When it comes to dating, some people like to play by the rules. There are certain dating rules that seem to be as old as time. People are following rules that were made up decades ago, and then wondering why their love life isn't working out the way they had hoped. We are here to tell you that it's time to move forward! The dating scene has changed and so have the rules! We've got five old dating rules that you absolutely need to ditch:
1. Guys Always Making the First Move
Ladies, it is time to take the reigns! It is a whole new world out there, my friends. You no longer have to wait for men to make the first move. It is totally and absolutely okay for you to approach a guy you're interested in and ask him for a date. Back in the day, women would obsess over sending a guy signals, hoping to encourage him to ask them out. Thankfully, that's a thing of the past. If you like a guy, ask him out. In this new day and age, he'll find it attractive how forward and confident you are.
2. Setting Ridiculous Standards
This is definitely one of the old dating rules that has got to go! We're not saying you need to drop all your standards and settle for just anyone, but you do need cut people some slack. It's okay to have some basic standards, like a potential partner needing to have a job and a car. However, if your standards are that they're a doctor with a Mercedes, you need to reconsider how high you set the bar. If your standards are freakishly high, you need to evaluate what's really important to you and set new standards.
3. Making Sure Their Friends and Family Like You
There's some skepticism surrounding this rule. Obviously you want your partner's friends and family to like you, but you don't need to bend over backwards to make that happen. It used to be that someone would jump through a million hoops to get the approval of their partner's friends and family. That's no longer the case, and rightfully so. If your partner's friends and family don't like you (for no good reason), then that's fine. You're not dating them. You should focus on how your partner feels about you, not how their friends and family feel.
4. Not Sleeping Together On the First Date
This is one of the old dating rules that we are so happy to do away with. Back in the day, if you slept together on the first date, well…there was a certain “image” it would convey. Fortunately, this idea seems to have died off over the years. In fact, it's actually considered practical to sleep with someone on the first date, because it shows you early on if you have sexual compatibility. If the sex is awful, you can bail on the situation before either person develops feelings.
5. Waiting Three Days to Contact Them After a Date
This has always been one of the dumbest dating rules, but so many people follow it! After a date, you don't want to come on too strong or seem desperate, so you wait at least three days to contact the other person. We want you to know: it is time to ditch this rule. This rule only confuses both people involved and makes you both think that the other person isn't interested. It turns into a stand-off of who will contact the other one first. Not only is this silly and childish, but stressful, too! So go ahead and contact the guy or girl you just went out with last night. Odds are they'll be glad to hear from you and it will lead to a second date sooner!