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How To Nicely Tell Someone That You Are Not Interested

We all experience this while dating. We go on a date with someone we're interested in, but your instincts tell you that he or she isn’t right for you. You want to say it to him or her, but can’t, as you don’t want to hurt their feelings. So, what’s the best way to handle the situation? How can you nicely tell someone that you aren’t interested? What should you say?

Usually, considerate people will simply disappear without telling their dates anything. They justify this awful action by convincing themselves that they’ve done this because they don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. It is way better than rejecting someone they have no interest in dating. Is this the right way? Honestly, it’s downright wrong. By not giving any explanation why you left without telling him or her, you’re doing the thing you always wanted to avoid – hurting the other person. You see, nobody likes to be in the dark. It’s inconsiderate, rude and disrespectful. Everyone deserves to be treated honorably. So, handle the situation with an appropriate level of consideration and maturity by investing all your efforts.

Honesty is crucial in a relationship. Always deliver the truth, no matter how harsh or hurtful it can be or how bad the consequences will be to the other person. If you aren’t interested, instead of making him or her wait, be direct and tell them, “I’m not interested in you.” Delivering this message can make any person uneasy, but it will certainly create more pain and discomfort if you delay it. This message will give the person you rejected closure. Otherwise, people can be left thwarted, questioning themselves of their worth.

How the message will impact the other person depends on what you say and how you say it. Sometimes it’s better to keep the explanation brief. Some men and women would be really happy if you gave them detailed reasons. Remember, it’s mainly how you say it, not just what you need them to hear. Keep your tone calm, and be assured, relaxed and gentle. Never be defensive or dismissive. Tell him or her that, you had a great time on the date, but it occurred to you that you aren’t interested in taking this further. Tell them they are a wonderful person with a great personality and qualities, but you noticed that your interests, goals, and personality are different than their's. End it by telling them that you hope they understand and that you aren’t the right person for them.

Also consider the medium you will use to convey your decision. An email may be adequate in some situations, while some will require a reason at the end of the date. But if you want to leave the other person after a few dates, having a conversation over the phone is a commendable choice.

Lastly, if you’re the person who is on the receiving end, remind yourself that finding someone for a relationship always involves some degree of trial and error. Keep in mind that the person you dated rejected you not because there is something wrong with you. It happened because this wasn’t the right match or relationship for you. Be patient with yourself, keep moving ahead, and you will find someone right for you.

3 Ways to Cope With Romantic Rejection

The word rejection is synonymous with dating. You know you got rejected if your online messages aren’t answered, or the person you went on the first date with hasn’t returned your calls. Regardless of the various ways of getting rejected, most rejections have one thing in common. They all make us feel upset, depressed, and angry. What’s worse about rejection is that we can’t find answers to what went wrong, which might keep us wondering. All this self-inflicted punishment makes us feel miserable and can make us lose our self-esteem, confidence, and leave us feeling emotionally weak.

There is a way to rebound from rejection, though. We can get back our happiness, move on and return to the dating scene. Here’s how:

1. Stop criticizing yourself.

It's perfectly fine to be critical of yourself after a rejection, but there is little benefit in that. Many rejections have nothing to do with the personal flaws or shortcomings of a person. It’s more about the chemistry and compatibility of the two individuals. You might think the other person is interested or feels attracted to you, but in reality he or she isn’t interested enough to take it to the next level. If they feel compatible with you, there is a high chance that you too have felt it at some point. Therefore, stop with the self-blaming and bashing, and clear your mind of negative thoughts that you may feel after being rejected.

2. Restore your self-esteem.

Now that you’ve freed yourself of self-criticism, take steps to revive your self-esteem. The best approach for you here is to remind yourself over and over again about all the great qualities you possess, that make you, YOU! Prepare a list of attributes that you have and believe are invaluable for dating and establishing a long-lasting relationship. Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you’re a caring, lovable, loyal, compassionate, good listener, amazing kisser, etc. Now, focus on any one of those attributes and write a short essay on it.

Explain to yourself why it’s important to have this in dating and relationships, how this has helped you with your past dates, and why your future boyfriend or girlfriend will find this indispensable, and so forth. Try to write one or two brief paragraphs, or stop only when you start to feel better about yourself. We promise this activity will have a positive impact on your self-esteem.

3. Reclaim your sense of belonging.

Rejections are painful; we won’t disagree with that. But, the main reason why rejection inflicts such emotional pain is that we start to lose our sense of belonging. Humans are naturally inclined to be “wanted,” “loved” and “need to belong” to someone else. It’s this sense of belonging that has made us very susceptible and sensitive to rejection. It’s advised that if you’ve been a victim of rejection, you reach out to your friends and family for support and to regain your sense of belonging.

When you’re looking for a date, be prepared for rejection. It will be painful, and some of you will suffer from it. Following these three steps will make your healing process faster and easier, and make you more confident for your future dates.

3 Reasons Women Sexually Reject Men

No one likes to experience sexual rejection. As embarrassing as it may be, there is often good reason. Let’s be clear on one thing: Men and women are wired different sexually. A man’s sexual preferences are entirely different from a woman's. The difference in sexuality between men and women is why sexual rejection often occurs. Sexual intimacy and rejection are complicated. When it comes to women, sexual intimacy, particularly sexual pleasure, is a tricky thing.

Below are three primary reasons that women sexually reject men:

1. You are taking things way too fast.

Women’s sexual responses are slower than men. Women dislike being groped or grabbed by men, even by their boyfriends or husbands. Guys, if you think you can touch your girlfriends gently; there is a chance that you can probably touch them even softer and slower. Having sex with a woman shouldn’t be your goal if you are dating them. Dating a woman isn't a sporting event. Awakening a woman’s sexual desire is a process. She will lose interest in sex when she feels like she has to respond fast or in a certain way during intimacy. So, if you want to be sexually intimate with your woman, slow it down. It will decrease your odds of being rejected.

2. Women need 72 hours to prepare for sex.

We already established the fact that sexual intimacy works differently in women than men. Most women complain that their partners want to have sex when they are getting into bed or waking up. Their spouses have forgotten that they are tired and stressed from work and doing the chores. If you were looking to increase your chances of having sex with your girlfriend or wife, give her time. Women take three days to prepare for sex. During these three days, treat her like a princess. Say sweet and passionate words to her. Flirt with her. Compliment her. Admire her. Appreciate her. Don’t take her for granted. Remember, if you want to have great sex, you need her to be emotionally intimate with you.

3. Your penis has nothing to do with it.

A man’s penis and a woman’s vagina are wonderful parts of the human anatomy, and they need to be celebrated. When it comes to sexuality and sexual intimacy, you have masculine sexuality and feminine sexuality. Masculine forms of sexuality are physical and goal-oriented. While feminine forms of sexuality tend to be, subtle, slower and fluid. Both sexes enjoy the masculine and feminine forms of sexual intimacy and expression. Sometimes, some women desire a masculine form of sexuality. However, when it comes to pleasing your girlfriend, don’t assume that you need to use your penis. If you want to be physically intimate with your beloved, focus on things such as looking into her eyes, ensuring that she feels relaxed, and finding out the things that please her sexually and emotionally.

5 Reasons the Girl You Like Keeps Rejecting You

Women want their boyfriends or husbands to be confident, caring, and respectful. They want a man who will take time to get to know them. They want a man who shows they are everything to him and knows their worth. Women hate being objectified by men as sex objects. Instead, they want to be his equal partner. Most men, while dating a woman, are busy immersing themselves in sexual fantasies and imagination, but it’s the opposite for women. Instead, they are more likely to pursue a guy who is better than someone looking for a one night stand.

You might not like hearing this, but you know she needs more than just a casual hook-up. Women who are truly worthwhile for you, are difficult to pursue. Her desires and needs are simple: She wants a committed relationship.

Below are five reasons why women keep rejecting you:

1. Arrogance

Only talking about your life isn’t going to take you far. When it comes to dating, you will need to know how you can relate to women, and how you can make them like you. We understand you want to tell your date what kind of car you drive, where you live, what your job is, and the places or countries you visit for vacations. But she will tune you out if you keep talking about yourself. She has no real interest in the things you do or stuff you own. She knows she can provide most of this stuff to herself. The fact is that she’s curious about whether you have the best intentions for her, and if you are genuinely interested in establishing a romantic connection. Don’t act arrogant unless you want her to keep you in the friend zone.

2. You post pictures with other girls

Your egoistic behavior will make her flinch. Women despise a man who wants shows off his physique like it’s a trophy that is to be won at a carnival or a fair. If she realizes that you are a skirt chaser, she will have no interest in dating you. If you are busy glorifying yourself with your other girlfriends, your partner will assume that you feel insecure. She will lose interest in you fast.

3. You are actively aggressive and have poor communication

If you rush things way too soon, get ready to get rejected. Your date isn’t in the mood to have sex with you on the first date. Take things slow and start first by knowing more about her. Women know men have sexual desires, but you need to take the time to get to know her first.

4. You don’t communicate

You need to communicate with her about your thoughts and feelings. If you don’t communicate, she won’t open up to you because she won't trust you enough. Excellent communication and developing a friendship with her shows her that’s she is worth your time.

5. You send her sexually explicit pictures

This is pretty common. Sending her x-rated photos will get you nixed immediately. It makes her think that you are only after sex, not a relationship. Before women can be vulnerable with you, she needs to feel valued and appreciated. She won’t be interested in being in an intimate relationship with you if sexual gratification is all you are looking for. You shouldn’t be sexting her or sending her porn. If you want to be intimate with her, this will get you nowhere.