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Online Interference: 4 Ways Social Media Ruins Relationships

Let's face it; we all love social media. It's become a staple in our modern society. I mean, do you really even exist if you're not on social media? Okay, that may be taking it too far… In any case, almost everyone is on social media and recent studies have shown that things like Facebook can actually take a detrimental toll on your relationship. If you're worried that social media could be destroying your romance, check out four ways that social media ruins relationships below:

1. You Compare Yourself To Other Couples

One of the worst things about social media in general is that it encourages you to compare yourself to others. This especially happens when it comes to your relationship. You may see the cute pictures that your friends post with partners and you think that they have the perfect relationship. This can cause you to compare their relationship to your own and begin to doubt if your relationship is as strong as other people's relationships. The truth is that people typically only show the good stuff about their lives on social media. The couple that seems so perfect on Instagram or Facebook may actually be fighting 24/7 in reality.

2. It Can Facilitate Infidelity

While social media isn't going to turn someone into a cheater, it definitely makes it easier to cheat. Your partner can meet someone new online and begin an emotional relationship with someone through private messages completely unbeknownst to you. Many relationships have fallen apart because one partner began an affair through social media that eventually manifested into reality.

3. It Causes Unnecessary Arguments

There are a lot of unnecessary arguments that happen in every relationship. While it's normal to have arguments, it helps if you can try to avoid as many of these trivial arguments as possible. One way to do that is to not use social media. Social media leads to so many unnecessary arguments. You might be mad at your partner for not posting enough photos of you. Your partner may be mad at you for “liking” a post from an ex. The possibilities are really endless when it comes to all the silly disagreements that social media can cause.

4. You Share TMI About Your Relationship

We've all done this: Been upset about something and vented about it on social media. Emotions can compel you to share too much on social media and this is something you really don't want to do when it comes to your relationship. You may be mad at your partner and say some awful things about them online that you later regret. However, once it's out there, you can't take it back.

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Is It Disrespectful To Your Partner If You Post Revealing Pictures Of Yourself Online?

We're all addicted to social media. Who isn't constantly on their phones or laptops checking things like Instagram and Twitter? A big aspect of social media is sharing pictures with your followers. This often includes the mirror shots or selfies, but some people take it a step further. More and more people are sharing photos of themselves I revealing clothing – or no clothing at all, in some cases. Now, we have no problem with this. If you feel that you look good and want to show yourself off, so be it. We do wonder, though: What if you're dating someone? If you're in a relationship, does your partner care that you are sharing revealing photographs online?

The answer to this question depends on your partner. If your partner is more conservative and feels that your body is for their eyes only, they'll feel like it's disrespectful of you to share revealing pictures of yourself with people online. They may feel that you are trying to get attention from other guys/girls, or that you don't feel validated enough by the attention they give you in private.

On the flipside, if your partner is more progressive and open-minded, they're likely to be totally okay with it. They may feel that posting these pictures is not disrespectful and that it boosts your confidence. On both sides, your partner should want you to feel good about yourself. If you need to post pictures of yourself online to feel good about yourself, it may be a problem that requires some self-reflection. If you do it just every once in a while because you feel really proud of a certain picture or the way you look in it and it makes you feel confident to share it, then that is fine. If you have a partner who is uncomfortable with you doing this, you need to have a discussion about it and either reach a compromise or go your separate ways. In the end, you want to be in a relationship where both people feel good about themselves, but both people also feel respected and secure.

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Internet Addiction: What To Do When Your Partner Is Addicted To Social Media

Let's be real: We're all obsessed with social media. We love posting quippy remarks on Twitter. We love posting pictures of our outfits (or our meals) on Instagram. We simply must see what our friends are up to on Facebook. The social media cycle is never-ending! With all the social media outlets to check, it's almost impossible to put our phones down. While social media can be fun, it can also be destructive, especially for relationships. It's hard to really connect with your partner and have a good time when they are glued to their phone checking social media. It's difficult to go out somewhere when your partner needs to snap pictures for Instagram every five minutes or constantly “check in” on Facebook. If you feel that your partner is addicted to social media, you need to do something about it. But what can you do?

If you feel like your partner is addicted to social media, talk to them about it! Bring it up in a nice and mature manner. Don't make them feel like you are attacking them or criticizing them. Explain to them that you feel like their attention is focused more on social media than actual interaction. Explain how you feel when they are glued to their phone rather than engaging with you. It might help to start pointing out when you catch them on social media at inappropriate times. This can help to show them that they have become obsessive over their social media accounts.

It can also be helpful to suggest a “social media break.” Suggest that both you and your partner take a break from social media, just for a few days or even weeks. This will help your partner to realize they do not need to constantly be on social media outlets. You can also set aside certain times that it is okay to check social media, such as when they're alone and definitely not when you're on a date!

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The Great Debate: Does Social Media Help Or Hurt Your Love Life?

We live in an age that is dominated by the internet. How many of us sit on our laptops for hours, only to close them and open the internet on our phones? So much of our day is spent browsing the internet and most of that time online is spent obsessing over social media. From Facebook to Instagram to Twitter to Snapchat, the world of social media is literally endless. It's easy to get swept up in social media, posting pictures and sharing your life with people. While social media can be a good thing by helping you connect with people, there's been a recent movement to limit how much time people spend on social media. A particular debate that people have is whether or not social media is good for relationships and dating. We've got a few opinions on the matter, and we're going to break it all down here!

The Good

When it comes to dating, there are definitely some good things about using social media. The most obvious thing is that social media makes it easier to meet people. You can meet people online that you would have never met in person. Being online,  It also makes it easier to strike up a conversation with someone new. Talking to someone behind a computer screen takes away a lot of the intimidation of striking up a conversation in person. Social media is also a great way to, how do we put this…advertise yourself? On your social media profile you can tell people what you like, what you don't like. You can show off your best attributes. This helps to show potential partners what you're like and makes them more likely to pursue you.

The Bad

When it comes to relationships, social media has some definite downsides. For starters, a lot of relationships end due to “social media infidelity.” Social media makes it easier for partners to stray from their relationship. They can meet someone online and build an entire emotional connection all while being in a relationship! For this reason, a lot of people insist on having the passwords to their partner's social media accounts, which only breeds distrust. Another reason social media is bad for relationships is because being on it creates unrealistic expectations. Couples have a habit of portraying their relationships as being “perfect” on things like Facebook and Instagram. Not only is this false, but it makes other couples feel insecure about their own relationship. They begin to doubt whether their relationship is as strong as other couple's relationships, and this only leads to major problems.

The Conclusion

Basically, we believe that social media is good for dating and bad for relationships. When you're looking for a potential partner, social media can be a helpful tool. If you've already found a partner, social media can be absolutely lethal for your relationship. When it comes down to it, everyone is different and everyone uses social media differently. It ultimately depends on how things affect yourself or your partner that determines whether it's good or bad!

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Social Media Sabotage: 4 Ways Facebook Ruins Relationships

Are you hooked on social media? Unfortunately, most of us are addicted to our social media. We're especially glued to that pesky Facebook devil. We feel the incessant need to check our Facebook throughout the day. Did someone leave me a comment? How many people “liked” my post? What's everyone posting on the newsfeed? While using Facebook can be an innocent pastime, it can also lead to unnecessary issues. Facebook is especially troublesome when it comes to maintaining a healthy relationship. You probably don't realize it, but social media can lead to the downfall of an otherwise good couple. We've got four ways Facebook ruins relationships:

1. It makes you compare your relationship to others.

The most insidious thing about social media is that it encourages us to compare our lives to other people's. Even if you don't realize you're doing it, you likely are. Facebook ruins relationships in this way because it gives you insight into what other couples are like. You see their pictures or their posts about one another, and before you know it, you're comparing your relationship to theirs. This is never ever healthy, and it's also not realistic. Before you compare your relationship to what you see online, remember that not everything is as it seems. Many couples portray themselves in a better light online than they actually are in reality.

2. You expect your partner to “like” everything you post.

As social media has become more and more popular, we've put more value on it in our lives. We've started to use social media to evaluate our self-worth, and this is highly problematic. It's extra problematic in relationships. You may find yourself hurt when your partner doesn't acknowledge you on Facebook. Maybe they don't post a lot of pictures of you. Maybe they don't “like” everything you post. Suddenly you're questioning your entire relationship because your partner isn't paying attention to you online. When this happens, you have to remember that Facebook is not reality. You need to focus on how your partner actually treats you in person, not how they treat you on Facebook.

3. You share too much of your relationship with the public.

A huge issue with Facebook is that people use it to air their dirty laundry. They have full-blown arguments on it. They post cryptic comments directed at their partner. They change their relationship status back and forth, letting the world know that their on the rocks. This does nothing but harm to the relationship. It gives your friends, family and co-workers a front-row seat to your drama. Couples need to realize that social media is not the place to hash out your relationship issues.

4. It encourages jealousy and paranoia.

Perhaps the most prevalent way that Facebook ruins relationships is by creating jealousy and paranoia. You see your partner “like” someone else's photo and the next thing you know, you're searching through their phone and scouring their emails. You used to trust them, but now you think they're cheating on you. Maybe you see them comment on a co-worker's post and you're suddenly filled with paranoia. Your mind starts creating scenarios that most likely don't exist. Thinking too much into your partner's activity on Facebook is certainly a way to destroy your relationship.

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