For several decade now, the statistics on marriage success have been pretty poor. Over half of all marriages end up in divorce. Surely when you marry someone, you plan on it lasting forever. So what is it that these couples are getting wrong? According to divorce therapists and experts, they are not following these eight important tips for having a healthy marriage:
1. Always Be Honest
Honesty is the best policy – you've heard that before. A marriage build on lies and deception is never going to survive. It's one thing to tell your partner a little white lie every now and then, but you should never lie about the big things in your relationship. Be open and truthful with your partner and it will help strengthen your marriage.
2. Make Time For One Another
One of the leading causes for divorce is one partner neglecting the other. Over time, many married couples don't put in the effort to make quality time for one another. This leads one or both partners feeling like the other just doesn't care. Go out of your way to make time for your partner and you'll be more likely to keep your partner.
3. Stay Playful
Relationships can get boring over time. This happens for all couples. Having a healthy marriage means keeping things interesting. Try to hold on to that flirty, playful nature that you had with your partner when you first got together. This will keep things fun and new.
4. Communication is Key
Communication may be the most important aspect of relationships. Many marriages fail because the couple doesn't communicate properly with one another. You should be able to speak to your partner about your wants and needs, and vice versa. If you can be open with one another, things will work in your favor.
5. Take Responsibility For Your Mistakes
Mistakes are going to happen in a marriage. What matters is whether or not you own up to your mistakes and try to correct them. Healthy couples know how to take responsibility for their mistakes and avoid making the same ones in the future.
6. Have Realistic Expectations
If you want your marriage to succeed, you need to have realistic expectations. Don't expect ridiculous things from your partner that you know they cannot achieve. This may be expecting them to make way more money than they are making, or expecting them to cut off old friends and family. Have reasonable, realistic expectations that can actually be met.
7. Accept Change
Any long term relationship is going to go through changes. If you and your spouse cannot adapt to change together, you may not work out in the long run. Healthy couples can adjust to the natural changes that occur in life.
8. Learn to Compromise
Compromise is key when it comes to having a healthy marriage. If one or both spouses is always stubborn and refuse to budge on any disagreements, things are not going to work out. Find a balance, a way to have a healthy give and take. This will lead to a long-lasting marriage.