You’ve cheated. It’s bad. You also don’t know how to get out from this mess and move on. When this is the first time or the second time, something has to change in your life and your relationship. Before you make another move, go through the following guidelines. They might save from making an already bad decision even worse.
1. Confess Or Keep Quiet?
Whether you’ve cheated in the past or present, confessing your transgressions is the best option for both of you and your partner to move on. If you confess, be prepared as there will be a lot of pain on both sides. You will hurt your girlfriend or boyfriend, and there are chances that the relationship will end right away. Your partner may lash out at you, and attack you on many issues so that you may also taste some of the pain he or she is feeling. He or she may also tell about their own past affairs entirely unrelated to the situation, simply to hurt you emotionally. So, don’t assume that your confession will make things okay again, but do it no matter what, so that you can end or repair your relationship on a solid footing.
2. Repair It Or End It?
The answer depends on the circumstances of your relationship. If you’re married and have kids, then the advice will be different than the one for someone who has been dating someone for a few weeks or months. When you’re married with children, and there are many people involved in the relationship, ensure that you think long and hard for every single person in the relationship, who will have to face the consequences of your decision. Meanwhile, if you’ve been dating for a few months, your decision at best will affect only you and your partner. Now, if you want to remain in the relationship, you’ve got a lot to prove. Since trust once broken is very hard to get back especially in romantic relationships and marriages; you’ve to work a lot to get it back.
3. Identify What Went Wrong
Most men and women cheat, not because they want to, but because they want to get something from it, which has been missing in their current relationships or life in general. So, if you’ve been unfaithful to your spouse, it’s time to ask yourself what happened or what went ashtray in the relationship, and what it’s going to take to mend it. You owe it both to yourself and your partner as well, as it’s important to heal the situation.
4. Forgive Yourself, But Don’t Expect Forgiveness
When it comes to dating and relationships, infidelity is one of the harshest things that can happen in a person’s life. So, If you're dating someone, and cheated on him or her, don’t expect your partner to forgive you or convince him or her to forgive you straight away. He or she may or may not forgive you, and if they decide to forgive they’ll do it when the time is right. Your responsibility here is to give your boyfriend or girlfriend space and time he or she needs to heal and get over this unfortunate chapter of their lives. Meanwhile, forgive yourself. You made a mistake. Don’t beat yourself up for your misbehaviors; instead, take concrete and immediate steps to clean up your behavior.