We could all use a little help sometimes, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. We often go to friends for relationship advice, but maybe there's a better group of people we should be asking. Our elders are the wisest, because they've been through it all already! Certainly they've got the best words of wisdom when it comes to love. We've gathered 40 pieces of relationship advice from seniors that you'll want to take to heart! Check them out below:
- Always be a good listener.
- Take responsibility for your actions.
- Never try to control your partner.
- Don't complain about your partner to your friends and family.
- Love is not just a feeling. It's a choice.
- Don't blame your partner for your own shortcomings.
- Give love to receive love.
- Let love come to you. Don't search for it all the time.
- Ladies, don't chase after a man. Let him chase after you!
- Avoid jealousy at all costs.
- Smile every chance you get.
- Actions speak louder than words. Show your partner you care.
- Looks will fade, so make sure there is something more.
- Always keep your word.
- Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
- Passive aggressive behavior will always backfire on you.
- Take time for yourself after a breakup.
- Don't forget to spend time with your friends.
- Make family a priority.
- Love yourself before you love someone else.
- Don't obsess over exes or previous relationships.
- Don't expect someone else to save you.
- Setting your expectations too high will only hurt you.
- Do little things every day to show your partner you care.
- Be generous with compliments.
- Don't be afraid of rejection.
- Show your vulnerable side.
- Express gratitude and appreciation for your partner.
- Always be honest and faithful.
- Be open with your partner about your fears and insecurities.
- Practice empathy and kindness at all times.
- Don't let bad habits ruin your relationship.
- Go out of your way to keep the passion alive.
- Change things up every so often.
- Don't compare your relationship to other couples.
- Pick your battles.
- Show your partner respect even when they're not around.
- Don't play games with your partner.
- Support your partner through hard times.
- Remember that things won't always be easy.
Relationships are complicated things and we often wonder how we can improve them. One way to improve a relationship is to take a look at your expectations. Are you asking too much of your partner? Do you expect too much from them in the relationship? It's one thing to expect your partner to meet a certain standard. It's another thing to expect them to meet an unattainable standard. We've got five signs that you're asking too much from your partner. Check them out here:
1. You expect gifts and attention all the time.
If you expect your partner to shower you with gifts and attention all the time, you expect too much from them. You're also spoiled, but that's another topic for another time. You cannot expect your partner to spend all of their free time with you, or to spend all of their money catering to your every whim and wish. That is not a relationship.
2. You compare your relationship to other people's.
If you are always comparing your relationship to other people's relationships, you're probably expecting too much. You can't constantly compare your partner to other people. Every person is different and every relationship is different. It's also important to remember that other people's relationships are not perfect. You may see their relationship as being ideal, but you have no idea what goes on in private. You may be comparing your partner to someone who is actually a terrible person in their own relationship.
3. You compare your relationship to fictional ones.
If you're not comparing your relationship to other people's, you might be comparing it to fictional relationships. This is definitely a sign you expect too much from your partner. Relationships on television shows and in movies are not real. They are portrayed as perfect and idealistic. They very rarely meet realistic standards. You may think that the husband or boyfriend on your favorite TV show is perfect, but you have to realize that he is not real. It is unfair to compare your own partner to a fictional one.
4. Your partner has vastly different expectations in the relationship.
Another sign that you expect too much from your partner is if their expectations are vastly different from yours. Your partner may be perfectly happy with your relationship and only expect small things from you, whereas you expect grand gestures. For example, if your partner expects you to cook dinner twice weekly, while you expect them to buy you expensive jewelry once monthly, your expectations are vastly different.
5. You expect your partner to change who they are.
The biggest sign that you expect too much from your partner is if you expect them to change who they are. Wanting someone to change the person they are is a death sentence for a relationship. People can only change so much, and asking a person to change is cruel and unnecessary. If you expect this from your partner, then they should not be your partner. This is an unfair and unrealistic expectation.