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Does Valentine’s Day Lose Significance In Long-Term Relationships?

Valentine's Day is right around the corner, which means many couples are making dinner reservations and getting romantic gifts for their partner…but a lot of couples aren't doing anything special at all. Why is it that some couples go all-out celebrating Valentine's Day while other couples don't do much of anything for it? The difference usually depends on how long you've been together. Don't believe us? We're breaking it down below…

Is there anything more exciting than your first Valentine's Day with your new partner? The relationship is fresh. The two of you can't get enough of one another. And now, Valentine's Day has come around. Valentine's Day is a free-pass to show off your love to the world. You can be openly obnoxious about your relationship. You can pack on all the PDA you want. You'll probably get your partner a freakishly huge heart-shaped balloon to walk around with. Maybe they'll get you a bouquet of 50 roses to display on your desk at work. The two of you will go to dinner at a fancy restaurant and take a dozen pictures for social media. You're totally allowed to act like this at this point – it's Valentine's Day, after all! For new couples who are still in that grossly infatuated stage, Valentine's Day is the best holiday they could celebrate. So why is it different for couples who have been together longer?

If you've ever been in a long-term relationship, you know that things fizzle out over time. While you still love your partner, you're no longer in that obsessive, can't-get enough-of-each-other, scream-it-from-the-rooftops kind of love. The longer you've been together, the more likely you are to show your love in more subtle ways. This may be sharing household chores or taking care of your partner when they're sick. These things may not sound too romantic or fun, but they do show your partner that you care. See, long-term couples realize that these everyday actions are actually more important ways to show your love for one another. That doesn't mean the showy, gratuitous affection you show someone in the beginning of a relationship is bad or unimportant. It's just means that the way you show love to your partner changes over time, making a holiday like Valentine's Day less necessary to celebrate over the years. Long-term couples will still celebrate the day, just in a smaller way. This may mean spending Valentine's Day at home and cooking a nice meal together or watching a movie you both love. You'll find that this type of Valentine's Day is just as much fun and romantic as the Valentine's of your earlier years!

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