We learn most life lessons in the present, but when it comes to love and relationships, we learn most of our “love lessons” when it’s too late. Let’s be honest, when love lessons hit us, it hits us hard. Sometimes, for women, these love lessons need to hit them for a few times before they can fully grasp the underlying truth behind it!
You can’t make someone love you. The best you can to be someone who can be loved. The remaining part rests with them. The thing you can find someone with your mind and soul, but some people won’t just care about it. This doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or them. Both parties are okay, and it’s not the end of the world. Some ladies in order to get love and affection from other men or their boyfriends have sacrificed their identity and personalities and who they’re as a person.
Ultimately their hearts gets crushed when they realize that the man for whom they’ve loved and sacrificed so much doesn’t return the favor. This is totally unfortunate and sad. They take this rejection very personally and they that there is something was wrong with them, or they aren’t good enough for them. This is untrue. Remember, it is not your duty to make someone love you, but it is up to you to become the best version of yourself. This way men around you can see and feel who you are and decide if they want to have someone like you to a part of their life or not.
People only give their version of love, not the one you expect or think. This is a crucial thing to learn for every woman looking for love or already in a relationship, and for those who are thinking to change how their boyfriends or partners expresses his love or behaves toward her. We are all different in our habits and personalities. We all have our unique way of showing and expressing love to someone. You can try to make your partner love you in the way you like and want, but it will not work. This is one of the mysteries of love. Therefore, stop telling others how they must love you. Let them be themselves. After all, love is an expression of their one’s soul. Instead be thankful and appreciate your partner the way he loves you.
Unconditional love isn’t only the key for a happy and long-lasting relationship; it’s also the best approach to finding happiness for yourself. Giving unconditional love is challenging given the fact that we have mastered the art of giving and receiving conditional love, not to mention that we are always judging and criticizing someone else.
If we could stop judging and criticizing one another, we would inevitably experience what true unconditional love is all about. Now we have made that clear if you don’t love yourself unconditionally, you won’t be fully capable of loving someone the way he or she wants to. So, start loving yourself without any conditions and do the same thing with your significant other.