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How Long Should You Date Before Moving In Together?

Relationships come with numerous milestones and one of the biggest ones is moving in together. Moving in together is a huge step to take as a couple and when it comes to taking this step, timing is essential. If you do it too early, it can ruin the relationship. At the same time, it can be problematic to wait too long to do it also. We’re discussing why timing is essential when it comes to moving in together. Check it out below!

Moving In Together Too Soon

Moving in together too soon is one of the most common mistakes in a relationship. People have a tendency to get overly excited about their new partner and want to spend every second together, so they feel that moving in together is the way to do that. The problem is that you can essentially overdose on one another and the lead the relationship right into the trash can. Spending 24/7 together that soon is just too much. Also, moving in together is just far serious of a step for a new couple. You don’t know this person well enough to know how they handle all the aspects of maintaining a home. You don’t know that they’re reliable enough to help out with the bills or household chores. It’s too much of a gamble!

Moving In Together Too Late

On the flip side, it can be catastrophic for a couple to wait too long to move in together. The truth is that living together is the best way to get to know who someone really is. You learn each and every one of their quirks and idiosyncrasies. You find out what you can tolerate and what you cannot. Say you date someone for five years and then you finally decide to move in together. Once you’re living together, you then realize that this person drives you insane and you cannot tolerate them on a 24/7 basis…and the relationship ends. This means that you just wasted five years of your life! Ultimately, we suggest moving in together after you’ve dated someone at least 8 months to a year.

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Too Close For Comfort: 4 Huge Signs You’re In A Codependent Relationship

Relationships are meant to be close and intimate, but can a relationship become too close? Codependent relationships refer to relationships in which one or both partners become dependent on the other to an unhealthy extent. This often means that they completely rely on their partner for their happiness in life and are unable to function without the support and approval of the other person. While it is normal to be attached to your partner, it is not normal to be completely and entirely dependent on them. If you're worried that you may be in a codependent relationship, check out these four major warning signs:

1. You Have To Get Their Permission To Do Things

It is totally okay and actually beneficial to take your partner into consideration when making decisions. However, it is not okay if you have to check with your partner before any and every single thing that you do. For instance, if you have to get your partner's permission to have dinner with your best friend, this is not normal. This is a sign of a codependent relationship because it shows that you can no longer make decisions for yourself.

2. You've Stopped Hanging Out With Friends

One of the biggest signs you're in a codependent relationship is if you've stopped hanging out with your friends. It's understandable that you want to spend time with your partner, but if you only want to spend time with your partner, this can become unhealthy. If you notice that you have abandoned your friendships, this is a warning sign.

3. You Feel Lost or Unhappy When They're Not Around

It is okay to miss your partner when they are not around, but at a certain point is it not normal. If you find that you cannot be happy at all when you are alone or you don't know what to do if your partner is not present, you have become codependent. You need to be able to function normally without your partner by your side at all times.

4.You've Abandoned Old Hobbies or Passions

Do you find that you no longer have interest in the hobbies you had before your relationship? Have you abandoned your old interests and find yourself focusing all of your energy on your partner? This is a sign that you are in a codependent relationship because you are revolving your entire existence around your partner and completely neglecting the things you once loved.

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Getting Closer: 5 Activities For Bonding With Your Partner

It's something that happens in every relationship. Eventually both partners start get distant and grow apart. This is inevitable, especially when you've been together for awhile. Fortunately, there are many things you can do to strengthen the bond in your relationship. Many of these things are totally simple and you can do them right away! Check out five activities for bonding with your partner:

1. Creating Something Together

A great way to strengthen the bond with your partner is to create something together. This can be a craft or piece of art. Make a painting together. Make a small sculpture together. Go out in the yard and plant a garden together. If you both work together to create something totally new, it will help you to feel closer to one another.

2. Solving A Puzzle

Another great way to get closer to your partner is by working together to solve a puzzle or other activity. When you have to work together to figure something out, it will force you to get closer to one another. You'll have to spend time putting your heads together and using your problem-solving skills, which will ultimately help you feel closer.

3. Couple's Massage

Getting a couple's massage or having a spa day together will make you feel pampered and closer to one another. Massages and spa treatments will help you to relax and feel less tension, ultimately strengthening your bond.

4. See A Movie Together

Seeing a new movie together will strengthen your bond because it creates a new memory for the two of you. It also gives you something to talk about and critique together. This will help you to feel close again, especially if you've been struggling to find conversation topics.

5. Thrill-Seeking

Doing something dangerous together is an amazing way to strengthen your bond. We're not suggesting anything too dangerous, but something that does get your heart racing. This may be bungee jumping or sky diving – anything that forces you to rely on your partner for comfort. This will put the two of you in a position where you need to rely on one another to feel better, which will make you feel closer.

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Dating Over 30: 6 Dating Tips For Women Over 30

We all need tips when it comes to dating, but some of us more than others. As you get older, dating may be more daunting and stressful. We've got some great dating tips for women over 30. Check them out below:

1. Have A Positive Attitude

The best dating tip for people of any age is to have a positive attitude. This is especially helpful as you get older. Women over 30 may feel discouraged as they are dating, and they may feel like their time is running out to find the perfect partner. If this is the attitude you have, you won't be happy with your results. Having a positive attitude when dating will help you reach a better outcome.

2. Embrace Your Natural Beauty

As women age, they may begin to feel insecure about their physical appearance. Things like wrinkles may begin to appear. You may see your first few grey hairs. You'll be tempted to cover these things up with layers of makeup or hair dye, but it's better to embrace your natural beauty. You are in your thirties, so you look like a person in their thirties. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this! If you encounter someone who has a problem with the way you look, they're not the person you want to date.

3. Don't Chase Anyone

A great dating tip for anyone of any age is don't chase anyone. If someone is not giving you what you want or expect, move on. You cannot force someone to be the person you want, and chasing them will only make you look desperate. If someone is giving you the cold shoulder, accept it as a loss and move forward.

4. Try Online Dating

If you haven't dabbled in online dating yet, now may be the time. Online dating has a lot of positive aspects and can be very useful, especially for women over 30. Online dating gives you the chance to make it perfectly clear what you want in a potential partner. It also expedites the sometimes long and tedious process of meeting people to date.

5. Don't Push For Marriage or Kids

We understand that once you reach a certain age, you may have marriage and children on the brain. While these things are important and may be a major concern for you, don't let it control your entire dating life. Don't let dating become a frantic search for the perfect person to marry or have kids with. This will only send you into the arms of the wrong person because you are anxious to settle down.

6. Forget the Past

By the age of 30, you've had some previous relationships. This is to be expected. However, don't let those past relationships dictate your future ones. While you may have certain mistakes you have learned from, don't let bad experiences make you afraid of future ones. Also don't obsess over your previous relationships. This will drive away any potential partners.

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Time To Say Goodbye: 5 Signs That You Need To Break Up

Do you feel like your relationship is nearing the end? Have you considered breaking up with your partner but you're just not sure? There are a few ways to tell if it's time to call it quits. Check out five signs that you need to break up with your partner:

1. There Is Emotional or Physical Abuse

Any kind of abuse should never be taken lightly. This is the biggest sign that you need to break up with your partner. If you are suffering from emotional or physical abuse, it's time to leave. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. Likewise, if you have become abusive to your partner, the two of you need to separate and you need to seek treatment for your abusive tendencies.

2. One Of You Has Cheated

Very few couples can recover from infidelity. Bouncing back depends on the circumstances and the couple themselves. For the majority of couples, it's time to break up once one of you has cheated. Cheating means that either you or your partner has given up on the relationship and it's not likely it can be saved.

3. You're Attracted to Other People

Everyone admires people other than your partner. Noticing attractive strangers is just human nature. However, if you find yourself genuinely attracted to someone else in a way that you want to be in a relationship with them rather than your partner, you need to break up.

4. You Can't See A Future Together

You and your partner may have once envisioned a future together, but if you can't do that anymore, it's time to break up. If you imagine what your future will look like and your partner is not in it, it's time to let them go now so that you can both pursue what you want in life.

5. You Have A Gut Feeling

There is a lot to be said for intuition. Sometimes you just know when something isn't right. If you have a gut feeling that you need to break up with your partner, it's probably because the relationship has run its course.

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Helping Them Start Over: 5 Tips For Dating Someone Who Just Got Divorced

Dating is difficult even in the best of circumstances. One predicament that many people encounter when dating is getting involved with someone who is going through a divorce. This can be a particularly hard situation to navigate, so we're going to share five tips for dating someone who just got divorced. Check them out here:

1. Don't Force Them To Talk About It

The most important tip for dating someone who just got divorced is to not force them to talk about it. Don't bombard them with questions about what went wrong in their marriage. Of course you are going to be curious, but it may be a touchy subject for them. You need to let them bring it up when they're ready.

2. Understand That They May Be Nervous

When you're dealing with someone who just got divorced, you need to realize that it may have been a while since they've dated. They might have been married for a long time, and with their ex for years before marriage. They may feel nervous about re-entering the dating scene after such a long time, so you need to be understanding of their feelings.

3. Accept That They're Going To Be Emotional

Someone who is going through a divorce or recently divorced is likely to be in the healing process for a while. It is not often that people are happy after a divorce. Be gentle with this person, as they still have an open wound that needs to heal and this could take some time, depending on why their marriage ended.

4. Beware of Being A Rebound

An important tip for dating someone who just got divorced is to make such you are not a rebound. Many people who are recently divorced enter into new relationships too soon because it masks the pain thy are feeling from their failed marriage. You want to make sure that they are not just using you to get over their ex-spouse.

5. Be Prepared To Deal With the Ex and Children

Many people who are divorced still have to deal with their ex on a regular basis because they have kids together. If this is going to be a problem for you, get out of the relationship before either of you develops significant feelings. You need to figure out early on if you can handle their ex-spouse being involved in the both of your lives.

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Coping Mechanisms: 4 Ways To Deal With Depression In A Relationship

Depression is a serious condition that affects millions of people and makes everyday life hard to navigate. Depression can make things like relationships especially difficult, because it puts excess strain on both people involved. Whether you are suffering from depression or your partner is suffering from depression, your relationship needs special care and attention. The following are four ways to deal with depression in a relationship:

1. Take Care Of Yourself

When struggling with any condition – mental or physical – the most important thing is to take care of yourself. You need to take the best care of yourself that you can. This will help you to feel your best and will give your relationship the best chance to succeed. This means being in tune with yourself and knowing when you need to rest or take time to yourself. If you're going through an especially rough time, you need to make your self-care a priority.

2. Be Honest and Open With Your Partner

One of the most effective ways to deal with depression in a relationship is to always be honest and open with your partner. Tell your partner how you are feeling and make sure that you express yourself freely. If you keep your emotions bottled up, it will only hurt you both in the long run. You need to let your partner know when you are having a hard time. You also need to let your partner know if they are doing something that is damaging to your emotional well-being.

3. Have A Constructive Hobby

Dealing with depression in a relationship can be extremely stressful and tiring. It may get to a point where you want to take your frustrations out on your partner or vice versa. It is helpful if you both have separate, constructive hobbies to re-focus your energies. Putting your time and energy into a hobby will help you to not react so strongly and emotionally when having difficulties in your relationship.

4. Seek Help If Needed

It is important that people with depression seek professional help when needed. Depression can be unpredictable and unmanageable at times. When it feels like things are too much to handle, you need to seek help from a professional. It is also important that your partner seek help if they are having difficulty in the relationship. You may want to go to couple's counseling, if you feel that you would both benefit from professional help.

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Meet the Parents: 6 Pieces Of Advice When Meeting Your Partner’s Parents

Is there anything more stressful in a new relationship than meeting your partner's parents? You stress out over what to say, what to wear, etc. You're worried about whether or not they'll approve of you. Listen – this is something that has made all of us nervous at some point. Let us give you some pieces of advice for meeting your partner's parents!

1. Do Your Homework

A fortunate thing about the modern age we live in is that we have social media. Social media is a huge advantage when it comes to things like meeting your partner's parents because it allows you to do some research. Before meeting the parents, look them up online. Try to get an idea of who they are. This will give you some insight into things they like, things they don't like, etc. It will help you to know what topics to steer clear of. For instance, if their Facebook is full of political posts that you disagree with, you know not to bring up politics.

2. Have Your Partner Give Them a Heads-Up

Most parents do not like being surprised by their child's significant other. Whether it be a family dinner or formal event, if you show up on your partner's arm and their parents had no idea you were coming, you're off to a bad start. Make sure your partner has told their parents that you will be coming to meet them. This puts both parties on level playing ground, giving them appropriate time to prepare as well as you.

3. Dress Modestly

This one should go without saying, but some people need a reminder: dress nicely when meeting your partner's parents! Do not dress like a slob. Do not dress provocatively. Do not wear your favorite t-shirt that has a cartoon character on it. All of these things will look poorly to the people who may one day be your in-laws. You want to make a good impression here!

4. Remember Your Manners

We're not little kids anymore, so we really shouldn't have to remind you to use your manners when meeting new people! It is especially important to use your manners when meeting your partner's parents. If you're rude or inconsiderate, they'll remember it forever. Think of this like you would a job interview. Make sure you are extra courteous and respectful so that these people will want you around in the future.

5. Avoid TMI

While you want to tell your partner's parents about yourself, you don't want to tell them too much. Remember that you're trying to look good, so this is not the time to air your dirty laundry. They don't need to know about all your previous failed relationships. They don't need to know about your family's short-comings, like Aunt Mary's drinking problem or Grandpa Fred's criminal history. If it doesn't make you look good, keep it to yourself.

6. Be Confident

Most importantly, be confident when meeting your partner's parents. Remember that they're people, just like you. They're probably nervous, just like you. All that they want is someone good in their child's life, so they might interrogate you and try to shake you, but don't let it get you down. You want them to see that you are a confident person who will only be a positive part of their family.

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Long-Lasting Love: 5 Habits of Happy Couples

While so many of us struggle to make our relationships work, there are tons of couples out there who have been together forever. These couples have made it all work and always seem happy! So what is their secret? We've got five habits of happy couples that lead to long-lasting relationships. Check them out here:

1. Making Time For One Another

One of the most important habits of happy couples is making time for one another. It's easy to get caught up in things like work or school and neglect your partner. Eventually, this will lead to the breakdown of your relationship. Happy couples make it a priority to set aside time for their partner. It doesn't need to be time for a week-long vacation. It can just be designating one night each month to a “date night” with your partner, where you don't let the rest of life get in the way.

2. Showing Appreciation

A lot of relationships fall apart because one or both partners stop showing the other that they appreciate them. If your partner is taking care of chores around the house or paying a lot of the bills, show them that you appreciate what they do. If your partner has dinner ready for you when you get home from work, let them know how much that means to you. Don't let your partner think that you're taking them for granted or they'll be gone before you know it.

3. Picking Their Battles

Another habit of happy couples is knowing which battles to fight and which battles to let go. Happy couples do not fight over every little thing. They learn to let the little things go and move on. Happy couples know when something is important enough to bring it up for debate. If you choose to fight over every single little thing, your relationship will become miserable. You need to know which battles to fight and which to let go of.

4. Sharing Responsibilities

The happiest couples know that responsibilities need to be shared. You cannot let your partner do all the work while you sit back and reap all the benefits. Both partners should be working hard to keep the relationship afloat. Both partners should contribute to things like house work and paying bills. If one partner does everything for the other, they're going to become resentful and want to give up on the relationship.

5. Giving Each Other Space

One of the major habits of happy couples is giving each other space. You cannot smother your partner and spend every moment with them. This will only drive them away. You need to know when to give your partner space. Let them have a monthly night out with their friends. If they have to spend their entire lives with you, they'll eventually get bored with you and want to leave.

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What He Really Wants: 25 Things Men Secretly Love

Do you know what your boyfriend or husband really wants? Men aren't as expressive or open with their needs as women are. They don't often say what they really want or tell you the things they enjoy. We've put together 25 things that men secretly love, but will probably never tell you about. Check them out below!

  1. Romantic, sappy gestures like love notes and anniversary gifts
  2. When you tell them exactly what you think, feel or want
  3. Watching cheesy rom-coms with you
  4. When you tease and make fun of them (just a little)
  5. When you watch sports with him even though you don't want to
  6. Changes in routine that shake things up a little
  7. When you surprise him by cooking his favorite meal
  8. Giving him a nice massage after work
  9. Having breakfast and coffee ready for him when he wakes up
  10. When you at least offer to pay for dinner
  11. Pampering you and making you feel like a princess
  12. Binge-watching your favorite show with you
  13. Binge-watching his favorite show with you
  14. When you let him have time with his friends
  15. When you go out for the night with your girlfriends
  16. Hearing all about your day at work, school, etc.
  17. When you let him in on secrets you've never told anyone
  18. When you initiate sex
  19. When you let him get out of hanging out with your family
  20. …But also when you include him in important family events
  21. Bragging about you to his friends or family
  22. When you brag about him to your friends and family
  23. When you text or call him (but not too much)
  24. Letting him play video games for hours
  25. Spending the day doing absolutely nothing with you

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