We often think of breakups as awful, heartbreaking situations that we just want to push away and store in some hidden box in our memory, but what if your breakup is amicable and you're on good terms with your ex? This is usually the desired scenario when you break up with someone, staying friends and having no bad blood. This may be a good idea in theory, but how does it play out in modern society when you have constant, 24/7 communication with your “friends” through social media? It's one thing to stay friends with an ex when there's a chance you may run into one another every few months or even years. It's another thing to stay friends with an ex on social media when the two of you are going to see each other's every move, every day. So should you really be friends with an ex on social media?
There are times when it's totally okay to be friends with an ex on social media…and there are times that it isn't. So how do you know which time it's okay? First, it's okay to be friends with your ex on social media if things ended on good terms. If things ended amicably, it's unlikely that either of you will be bothered by each other's social media presence. It's also okay to be friends with your ex on social media if you're both single. This means that no one is possibly disrespecting their new partner.
So when is it not okay to be friends with an ex on social media? It's not okay if the relationship ended very badly. If your relationship ended badly, staying friends with your ex on social media and constantly seeing reminders of them is just going to bring up bad memories and prevent you from healing. It's also not okay if you or your ex is in a new relationship. Their partner or your partner may say that they are okay with your friendship, but it may be perceived as disrespectful on your part. It may also seem like you are hanging on to the previous relationship or like there is a chance that you may want to rekindle the previous relationship.
Overall, staying friends with an ex on social media can be a totally normal thing depending on the circumstances of that relationship. You need to consider how things ended as well as what you want for your future when you are allowing an ex to stay in your life to any capacity – even if it's just online.