There will be problems in relationships, even in the best relationships. But have you thought that a lot of the issues in relationships, particularly the recurring ones, are the outcome of people getting involved in a relationship that isn’t right for them?Even if the relationship looks amazing
or the both partners feel happy and satisfied, that doesn’t always mean that it’s the perfect kind of relationship for you.
We have seen many couples staying in ill relationships, and when asked why they are still in relationships that aren't right for them, the answers they gave are quite obvious – it's no big deal, my friends love them, my family loves them, etc. Some couples say that there’s nothing necessarily wrong with it. Some say that they don’t want to be alone and decided to put up with this one as they don’t think they could find a better fit. When asked how they ended up with a relationship that is a poor fit for them, most said they just started dating, and this was the best they could do.
Here’s what we think – if you want something that fits you well, you’ll have to know what fits you in the first place. For instance, if you’re a guy with an athletic body, wearing something big and bulky isn’t going to make you look good. The same thing applies if you’re a curvy woman. So, in both cases, you need to wear something that’s more structured and tailored. Over the course of their lives, men and women eventually figure out what types of clothes tend to fit them well. But, we don’t think that most people intend to put the same effort into figuring out what’s a good fit for them or what works for them when it comes to relationships or choosing partners. We also see that men and women are trying for many years to fit themselves into relationships that aren’t exactly right for them. Most people would date individuals who looked good on paper, but didn’t have the qualities they wanted in reality.
For some people it can take many months or years to figure out what kind of partner they want. It’s a long, hard process of self-exploration that’s worth it. Why? Because by then you’ll be able to be more selective and ensure that your relationship is actually the one you always wanted. If you want to have a fantastic and healthy relationship, we have to spare some time and effort at knowing ourselves.
If you can’t trust yourselves and aren’t being true to yourselves, then we can safely say that you are not participating in the relationship. And if we don’t know what we want from a romantic relationship and want makes us truly happy, then the chances of accidentally getting involved in one are pretty small. So, before you embark on a new relationship, take some time to think about what you want and need to do if you want to see yourself in a happy and long-lasting relationship.