Relationships go down mainly when communication breaks down, blaming each other instead of taking accountability, trust is destroyed, and failure to show appreciation for each other. So, what can you do not to allow these problems creep into your existing relationships? Here are some surprising insights.
• We make our own choices. We make them every day. We have the choice of being in relationships with the people we meet. We have the option to make a person smile, laugh, change or motivate him or her, etc. We have the choice to treat people around us better. Think about how many times you failed to connect with someone when you met him or her, or making a good friend because you failed to smile, or to say ‘hello,’ or do something nice for them. Remember, proactive choices always bring in good results.
• Trust people. Things would have been much better if we started to treat people with good intentions and trusted them more. Trust is essential if you want to have a healthy and long-term relationship. If you trusted your partner more, suspicion disappears, and the possibilities of misinterpreting your partner’s opinions, behavior and action decrease. Trust people more, unless you have a good reason not to trust.
• Don’t have expectations of other people. You’re the controller of your life. Don’t put expectations on other people or your boyfriend/girlfriend, unless you want to see yourself set for disappointment and failure. We can encourage others, challenge them, and hold them responsible for their actions, but eventually, we will get disappointed or discouraged if we keep expecting things from them. Instead, we need to focus on your own qualities, time, energy, and our own impact on our relationships. Now, see the results unfold for itself.
• Be thankful. Be thankful and appreciate all the good things that have happened to in your relationship. When we realize how much we have to be thankful for, and actively and compassionate understand and recognize those things, we become happier.
• Living life to the fullest doesn’t exist. Most people always like to relish only the pain and the agony in their relationships excluding all the good things their relationships have given them. They like to talk about all the bad things that have happened to them or how their partners are making them feel miserable. Then there are the usual banters about finances, why the other partner is less responsible in the relationship, and so on. The truth is we all can have happy and fulfilling lives if we choose to, despite all the chaos or how pessimistic things are around us. Don’t be the victim. It's impossible to control what will happen to you, but you can control how you react to it.
• People are beautiful. It’s your responsibility to find the beauty in them. Many men and women looking for a relationship approach their dates with an expectation and to prove themselves how great they are. They only tell about themselves, and after the date, you start wondering that the other person didn’t ask anything about you, your life, or your interests. It’s upsetting and exhausting. Instead, you’ll feel better about yourself if you be curious and have the desire to learn more about other people.