want to continue living wherever you already are? Do you want to move somewhere new and start with a clean slate? Do you want to live in an apartment or a big house? Do you want to make sure that you live far, far away from your in-laws? These questions surrounding living quarters are very important and can make or break a marriage.
3. What Do You See For Your Career?
It's important to know what your partner has in mind for their career, if anything. Maybe they want to be a stay-at-home parent. Maybe they have huge ambitions and want to start their own business. It's also important to know what you want to do with your career. If your partner wants to be a stay-at-home parent, you'll have to be prepared to carry the financial stability in your household. This is something you need to know and agree to in advance, otherwise your marriage is headed for splitsville!