To have children and dating someone new can be hard. And things get even more confusing and tough if you’re thinking to meet your date. However, if you’re dating with integrity and dignity, things shouldn’t be too hard. Anyways, here are three signs that you should look out for to decide if it’s time to introduce your child or children to your new love interest.
1. The commitment is genuine and for the long-haul
If you’re casually dating and don’t have any upcoming plans for a long-term relationship, then it’s unimportant to introduce your kids to your date. Making your kids to meet your one partner after another continually will only confuse them. If you’ve met someone and went to dates with him for two or three times, don’t ask him to pick you up from your place, when your kids are around. Never take you kids to dates, even if your guy is comfortable with it. If you’re dating someone for two or three months and he has agreed to commit to an exclusive relationship, then it’s okay for your children to meet him. Introduce him as your friend rather than your boyfriend at first. Keep it slow at first, and don’t allow him to get involved in your kids life and daily activities right away. Instead, invite him to join you and your kids activities once or twice a month, depending on how older your kids are.
2. Introduce your kids to your new date after discussing it with your partner
If it’s time for your children to get acquainted with your date, have a discussion about it with your spouse. Ask him if he’s ready to get to know your kids. If your partner has expressed an interest in meeting your children and blending both the families, it’s an indication that he’s ready for it. This should also make you prepared to introduce your kids to him as well. A partner who is accepting of your children and willing to meet them is someone you need to keep on holding.
3. Only think about introducing your partner to your kids if you feel they’ll feel comfortable
Only think about introducing your partner when you feel prepared to handle any reaction from your kids they’re going to have after seeing him. If you’re in a committed, long-term relationship, there’s no doubt your children will immensely benefit from it. But, that doesn’t mean that you’ll have to compromise everything for your partner. Most children hope that someday their father and mother will reunite. But, when they see a new man, they grasp with accepting the reality. Therefore, it is advised that your keep every line of communication open with your kids and reassure them that your partner will never replace their dad. Instead, make your children understand that their mom loves them very much and you want love too, which is missing in your life, and neither they nor their father can give you.
Relationships are full of bumps and bruises all way, and dating while being parents is one of them. However, if you date right from the start, then you’ll notice a positive impact on your relationship, your happiness, your partner, and your kids. So, be prepared if he knows you ins and outs, even know your secret desire and value your choice.