Sure, every relationship has its bad times, but you and your ex had a genuinely good relationship. Maybe it is only now after you two broke up that you fully realize how great your relationship was. If you are truly serious about getting your ex back and building a strong, meaningful relationship, then you need Text Your Ex Back – a guide written by relationship coach Michael Fiore which takes you step-by-step through the process of winning his or her heart back using text.
Before we go any further, I think it is important to address why you’d want to use text to get your ex back. I mean, shouldn’t you call her, send flowers to her work, or serenade her outside her window at night? In short, NO.
Those sorts of direct approaches can be flattering and effective when you are on good terms with a person you care about. But, if your relationship is on the rocks, they will scare him or her away. Text is distant enough not to scare your ex off – which is the same reason your ex will be more likely to respond to texts from you. However, text is also very intimate and, when used in the right way, language can spark emotions and stir up positive memories of all the good times you had together. Text also allows you to take your time. You can read over your texts before sending them and control the timing better, which means you are less likely to make blunders. These traits make text the perfect tool for getting your ex back.
How Text Your Ex Back Works
Text Your Ex Back is not a series of tips or tricks for getting your ex to go on a date with you again. Right from the outset, Fiore warns that, if your goal is to have one more hookup with your ex, then this guide is not for you. Rather, it uses a series of steps which help you understand what went wrong, set relationship goals, and reconnect with your ex, cumulatively establishing a new relationship with your ex.
I’ve got to say that this is one of the most thorough relationship guides I’ve seen yet. It has 11 different modules, which add up to something like 200+ pages of information. Don’t worry if you don’t like to read. The modules are delivered in PDF and also audio formats.
Here is what is covered in Text Your Ex Back
Module 1: Introduction
This module goes over the strategies used in the program and explains why they work. It also explains why you need to wait 30 days before contacting your ex (more on this later).
Module 2: Dumped or Dumper
This section goes over the reasons why you broke up. Be prepared for a healthy (and maybe painful) dose of honesty here!
Module 3: The Big Goal
If you don’t know what you want, then you will never be able to get it. That is why this module is so important to cover before you actually start texting your ex. The module has a great worksheet for helping you set goals and formulate a strategy of getting there.
Module 4: Flight Check
We are almost ready to start texting our ex. This module covers questions you need to ask yourself before you text. I especially found the part about “thinking of the future” important. Your old relationship is dead and you need to create a new one.
Module 5: Judo
This module is called “Judo” because it gets into strategies for writing texts which spur up her emotions.
Module 6: Across the Bow Texts
“Across the Bow” texts are the texts which set the stage for the rest of your communications with your ex. The goal is NOT to get her out on a date with you (that comes later), but rather spark the process of emotional connections. There is a great chart with a “Plan of Attack” that deals with the timing of these texts.
Module 7: Best of Relationship Texts
These texts bring up specific events in order to make her feel good about your relationship. There is lots of incredibly useful advice about the power of emotional language and how to use it.
Module 8: Green-Eyed Monster Texting
This is all about how to use jealousy in a positive way! Every man and woman should read this module!!!
Module 9: Intimacy Booster Texts
Unlike the “Best of Relationship” texts which focused on specific events, these texts bring up strong emotions to remind her how close you two were.
Module 10: Watering the Tree
This module is all about how to use real emotions to reestablish a connection with your ex and start building up a new relationship (emphasis on new relationship). This is also where we go from virtual to physical, and the module gives very specific strategies for getting him or her out on a date with you.
Module 11: Text Strategies
In this final module, you learn some more text strategies to help you with each of the steps of reconnecting with your ex and building a new relationship.
What Makes This System Different
I’ve read a lot of guides about how to get your ex back. Some of these are actually full of useful advice for getting your ex on a date with you (read our review of the Ex Recovery System). But Text Your Ex Back is very clear that the goal is NOT to have a hookup with your ex. The goal is to build meaningful relationships with your ex! Thus, one of the core principles of the system is the 30 Day No-Contact Rule.
The 30 Day No-Contact Rule is exactly what it sounds like. You aren’t allowed to start texting your ex until you have gone a full 30 days without any contact with her. That’s right. Zip. Zilch. Zero contact!
Why the 30 Day No-Contact Rule?
The rule works because:
- Your emotions will have calmed down
- Your ex’s emotions will have calmed down
- Gives you time to start working on yourself and get your confidence back
Fiore knows that this is going to be hard for a lot of people since we suffer after a breakup and feel like we have to see him or her. But, if you contact your ex too soon, then your emotions will probably get the better of you and you will make critical mistakes like dredging up old wounds, or you could even end up seeming stalkerish. After 30 days, any wounds should have healed and it will be easier to remind your ex of all the positive, wonderful moments you shared together.
Just as importantly, the 30 Day No-Contact rule gives you time to get your life together. After all, you will need to be confident and stable before you can build a healthy relationship.
*Note that there are some exceptions to this rule, like if you have kids together. Fiore addresses these exceptions in the guide.
What I Like about Text Your Ex Back
First off, I LOVE that Text Your Ex Back isn’t just a series of tricks to get a date or hookup with your ex. It is a system for reestablishing communication with your ex and building a new relationship. This is not a guide for people who only want their ex back because of vanity or ego!
I also love that the guide is so easy to follow. The modules are broken down in a way which clearly takes you through the process and explains each of the steps integral for making a new relationship with your ex (remember, we are throwing the old relationship out the window!).
Other things which I really liked about Text Your Ex Back include:
- Audio and PDF formats: Great because you can read through the content at your own pace, or review the content on your iPod or while driving in your car, etc.
- Worksheets for the Modules: Almost all of the modules have worksheets which help you understand the content of the module and devise a strategy for putting it to use
- Real-Life Examples: Each module starts off with real-life scenarios. This is great for putting your relationship in perspective and helping to understand the lessons of each module.
- Well-Written and Great Design: This is seriously important because it makes going through the modules enjoyable rather than seeming like a chore!
- System Works for Ex Girlfriends, Boyfriends and Spouses: Because this is a system and not a script, it can be adapted to any ex you have – including men, women, and spouses.
What I Don’t Like about Text Your Ex Back
I think a lot of people are going to have a problem with the 30 Day No-Contact Rule. Actually, this is something which I really like about the guide and what makes it work. But, the rule will probably put a lot of people off because they are still hurting and want their ex back now. If you can’t wait, then download one of those series of tricks for getting your ex back – just don’t expect those tricks to last in the long run.
Overall, I am really pleased with this guide. The only noteworthy critique I have is that I wish there were more examples of actual texts (not just the real-life scenarios which are given at the start of each module). There are some really good examples, but Fiore mostly focuses on strategy so you can come up with your own texts instead.
Why Does This System Work?
While I personally haven’t put this system to work, I have no doubt it works. Why? Because it helps you understand the reasons you broke up in the first place so you can avoid them in the future. It also helps you understand your larger relationship goals: if you know what you want, then you are more likely to get it!
As for the actual text-based strategies laid out in the guide, they are based on a careful psychological system. You aren’t going to get your ex back with one or two texts. But, if you follow the steps, you are almost certain to rebuild a rapport with your ex and build up a new relationship. The system works regardless of how you ended things with your ex – whether in a screaming fit of rage or as friends.
Of course, the Text Your Ex Back system only takes you so far. It will help you reconnect with your ex and even set the foundation of your new relationship, but it is still up to you to not blow it again! But, since the first modules of the guide address the reasons you broke up, you are more likely to keep your ex once you get back together.
What is Included with Text Your Ex Back?
When you buy Text Your Ex Back, you will get:
- All 11 modules of the system
- Audio transcripts of the modules
- Worksheets and plenty of examples
- 60-Day Satisfaction Guarantee!
A note about the 60-Day Satisfaction Guarantee: This is a 100% satisfaction guarantee. That means that, if for any reason you don’t like the guide, you can simply ask for a refund. You’ve got 60 days to ask for the refund, so there is plenty of time to go over the system and put it to use, even taking into account the 30 Day No-Contact Rule.
And, if you act now, you can even get some bonuses with your order, including:
- 100 Ready-to-Use Texts
- Infidelity Buster
- Instant Forgiveness
- Facebook Romance Secrets
Is It Worth It?
Text Your Ex Back is one of the most comprehensive, well-written guides on the subject of how to get your ex back. If you are willing to put in the work to build a meaningful relationship with your ex, then this guide is definitely worth buying. Since there is a money-back guarantee, you’ve got nothing to lose by buying it (but a whole lot to gain!).