Here are two things you never thought you'd hear about in the same story: Jeff Bezos and sex. The Amazon CEO has been in the headlines non-stop after some racy text messages he exchanged with his current girlfriend became public in light of his recent divorce. While some people are writing them off as your averages “sexts” (sexy texts/sex texts…in case you've been living under a rock), but others are calling them creepy and embarrassing.
However you feel about Jeff Bezos and his sexting, it has to be acknowledged that sexting has become a staple in the modern dating world. Some people exchange them with their long-term partners. Some people exchange them with a casual fling. Some people even exchange them with someone they've never met. While sexting may be a huge part of modern romance and how two people well, get things going, we can't help but wonder if it's always a good idea to send a sext…
How do you know if you should send someone a sexy text message? Well, there are a few questions you should ask yourself before you hit “send.” First, do you trust this person? For many people, a being sexual is a very vulnerable thing. You are putting yourself out there in a way that you would not want everyone in the world to see. Whether it be dirty talk or a racy picture, you probably want your message to only be seen by the person you're sending it to. So can you trust that this person will not share whatever you send with other people?
The next question you should ask yourself is: Do I have anything to lose? If these are ever seen by anyone else, what impact could it have on my life? It may sound weird, but sexting can be putting certain aspects of your life at risk. For instance, some people have actually lost their jobs because of inappropriate texts that became public. If certain sexts are revealed, especially nude photographs, you can suffer severe consequences in terms of you job, family life, social life, and reputation in general.
So when is it okay to send a sext to someone? The answer is ultimately up to you, but if you're looking to us for advice, here's what we think: Sexting is safest when it is with a long-term partner or spouse. When you have been together for some time, you most likely trust one another enough to share these types of messages. It is very unlikely that your relationship is going to end and the other person is going to share your messages as some sort of revenge. This is, unfortunately, a phenomenon that happens often for people who have sexted someone in a short-lived or casual relationship. On the other hand, in a trusting partnership, sexting can be a fun way to add some excitement to your relationship.