Despite the fact that cheating is an extremely frowned upon act, we are cheating more than ever before. It’s like we have entered a “Golden Age” of cheating. Ask any of your friends, co-workers, and even your existing girlfriend, if they have cheated on someone before. They will all probably tell you they didn’t. But, it’s also likely that they are lying. The truth is that cheating is way more common than you think. How common is it you may ask?
According to Andrea Miller, author of the book Radical Acceptance: The Secret To Happy, Lasting Love, in partnership with Ashley Madison, is trying to find an answer. They surveyed more than 1,300 people to get a clear picture of the current state of relationships and marriage across the world, and the results are truly fascinating. The survey revealed that 64 percent of individuals had been victims of cheating.
So what’s the deal? Why are people unfaithful? The survey showed that 51 percent of people think people cheat because of superficial reasons. They said that people cheat on their partners because they want more sex or just find cheating exciting. But the real cause of individuals committing infidelity is a bit more complicated than that. The results of the survey showed that 65 percent of respondents admit that mutually satisfying sex is essential for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. That's fine by all means, but here's where it gets interesting. The survey unveiled that 85 percent of respondents said that they want to have sex multiple times a week when they are in a relationship. However, only 38 percent actually have sex that many times, according to the survey. So, that means a lot of couples who are married or in a relationship are having unsatisfactory sex.
That’s not all. There are other reasons people cheat and it’s more than sex. Sure, sex is important, but the emotional connection in the relationship is much more important. The topic of emotional connection becomes a priority when a couple is thinking about getting married or hoping to take their relationship to the next level. But things are dim here. According to the survey, sadly, only 49 percent of participants are emotionally well-off in their current relationship.
Relationship expert Charles J. Orlando said that one of the primary reasons for women cheating on their husbands or boyfriends is lack of attention from their partners and contentment. Charles also said that he found women telling him they cheated on their spouses because they felt emotionally and physically unsatisfied. They were looking for passion and physical satisfaction and their partners failed them in that department. They feel lonely, less valued, less desired, and their partners won’t touch, talk or have sex with them.
Another form of cheating is an emotional affair. Men and women, who are not experiencing physical intimacy in their relationship, will have a physical affair. When they are not experiencing emotional intimacy in their relationship, they will have an emotional affair. The survey reported that 25 percent of individuals don’t feel sexually satisfied in their relationships or marriages, and 27 percent are left emotionally unfulfilled. This demonstrated that emotional connection is crucial to prevent cheating and are key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship or marriage.