Successful relationships can be made and broken in how you treat each your partner every day. It’s often the small and simple things such as your attitude, how you resolve the conflicts, and what your focus is on the relationship is that will eventually keep you together or push you apart. But how can you mess up the harmony in your relationship?
Here are five unwanted habits that create negativity in your relationship and will tear it apart:
You Always Worry About What Other People Think
When it comes to relationships every person’s wants and needs are different. So, don’t obsess of what other people need or what your friends are doing. Instead, focus on forging a relationship with your significant other that works for the both of you.
Your Ego Gets In Your Way
Most couples while arguing with each other get caught up in trying to be right in the argument. This is one of the biggest mistakes most couples do. In an argument if your focus is in trying to prove your partner wrong and forcing them to acknowledge that you're right, you lose direction of what you're actually trying to do in the first place; resolve a problem. Therefore, let go of your ego. Focus on establishing a space where both of you can express your concerns over the problem. Communicate and work with your spouse as a team to find a solution that works for the both of you.
You Allow Your Past To Define You Or Your Partner
Your exes and past relationships shouldn't be used as a yardstick for your existing relationship. Just because your past relationships failed doesn’t mean that your current relationship will fail too. Instead, you’ll be much better off if you can learn from your mistakes and make different, yet wise choices. Your girlfriend can forget her past too. Never think of using her past against her for your interests in the relationship. Concentrate on your present and future together.
You Hold Grudges And Resentments
Holding onto your grievances and resentments, both old and new, can poison your relationship over time. If you want to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship, you can’t have any walls between you and your partner, and grudges build invisible barriers. These negatives emotions will prevent you from expressing your true feelings towards your spouse. When you’re upset or angry about something from the past, you can't emotionally connect with your girlfriend or enjoy any intimacy – physical and emotional. So, if you want to have a happy and stable relationship – learn how to forgive, forget, and let go of grudges and resentments.
You Try To Change Her
Love your partner for who she is. Don’t try to change or fix your girlfriend, and turn her into someone else. If you attempt to change her, you’re, subconsciously, rejecting her for who she is and sending a message that she isn't good enough to be your significant other. So, if you’re looking for a relationship always aim to create a relationship full of love, care, support and acceptance that will inspire both of you to grow and evolve in the relationship.